Kwa nthawi yayitali mdera lathu, Emerge Center Against Domestic Abuse yakhala ikukhazikitsa, kusamalira ndikukondwerera moyo wopanda nkhanza.

Kuyambira 1975, takhala tikupereka malo ogona ndi ntchito zothandizira, kuyesera kumva ndi kuthandiza iwo omwe miyoyo yawo ikuwonongeka ndikusokonezedwa ndi ziwawa ndi nkhanza.

Koma panjira, tidazindikira kuti mpaka titayamba kuthana ndi zomwe zimayambitsa zachiwawa mdera lathu, tikungoyala bandeji pamavuto. Ngakhale kuti ntchito zothandizira zilipo zofunika kwambiri kwa anthu komanso mabanja omwe akuzunzidwa, tikudziwa kuti kuyankha kuchitiridwa nkhanza sikudzathetsa mtsogolo.

M'madera mwathu mwadzaza chiwawa, wayankha mwachizolowezi chifukwa chazikhulupiriro, zikhulupiliro, ndi kufunikira komwe kumafotokozera mphamvu ndi udindo potha kuwongolera.

Izi ndizolumikizana kwambiri ndi njira zomwe mphamvu zimatanthauziridwa muubwenzi. 

Nthawi zambiri machitidwe omwe anthu amagwiritsa ntchito okhudzana ndi mphamvu, kuwongolera komanso kuwongolera amathandizidwa mosazindikira ndi dera lathu ndikukwaniritsa kusintha kwadongosolo ndikufika pamalingaliro oti "tisiye kuchitira nkhanza mabanja" tonsefe tifunika kuwunika momwe timagwiritsira ntchito mphamvu ndi mwayi miyoyo yathu.

Aliyense wa ife ali ndi magulu oyambira omwe timagwira nawo ntchito omwe amalimbikitsa zikhulupiliro ndi zikhulupiliro zomwe timakhala ndizofunikira ndikutsimikizira zomwe timachita.

Taphunzitsidwanso za kutsatira kutengako mbali pazochita za amuna ndi akazi zomwe zimapereka mtundu wabuluu wamalamulo omveka bwino amomwe tingawonere ndikuwachitira omwe akuwoneka kuti ndi apamwamba komanso otsika chifukwa chodziwika kuti ndi amuna kapena akazi, mtundu, malingaliro azakugonana kapena dzina lina.

Monga anthu payekhapayekha timavomereza kapena mosazindikira kuti kulamulira ndi nkhanza ndi machitidwe achilengedwe amphamvu ndi mwayi. Ndikofunika kuzindikira kuti machitidwe ambiri omwe anthu amagwiritsa ntchito si "osaloledwa" kapena sagwirizana ndi tanthauzo lalamulo la nkhanza / nkhanza, koma akuwongolera kapena kuchitira nkhanza kutanthauzira ndi cholinga chotsimikizira mphamvu ndi mwayi.

Izi zitha kuphatikizanso kukhala chete pamaso pazomwe ena akuchita ndipo ndi njira yovomerezera ndikulimbikitsa.

Yakwana nthawi yoti mdera lathu libwere pamodzi ndikuchitapo kanthu kuti athetse nkhanza ndi nkhanza zamtundu uliwonse.

Ziwawa zidzatha tikamafuna kuti zithe, monga gulu. Nkhanza zidzatha tikayamba kulankhulana za zomwe takumana nazo, tikayamba kumverana wina ndi mnzake za zosowa zathu. Ku Tucson, ziwawa zidzatha tikayamba kulumikizana ndi nkhokwe zowawa zomwe tonsefe tili nazo chifukwa cha ziwawa za mdera lathu. Titha kuzichita tikakhala okonzeka.

Pali mayitanidwe omwe aperekedwa kuti athetse zachiwawa, kuti athetse, ndikupanga gulu lomwe chikondi, ulemu ndi chitetezo ndizofunikira komanso ufulu wosasunthika kwa aliyense mumzinda uno.

Funso silofunika kwenikweni kuti tichite chiyani, koma, kodi ndife okonzeka kuchita kanthu?