Ukuqonda Iimpawu Zokuxhaphaza
Ukuchonga amaqhinga okuxhatshazwa xa ubudlelwane buziva bungekho mpilweni okanye bengakhuselekanga kunokuziva kubhideke kwaye kugqithise. Iimpawu ezilumkisayo zinokubonakala nangaliphi na ixesha kubudlelwane: imihla embalwa yokuqala, ukuzibophelela kwexesha elide, okanye ukuba batshatile.
Iiflegi ezibomvu ezingezantsi zizalathisi ezibonisa ukuba ubudlelwane okanye bunokuba buxhatshazo. Ngokuzimeleyo, ezi zisenokungabi zizibonakaliso ezinamandla. Nangona kunjalo, xa uninzi lwezi zisenzeka ngokudibeneyo, zinokuthi ziqikelele ukuxhatshazwa kwasekhaya, nto leyo i-Emerge eyichaza njenge indlela yokuziphatha ngokunyanzeliswa oko kunokubandakanya ukusetyenziswa okanye ukoyikiswa kobundlobongela kunye nokoyikisa injongo yokufumana amandla kunye nolawulo ngaphezu komnye umntu. Ukuxhatshazwa kwasekhaya kunokuba njalo ngokwasemzimbeni, ngokwasengqondweni, ngokwesondo okanye ngokwezoqoqosho.
Ukuxelela iqabane indlela yokwenza iinwele zabo, into yokunxiba, ukunyanzelisa ukukhapha iqabane ukuya kwidinga, ukuba nomsindo ngokugqithiseleyo ukuba iqabane labo lifike emva kwexesha okanye alifumaneki.
Ukuba nolindelo olungekho ngqiqweni lwezakhono, ukunika isohlwayo esiqatha.
Ukuthetha ngokungenambeko kwiqabane, ukuba krwada ekulindeni abasebenzi, ukucinga ukuba bangaphezulu okanye benza izinto eziphakamileyo kunabanye, ukujongela phantsi abanye, ukungabahloniphi ngaphandle kwabanye abanemvelaphi eyahlukileyo yentlalo, inkolo, uhlanga, njl.
Ukuba nembali yobundlobongela kubudlelwane obudlulileyo kuxela kwangaphambili ubundlobongela kubudlelwane bexesha elizayo.
Ukulawula ixesha leqabane, ukonakaliswa kobudlelwane beqabane kunye nosapho / abahlobo, ukufowuna / ukuthumela imiyalezo ukujonga iqabane.
Ukuba nokuguquka kwemizwelo eqhumayo (ukusuka kulonwabo ukuya kubuhlungu ukuya kumsindo ukuya kwimincili ngexesha elifutshane), ukukhwaza kunye nokujonga izinto ezincinci, ungacingi ngemiphumo yezenzo.
Ukubonakalisa ukuba nezinto ngokugqithiseleyo, ukudlula ngokungalindelekanga, ukuba nabahlobo “eliso” kwiqabane, ukutyhola iqabane ngokuncwasa abanye, ukuzingxengxezela ngehambo yomona ngokuthi “kungenxa yothando.”
Ukuphepha ukuthatha uxanduva lwezenzo, ukugxeka abanye ngeengxaki kunye neemvakalelo, ukukhanyela okanye ukunciphisa ukuziphatha okubi kunye / okanye ubundlobongela, ukwenza iqabane lizive linoxanduva lokuxhatshazwa okwenzekayo.
Ukutyhala iqabane ukuba lizibophelele kubudlelwane ngokukhawuleza, ukuleqa iqabane ukuba lingene, litshate, okanye libe nabantwana ngaphambi kokuba iqabane likulungele.
Ukuthetha izinto ezinjengalezi: “Ndiya kuzibulala ukuba unokundishiya,” okanye, “ukuba andinakuba nawe, akukho mntu uya kwenjenjalo.” Ukuchitha izoyikiso ngamagqabaza afana nala: “Bendiqhula/bendingazimiselanga.”
Ukulindela ukuba iqabane labo ligqibelele kwaye lihlangabezane nazo zonke iimfuno zabo, okanye lihambelane neendima zesini ezingqongqo, okanye ukuziva ukuba iimfuno zabo ziza ngaphambi kweemfuno zeqabane labo.
Ukuba neseti eyahlukileyo yemithetho kunye nolindelo kwiqabane labo kunye neziqu zabo.
Unetyala lokukhubekisa iqabane ukuba lilale ngesondo, libonisa inkxalabo encinci malunga nokuba iqabane liyafuna okanye alifuni ukwabelana ngesondo.