Okutobala 2019 - Kuthandiza ozunzidwa omwe amadzipha
Nkhani yosaneneka sabata ino ndi yokhudza omwe amazunzidwa kunyumba omwe amadzipha. A Mark Flanigan akufotokoza zomwe zidachitika pothandizira mnzake wapamtima Mitsu, yemwe adadzipha tsiku lina atamuwululira kuti anali pachibwenzi.
Bwenzi langa linatayika chifukwa cha nkhanza zapakhomo, ndipo kwa nthawi yaitali, ndinkadziimba mlandu.
Mnzanga Mitsu anali munthu wokongola, mkati ndi kunja. Wobadwa ku Japan, anali kukhala ndikuphunzira kukhala namwino kuno ku US Kumwetulira kwake kosangalatsa komanso umunthu wosangalala kunali kwakuti anthu omuzungulira sangakane kukhala mabwenzi ake achangu komanso enieni. Anali munthu yemwe adachita chifundo, zabwino, ndipo anali ndi zochuluka zoti azikhalira. Zachisoni, Mitsu adataya moyo wake chifukwa chankhanza zapabanja.
Ndinakumana koyamba ndi Mitsu pafupifupi zaka zisanu ndi chimodzi zapitazo ku Washington, DC, pamwambo wapachaka wa Cherry Blossom Festival. Amadzipereka ngati womasulira ndipo adavala kimono wonyezimira wowoneka bwino. Panthaŵiyo, ndinali kugwira ntchito ya maziko okhudzana ndi maphunziro a ku Japan, ndipo tinali kufunsa ophunzira ochokera kumayiko ena kusukulu yathu yogwirizana ku Tokyo. Mmodzi wa anzathu sanakwanitse tsiku lomwelo, ndipo nyumba yathu inali yaifupi. Mosazengereza, Mitsu (yemwe ndinali nditangokumana naye) adalowamo ndikuyamba kutithandiza!
Ngakhale samalumikizana ndi maziko athu kapena sukulu yathu, Mitsu adalimbikira mosangalala kuti atichitira chilichonse chomwe angathe kutichitira. Zachidziwikire, ndi umunthu wake wosangalala komanso kimono wowoneka bwino, adakopa ofuna kuchita nawo chidwi ambiri kuposa momwe timayembekezera. Odzipereka athu omwe adaphunzira nawo adathandizidwa ndi iye, ndipo adachititsidwa manyazi kumuwona akumuthandiza. Ichi ndi chisonyezero chimodzi chokha cha mtundu wa munthu wopanda dyera yemwe anali.
Mitsu ndi ine takhala tikulumikizana kwazaka zambiri, koma tsiku lina anandiuza kuti asankha kusamukira ku Hawaii. Sizinali zophweka kusankha kwa iye, chifukwa anali ndi moyo wathunthu komanso abwenzi ambiri ku DC Amaphunzira kukhala namwino ndipo amachita bwino, ngakhale anali ndi maphunziro ovuta komanso akumutengera pulogalamu ya Chingerezi, yomwe chinali chilankhulo chake chachiwiri. Komabe, adamva kuti ali ndi udindo kwa makolo ake okalamba, monga mwana wawo yekhayo, kuti akhale pafupi ndi dziko lakwawo ku Japan.
Monga kunyengerera, ndikupitiliza maphunziro ake osasokonezedwa pang'ono, adasamukira ku Hawaii. Mwanjira imeneyi, amatha kuphunzira unamwino (yomwe inali ntchito yabwino kwa iye) mkati mwa maphunziro apamwamba aku America pomwe amatha kubwerera ku banja lake ku Japan pakufunika. Ndikuganiza kuti poyamba samamva bwino, popeza analibe banja kapena abwenzi ku Hawaii, koma adakwanitsa kupitiliza maphunziro ake.
Pakadali pano, ndidasamukira kuno ku Tucson, Arizona, kuti ndikayambitse chaka changa chatsopano ndi AmeriCorps. Pasanapite nthawi, ndinadabwa kumva kuchokera kwa Mitsu kuti anali ndi chibwenzi, popeza anali asanakhale pachibwenzi ndi aliyense kale. Komabe, amawoneka kuti akusangalala, ndipo awiriwa adatenga maulendo angapo osiyanasiyana limodzi. Kuchokera pazithunzi zawo, amawoneka wokoma mtima, wotuluka, wothamanga. Popeza amakonda kuyenda ndikufufuza panja, ndimazitenga ngati chisonyezo chabwino kuti wapeza mnzake womuyenerera.
Ngakhale ndimasangalala poyamba, ndidachita mantha kumva pambuyo pake kuchokera ku Mitsu kuti adazunzidwa. Chibwenzi chake chinkakonda kukwiya komanso kuchita zachiwawa atamwa mowa kwambiri, ndipo adamupangira. Iwo anali atagula kondomu limodzi ku Hawaii, chifukwa chake amadzimva kuti ali mgulu lazachuma komanso chuma chifukwa chomangika pazachuma. Mitsu anali kuyesera kudziwa momwe angathanirane ndi vutoli ndipo anali wamantha kwambiri kuyesa kumusiya. Ankafuna kubwerera ku Japan, koma anafa ziwalo chifukwa cha mantha komanso manyazi chifukwa cha mavuto ake.
Ndinayesera kumutsimikizira kuti zonse sizinali zolakwa zake, ndikuti palibe amene amayenera kuzunzidwa kapena kunenedwa. Anali ndi abwenzi ochepa kumeneko, koma sanakhalemo limodzi usiku umodzi kapena awiri. Sindinadziwe malo okhala ku Oahu, koma ndinayang'ana zina mwazinthu zadzidzidzi zokhudzana ndi omwe amazunzidwa ndikuzigawana naye. Ndinalonjeza kuti ndiyesetsa kumuthandiza kupeza loya ku Hawaii yemwe amadziwika bwino pankhani zankhanza zapakhomo. Thandizo ili likuwoneka kuti limamupatsa mpumulo kwakanthawi, ndipo adandithokoza chifukwa chomuthandiza. Woganiza nthawi zonse, adandifunsa momwe ndimakhalira m'malo anga atsopano ku Arizona ndipo adandiuza kuti akuyembekeza kuti zinthu zipitilirabe bwino m'malo anga atsopanowa.
Sindinadziwe panthawiyo, koma idzakhala nthawi yotsiriza kwambiri kumva kuchokera ku Mitsu. Ndinafikira anzanga ku Hawaii ndipo ndidalumikizana ndi loya yemwe ndimamuganizira kwambiri yemwe ndimaganiza kuti amuthandiza pankhaniyi. Ndidamutumizira izi, koma sanandimve, zomwe zidandidetsa nkhawa. Pomaliza, pafupifupi milungu itatu pambuyo pake, ndidamva kuchokera kwa msuweni wa Mitsu kuti wapita. Zotsatira zake, adadzipha yekha patangotha tsiku limodzi kuchokera pomwe tidalankhula komaliza. Sindingathe kulingalira za ululu wosalekeza ndi mavuto omwe ayenera kuti anali akumva m'maola ochepa apitawo.
Zotsatira zake, kunalibe mlandu wotsatira. Popeza palibe mlandu womwe udasumizidwapo pa chibwenzi chake, apolisi analibe chilichonse choti achite. Ndi kudzipha kwake, sipadzakhalanso kafukufuku wina yemwe angamupangitse kuti aphedwe. Achibale ake omwe adapulumuka analibe chikhumbo chofuna kupitiliza zina mu nthawi yawo yachisoni. Zachisoni komanso zodandaula momwe ndinkakhalira pomwalira mwadzidzidzi bwenzi langa lokondedwa Mitsu, chomwe chidandigunda kwambiri ndikuti sindinathe kumchitira chilichonse pamapeto pake. Tsopano zinali zochedwa kwambiri, ndipo ndinamva kuti ndaziwombera.
Ngakhale ndikudziwa pamalingaliro anzeru kuti palibe china chomwe ndikadatha kuchita, gawo lina ndidadziimba mlandu kuti sindimatha kupewa kupweteka ndi kutayika kwake. Mmoyo wanga komanso pantchito yanga, ndakhala ndikuyesetsa kukhala munthu wotumikira ena, ndikupanga zotsatira zabwino. Ndinkaona ngati ndakhumudwitsa Mitsu nthawi yake yofunikira kwambiri, ndipo palibe chomwe ndingachite kuti ndisinthe kuzindikiraku. Ndidakhala wokwiya kwambiri, wokhumudwa, komanso wolakwa nthawi yomweyo.
Ndikadapitilizabe kugwira ntchito, ndidayamba kuda nkhawa ndikusiya zochitika zina zosiyanasiyana zomwe ndimakonda kuchita kale. Zinandivuta kugona usiku, nthawi zambiri ndikudzuka thukuta lozizira. Ndinasiya kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi, kupita ku karaoke, komanso kucheza m'magulu akulu, zonse chifukwa chodzimva kuti ndalephera kuthandiza mnzanga pomwe amafunikira kwambiri. Kwa milungu ndi miyezi, ndimakhala masiku ambiri mu zomwe ndimangofotokoza ngati fumbi lolemetsa.
Mwamwayi, ndinatha kuvomereza kwa ena kuti ndinali kuthana ndi chisoni chachikulu ichi ndikufunika thandizo. Ngakhale sindinayankhulepo pagulu mpaka pano, anzanga apamtima komanso anzanga omwe ndimagwira nawo ntchito adandithandiza. Anandilimbikitsa kufunafuna njira yolemekezera kukumbukira kwa Mitsu, m'njira yomwe ingakhale yopindulitsa komanso yopindulitsa. Chifukwa chondithandizira mokoma mtima, ndatha kuchita nawo zokambirana zingapo ndi zochitika kuno ku Tucson zomwe zimathandizira omwe achitiridwa nkhanza zapakhomo ndikugwiranso ntchito kuthandiza kulera anyamata athanzi komanso aulemu.
Ndinayambanso kuwona wothandizira zaumoyo pachipatala cha anthu wamba, yemwe wandithandiza kwambiri kuti ndimvetsetse ndikugwiritsa ntchito kupwetekedwa mtima, kupweteka, komanso chisoni changa kutayika kwa bwenzi langa labwino. Andithandizanso kuyenda njira yayitali yopita kuchipatala ndikumvetsetsa kuti zopweteka zopweteketsa mtima ndizofooketsa monganso momwe mwendo udasweka kapena matenda amtima, ngakhale zizindikirazo sizowonekera kwenikweni. Gawo ndi sitepe, zimakhala zosavuta, ngakhale masiku ena ululu wanga umandigundabe mosayembekezereka.
Pogawana nkhani yake, ndikuwonetsa milandu yakudzipha yomwe anthu samayiwala chifukwa chakuzunzidwa, ndikhulupilira kuti ngati gulu titha kupitiliza kuphunzira ndikulankhula za mliri wowopsawu. Ngati ngakhale munthu m'modzi azindikira za nkhanza zapabanja powerenga nkhaniyi, ndikugwira ntchito kuti athetse, ndiye kuti ndidzakhala wokondwa.
Ngakhale zachisoni sindidzawonananso kapena kuyankhula ndi mzanga, ndikudziwa kuti kumwetulira kwake kosangalatsa ndi chifundo chake kwa ena sizidzazimiririka, chifukwa akupitilizabe kugwira ntchito yomwe tonse timagwirira limodzi kuti dziko likhale malo owala madera awo. Ndadzipereka kwathunthu pantchitoyi kuno ku Tucson ngati njira yokondwerera nthawi yayifupi kwambiri ya Mitsu padziko lapansi, komanso cholowa chodabwitsa chomwe akupitilizabe kutisiya, ngakhale pano.