Chidutswa cholembedwa ndi Boys to Men

                  Ngakhale pali kutsutsana kwakukulu pazipilala zanthawi ya nkhondo yapachiweniweni, wolemba ndakatulo waku Nashville a Caroline Williams posachedwa adatikumbutsa za mtengo womwe anthu samanyalanyaza nawo pankhaniyi: kugwiririra, ndi chikhalidwe chogwirira. Mu OpEd ya mutu wakuti, "Mukufuna Chipilala cha Confederate? Thupi Langa ndi Chipilala cha Confederate, ”Akukumbukira mbiri yakale kuseri kwa mthunzi wa khungu lake lofiirira. "Malinga ndi mbiri ya banja, komanso momwe kuyesa kwamakono kwa DNA kwandilolera kutsimikizira, ndine mbadwa ya azimayi akuda omwe anali ogwira ntchito zapakhomo komanso azungu omwe adagwiririra thandizo lawo." Thupi lake ndi zolemba zake zimagwirira ntchito limodzi ngati kutsutsana ndi zotsatira zenizeni zalamulo zomwe US ​​idakonda kale, makamaka pankhani yamagulu amuna kapena akazi. Ngakhale pali chidziwitso chokwanira chomwe chimalumikiza chikhalidwe cha anyamata ndi zikhalidwe zosiyanasiyana zathanzi komanso ziwawa, lero, ku America konse, anyamata nthawi zambiri amaleredwa pamasukulu akale aku America kuti: "man up."

                   Kuwulula kwakanthawi kwa Williams komanso kusatetezeka pa mbiri ya banja lake kumatikumbutsa kuti amuna ndi akazi omwe amagonjera amuna ndi akazi nthawi zonse amayendera limodzi. Ngati tikufuna kuthana ndi onse awiriwa, tiyenera kuthana ndi onse awiri. Gawo lochita izi ndikuzindikira kuti alipo ambiri yokhazikika zinthu ndi zochitika zomwe zimawononga moyo wathu watsiku ndi tsiku ku America zomwe zikupitilizabe kuchirikiza chikhalidwe chogwiririra. Izi sizokhudza zifanizo, Williams akutikumbutsa, koma za momwe tikufunira kulumikizana pamodzi ndi zochitika zakale zakulamulira zomwe zimalungamitsa ndikukhazikitsa nkhanza zakugonana.

                   Tenga mwachitsanzo, nthabwala zachikondi, momwe mnyamata wokanidwa amapita patali kwambiri kuti apambane zokonda za msungwana yemwe samamukonda - kuthana ndi kukana kwake pomaliza ndi chikondi chachikulu. Kapena njira zomwe anyamata amakwezedwa chifukwa chogonana, zivute zitani. Zowonadi, mikhalidwe yomwe timakonda kulowa mwa anyamata tsiku lililonse, yolumikizidwa ndi malingaliro akale okhudza "amuna enieni," ndiye maziko osapeweka achikhalidwe chogwiririra.

                   Makhalidwe abwinobwino, osafotokozedwa nthawi zonse, omwe amapezeka mchikhalidwe cha "kudzuka" ndi gawo la malo omwe amuna amaphunzitsidwa kuti achotsere malingaliro awo, kulemekeza kukakamiza ndikupambana, ndikuchitirana nkhanza wina ndi mnzake kuthekera kubwereza izi. Kukhazikitsa chidwi changa pa zomwe ena adakumana nazo (ndi zanga) ndi udindo wopambana ndi kupeza zanga ndi momwe ndidaphunzirira kukhala bambo. Mikhalidwe yokhazikika yolamulira imalumikiza nkhani yomwe Williams amafotokozera miyambo yomwe ilipo lero pomwe mwana wamwamuna wazaka zitatu achititsidwa manyazi ndi wamkulu yemwe amamukonda chifukwa cholira akamva kuwawa, mantha, kapena chifundo: "anyamata musalire ”(Anyamata amataya malingaliro).

                  Komabe, gulu lothetsa kutamandidwa kwa ulamuliro likukuliranso. Ku Tucson, sabata limodzi, m'masukulu 17 am'deralo komanso ku Juvenile Detention Center, pafupifupi amuna makumi asanu ndi limodzi ophunzitsidwa bwino, amuna achikulire ochokera kumadera onse amakhala pansi kuti azichita nawo zokambirana pagulu ndi anyamata pafupifupi 60 ngati gawo la ntchito ya Boys Amuna Tucson. Kwa ambiri mwa anyamatawa, awa ndi malo okha m'miyoyo yawo pomwe amakhala otetezeka kuti azikhala osamala, kunena zowona zakumva kwawo, ndikupempha kuti awathandize. Koma zoyeserera zamtunduwu zikuyenera kupeza zokopa zochuluka kuchokera kumadera onse mdera lathu ngati titi tisinthe chikhalidwe chachigololo ndi chikhalidwe chovomereza chomwe chimalimbikitsa chitetezo ndi chilungamo kwa onse. Tikufuna thandizo lanu kukulitsa ntchitoyi.

                Pa Okutobala 25, 26, ndi 28, Boys to Men Tucson akuyanjana ndi a Emerge, University of Arizona ndi mgwirizano wamagulu odzipereka kuchititsa msonkhano wokhazikitsira madera athu kuti apange njira zabwino kwambiri za anyamata achimuna ndi achimuna- achinyamata odziwika. Chochitika chokomerachi chithandizira kwambiri mphamvu zomwe zimapangitsa kuti amuna ndi akazi azikhala mwamtendere ku Tucson. Awa ndi malo ofunikira pomwe mawu anu ndi chithandizo chanu zingatithandizire kupanga kusiyana kwakukulu pachikhalidwe chomwe chilipo m'badwo wotsatira pankhani ya jenda, kufanana, ndi chilungamo. Tikukupemphani kuti mudzatithandizire kuti tithandizire kukulitsa dera lomwe chitetezo ndi chilungamo ndizofala, osati zokhazokha. Kuti mumve zambiri pamsonkhano, kapena kulembetsa kuti mudzapezekepo, chonde pitani www.btmtucson.com/masculinityforum2020.

                  Ichi ndi chitsanzo chimodzi chokha cha mayendedwe akulu olimbikitsa kukana chikondi ku miyambo yanthawi zonse yolamulira. Angela Davis, wochotsa maboma adazindikira kusinthaku bwino pomwe adatembenuza pemphero lamtendere, nati, "Sindikulandiranso zinthu zomwe sindingathe kuzisintha. Ndikusintha zinthu zomwe sindingavomereze. ” Pomwe tikulingalira zakukhudzidwa kwa nkhanza zapakhomo ndi zachiwerewere mmadera mwathu mwezi uno, tiyeni tonse tikhale olimba mtima ndikutsimikiza mtima kutsatira chitsogozo chake.

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