Ngo-Okthobha 2019-Ukuxhasa Abasindileyo Abahleliyo
Xa sinexhala ngomntu esimthandayo, siyasabela. Ekuzameni ukukhusela lowo simthandayo oxhatshazwayo, ezi mpendulo maxa wambi ziquka ukuphakuzela (“kufuneka uphume ngoku!”), uthando oluqatha (“wendlulile umandlalo wakho, ngoku kufuneka ungqengqe kuwo”), umsindo (“Ndiza kuphuma”. Ndiza kunika iqabane lakho inxalenye yengqondo yam!”) kunye netyala (“cinga ngabantwana bakho!”). Xa sisabela ngezo ndlela nomntu oxhatshazwayo, sinokuvuselela iimvakalelo zentloni kunye noloyiko, kwaye, ngabom okanye ngempazamo, silahlekise umntu esimthandayo ekuzityand’ igila kuthi ngamava abaphila kuwo.
Uninzi lwabasindileyo kwimpatho-gadalala yasekhaya bathande amaqabane abo. Njengoluntu, sichithe amashumi eminyaka sinceda abasindileyo ukuba baphume kubudlelwane babo obuxhaphazayo-kwaye sichithe ixesha elincinci sinceda amaxhoba ukuba ahlale ekhuselekile kubudlelwane babo. Ngenxa yolu tshintsho, senze i-taboo kumaxhoba angafuni ukushiya amaqabane abo okanye iintsapho zabo-kwaye sadala iintloni ngokufuna ukuhlala.
Kunokuba utsibe ukufuna indlela ethile yokuziphatha kwabo sibathandayo, umbuzo uba yindlela esinokumnceda ngayo umntu esimthandayo ukuba akhuseleke kangangoko, nangona ekhetha ukuhlala kubudlelwane. Masivule ingxoxo nomntu wethu esimthandayo ukubandakanya iindlela ezininzi, eziqhutywa lixhoba elijongene noxhatshazo.
Funda ngakumbi malunga nendlela yokuvula ingxoxo nomntu omthandayo oxhatshazwayo.