Rubutaccen yanki daga Samari ga Maza

                  Duk da yake an yi ta muhawara mai yawa game da abubuwan tunawa da lokacin yakin basasa, mawakiyar Nashville Caroline Williams a kwanan nan ta tunatar da mu game da abin da ba a kulawa da shi a wannan batun: fyade, da al'adun fyade. A cikin OpEd mai taken, “Kuna son Alamar Hadin Kai? Jikina Abin Tunawa Ce, ”Tana yin waiwaye akan tarihin bayan inuwar fatarta mai launin ruwan kasa. "Kamar yadda tarihin dangi ya fada koyaushe, kuma kamar yadda gwajin zamani na DNA ya ba ni damar tabbatarwa, ni zuriyar matan bakar fata ne wadanda suka kasance bayin gida da kuma fararen maza wadanda suka yi wa taimakonsu fyade." Jikinta da rubuce rubucensu suna aiki tare azaman fuskantar sakamako na gaskiya na umarnin zamantakewar da Amurka take girmamawa a al'adance, musamman idan ya shafi matsayin jinsi. Duk da yawan bayanan da ke fitowa wanda ke danganta zamantakewar jinsi na gargajiya na yara maza zuwa wasu rikice-rikicen kiwon lafiyar jama'a da tashe-tashen hankula, a yau, a duk fadin Amurka, har ila yau yara maza kan taso ne a kan wata tsohuwar dokar Amurka da ta ce: "mutum ya tashi."

                   Bayyanar da Williams ta samu a lokacinda ta dace da tarihin dangin ta ya tunatar da mu cewa nuna banbanci da nuna bambancin launin fata koyaushe suna tafiya hannu da hannu. Idan muna son fuskantar ko dai, dole ne mu fuskanci duka biyun. Wani ɓangare na yin hakan shine sanin cewa akwai sosai bisa al'ada abubuwa da ayyukan da ke lalata rayuwar yau da kullun a yau a Amurka waɗanda ke ci gaba da tallafawa al'adun fyade. Wannan ba game da mutummutumai bane, Williams ya tunatar da mu, amma game da yadda muke so mu haɗu da al'adun tarihi na mamayar da ke ba da hujja da daidaita tashin hankalin mata.

                   Forauki misali, wasan barkwanci na soyayya, wanda yaron da aka ƙi ya shiga tsayin daka don cin nasarar ƙaunar yarinyar da ba ta da sha'awar sa-shawo kan juriya a ƙarshe tare da wata alama ta soyayya. Ko kuma hanyoyin da ake ɗaga yara maza don yin jima'i, ko menene tsada. Tabbas, halayen da muka saba sanyawa yara samari a kowace rana, waɗanda suke da alaƙa da ra'ayoyi na dogon lokaci game da “maza na ainihi,” sune ginshiki da babu makawa ga al'adun fyade.

                   Abubuwan da ke bayyane, galibi ba a bincika su, ƙimomin da ke ƙunshe cikin ƙa'idar al'adu don “mutum ya tashi” wani ɓangare ne na mahalli wanda a ke horar da maza don cire haɗin kai da rage darajar ji, don girmama ƙarfi da cin nasara, da kuma ƙarancin ikon policean sanda. don maimaita waɗannan ƙa'idodi. Mayar da hankalina ga kwarewar wasu (da nawa) tare da umarni na cin nasara da samun nawa shine yadda na koyi zama namiji. Ayyukan al'ada na mamaya sun danganta labarin da Williams ke fadawa ga al'adun da ke yanzu yayin da ɗan ƙaramin ɗan shekaru 3 ya wulakanta shi da babban wanda yake so don kuka lokacin da ya ji zafi, tsoro, ko tausayi: “yara maza ba sa kuka ”(Yara sun watsar da ji).

                  Koyaya, motsi don kawo ƙarshen ɗaukaka mulki yana girma, shima. A cikin Tucson, a cikin mako guda, a duk makarantun yanki guda 17 da kuma wurin tsare yara, kusan horarwa 60, manyan mazaje daga kowane yanki sun zauna don shiga cikin tattaunawar rukuni tare da yara matasa 200 a matsayin wani ɓangare na aikin yara maza zuwa Maza Tucson. Ga yawancin waɗannan yara maza, wannan shine kawai wuri a cikin rayuwarsu inda ba shi da haɗari su bar tsare kansu, su faɗi gaskiya game da yadda suke ji, kuma su nemi tallafi. Amma ire-iren wadannan dabarun suna bukatar samun karin karfi daga dukkan bangarorin al'ummar mu idan har za mu maye gurbin al'adun fyade da al'adun yardar da ke inganta aminci da adalci ga kowa. Muna buƙatar taimakon ku don faɗaɗa wannan aikin.

                A ranar 25, 26, da 28 na Oktoba, Boys to Men Tucson suna haɗin gwiwa tare da Emerge, Jami'ar Arizona da haɗin gwiwar wasu kungiyoyin al'umma don karɓar bakuncin wani taro mai banƙyama da nufin tsara al'ummominmu don ƙirƙirar mahimman hanyoyin da suka fi dacewa ga samari maza da maza- gano matasa. Wannan taron na hulɗa zai ɗauki zurfin zurfafawa cikin tasirin da ke tsara namiji da jin daɗin rai ga samari a cikin Tucson. Wannan babban wuri ne inda muryar ku da goyan bayan ku zasu iya taimaka mana kawo canji mai yawa a cikin nau'in al'adun da ke akwai ga tsara mai zuwa idan ya shafi jinsi, daidaito, da adalci. Muna gayyatarku da ku kasance tare da mu don wannan matakin da za a ɗauka don inganta zamantakewar al'umma wacce aminci da adalci suka zama ruwan dare, maimakon ban da. Don ƙarin bayani game da dandalin, ko yin rijistar shiga, don Allah ziyarci www.btmtucson.com/masculinityforum2020.

                  Wannan misali ne guda ɗaya na babban motsi don haɓaka juriya ta ƙauna ga tsarin al'adun yau da kullun na mamayar. 'Yar adawa, Angela Davis ta fi nuna wannan sauyin lokacin da ta juyar da addu'ar nutsuwa a kanta, tana mai cewa, "Ni yanzu ban yarda da abubuwan da ba zan iya canzawa ba. Ina sauya abubuwan da ba zan iya karba ba. ” Yayin da muke tunani game da tasirin tashin hankali na cikin gida da na lalata a cikin al'ummominmu a wannan watan, bari dukkanmu mu sami ƙarfin zuciya da ƙudurin bin jagorarta.

    Game da Samari ga Maza

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    Burinmu shine karfafa al'ummomi ta hanyar kiran mazaje su tashi tsaye wajan bawa samari shawara kan tafiyarsu zuwa samun cikakkiyar lafiya.

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    Manufarmu ita ce tattarawa, horarwa, da kuma karfafa al'ummomin maza don su shawarci yara maza ta hanyar zagaye na yanar gizo, fitowar kasada, da kuma ayyukan yau da kullun.