Sekuyisikhathi eside kangaka emphakathini wethu, i-Emerge Center Against Domestic Abuse ikhona ukudala, ukugcina nokugubha impilo engenakho ukuhlukunyezwa.

Kusukela ngo-1975, besilokhu sihlinzeka ngezinsiza zokukhosela nezokungenelela, sizama ukuzwa nokusiza labo izimpilo zabo ezazicekelwa phansi futhi zaphazanyiswa wudlame nokuhlukunyezwa.

Kepha endleleni, sabona ukuthi size siqale ukubhekana nezimbangela zodlame emphakathini wethu, simane sibeka i-bandaid kule nkinga. Yize ukuba nezinsizakalo zokusekelwa ezitholakalayo kubaluleke kakhulu kubantu ngabanye nasemindenini ehlukunyezwa, siyazi ukuthi ukuphendula ukuhlukunyezwa ngeke kukuvimbe esikhathini esizayo.

Imiphakathi yethu igcwele udlame, sekuyimpendulo ejwayelekile egxile ekucabangeni, ekukholweni, nasenanini elichaza amandla nezinga ngokwazi ukubusa nokulawula.

Lokhu kuxhumene ngokwendlela nezindlela amandla achazwa ngayo ebuhlotsheni. 

Imvamisa izindlela zokuziphatha ezisetshenziswa ngabantu ezihlobene namandla, ukubusa nokulawula zisekelwa umphakathi wethu zingahlosile futhi ukufeza ushintsho oluhlelekile futhi empeleni sifinyelele emcabangweni "wokumisa ukuhlukunyezwa kwasekhaya" sonke kudingeka sihlole izindlela esisebenzisa ngazo amandla nelungelo ezethu izimpilo.

Ngamunye wethu unemiphakathi eyinhloko esisebenza kuyo futhi eqinisa izinkolelo namagugu esiwaphethe njengawumgogodla futhi ngenxa yalokho aqinisekisa ukuziphatha kwethu.

Siphinde safundiswa ngokuhambisana nezindima zobulili ezijwayelekile ezinikezela ngophawu oluhlaza okwesibhakabhaka lwemithetho ecacile yokuthi ungababona kanjani futhi ubaphathe kanjani labo ababonwa njengabakhulu nabaphansi ngenxa yobunikazi bobulili, ubuhlanga, ukuthanda ezocansi noma enye ilebula.

Njengabantu ngabanye samukela ngokungazi noma ngokungazi ukuthi ukubusa nobudlova kungukubonakaliswa kwemvelo kwamandla nelungelo. Kubalulekile ukuqaphela ukuthi izindlela eziningi zokuziphatha ezisetshenziswa ngabantu azikho “emthethweni” noma azihambelani nencazelo esemthethweni yokuhlukumeza / udlame, kepha zilawula noma zihlukumeza ngencazelo ngenhloso yokuqinisa amandla nelungelo.

Lokhu kungafaka nokuhlala uthule lapho uziphatha komunye umuntu futhi kuyindlela yokuvuma nokuqiniswa.

Isikhathi sokuthi umphakathi wethu uhlangane wenze okuthile ukuqeda ukuhlukunyezwa nodlame lwazo zonke izinhlobo.

Udlame luzophela lapho sifuna luphele, njengomphakathi. Udlame luzophela lapho siqala ukukhuluma nomunye mayelana nokuhlangenwe nakho kwethu, lapho siqala ukulalelana ngezidingo zethu. E-Tucson, udlame luzophela lapho siqala ukuxhuma echibini lobuhlungu sonke esinalo ngenxa yodlame lomphakathi wethu. Singakwenza lapho sesikulungele.

Kunocingo oluphumile ukubhekana nodlame, ukuluqeda, nokwakha umphakathi lapho uthando, inhlonipho nokuphepha kubalulekile futhi amalungelo angaphunyuki kuwo wonke umuntu kuleli dolobha.

Umbuzo awusho nokuthi yini okufanele siyenze kodwa, kunalokho, ingabe sizimisele ukwenza okuthile?