Okthobha 2019 - Ukuxhasa amaxhoba asweleke ngokuzibulala

    Ibali lale veki elisoloko lingachazwanga limalunga namaxhoba okuxhatshazwa emakhaya asweleke ngokuzibulala. UMark Flanigan ubalisa ngamava okuxhasa umhlobo wakhe othandekayo uMitsu, owafa ngokuzibulala ngenye imini emva kokumxelela ukuba wayenobudlelwane obuxhaphazayo.

    Umhlobo wam waphulukana nobomi bakhe ngenxa yogonyamelo lwasekhaya, yaye kangangexesha elide ndandizibeka ityala.

     Umhlobo wam uMitsu wayengumntu omhle, ngaphakathi nangaphandle. Imvelaphi yaseJapan, wayehlala kwaye efundela ukuba ngumongikazi apha e-US Uncumo lwakhe oluqaqambileyo kunye nobuntu obuchwayitisayo babunjalo kangangokuba abantu ababemngqongile babengenakuxhathisa ukuba ngabahlobo bakhe abakhawulezayo nabanyanisekileyo. Wayengumntu obonakalisa uvelwano, ukulunga, yaye wayenokuninzi awayemele akuphilele. Okubuhlungu kukuba, uMitsu waphulukana nobomi bakhe ngenxa yogonyamelo lwasekhaya.

    Ndaqala ukudibana noMitsu malunga neminyaka emithandathu eyadlulayo eWashington, DC, ngexesha loMnyhadala weCherry Blossom. Wayelivolontiya apho njengetoliki kwaye enxibe ikimono ethandekayo epinki namhlophe. Ngelo xesha, ndandisebenzela isiseko semfundo esinxulumene neJapan, yaye sasiqesha abafundi bamazwe ngamazwe kwisikolo sethu saseTokyo. Omnye woogxa bethu akazange akwazi ukuphumelela ngaloo mini, yaye indawo yethu yayinabasebenzi abancinane. Ngaphandle kokulibazisa, uMitsu (ebendisandul’ ukudibana naye) watsibela ngaphakathi waza waqalisa ukusinceda!

    Nangona wayengenalo unxibelelwano nesiseko okanye isikolo sethu, uMitsu ngovuyo wazingisa ekwenzeni nantoni na awayenokusenzela yona. Kakade ke, ngenxa yobuntu bakhe obuchwayitileyo ne<em>kimono ekhazimle ngendlela emangalisayo, watsala abantu abaninzi ababefake izicelo abanomdla kunokuba sasilindele. Amavolontiya ethu angaphambili aye achukumiseka ngokupheleleyo nguye, kwaye wayethobeke kakhulu ukubona inkxaso yakhe ezinikeleyo. Olo luphawu nje olunye oluncinane olubonisa ukuba wayengumntu ozincamayo ngokwenene.

    Mna noMitsu saqhubeka sinxibelelana ukutyhubela iminyaka, kodwa ngenye imini wandixelela ukuba ugqibe kwelokuba afudukele eHawaii. Kwakungesosigqibo silula kuye ukuba asenze, kuba wayenobomi obupheleleyo kunye nabahlobo abaninzi e-DC Wayefundela ukuba ngumongikazi kwaye wayeqhuba kakuhle kakhulu kuyo, nangona ikharityhulamu enzima kwaye ethatha inkqubo yakhe ngokupheleleyo ngesiNgesi. yayilulwimi lwakhe lwesibini. Nangona kunjalo, waziva enembopheleleko kubazali bakhe abalupheleyo, njengokuphela komntwana wabo, ukuba abe kufutshane nelizwe lakowabo eJapan.

    Njengokulalanisa, kunye nokuqhubeka nezifundo zakhe ngokuphazamiseka okuncinci, wafudukela eHawaii. Ngaloo ndlela, wayesakwazi ukufunda ubunesi (eyayingumsebenzi ogqibeleleyo kuye) kwinkqubo yemfundo ephakamileyo yaseMelika ngelixa ekwazi ukubhabha ebuyela kusapho lwakhe eJapan njengoko kufuneka. Ndicinga ukuba wayeziva engafaneleki ekuqaleni, njengoko wayengenalo naluphi na usapho okanye abahlobo apho eHawaii, kodwa wenza konke okusemandleni akhe waqhubeka nezifundo zakhe.

    Okwangoku, ndifudukele apha eTucson, eArizona, ukuya kuqalisa unyaka wam omtsha wenkonzo ne-AmeriCorps. Kungekudala emva koko, ndothuswa kukuva kuMitsu ukuba unendoda awayeza kutshata nayo, ekubeni wayengazange athandane namntu ngaphambili. Noko ke, wayebonakala onwabile, yaye bobabini bathabatha iihambo ezahlukeneyo kunye. Ngokusuka kwiifoto zabo, wayekhangeleka njengomntu onobuhlobo, ophumayo, nomdlali wezemidlalo. Njengoko wayethanda ukuhamba kwaye ajonge ngaphandle, ndithathe oku njengophawu oluhle lokuba ufumene iqabane lakhe lobomi elihambelanayo.

    Nangona ndandimvuyisa ekuqaleni, ndothuswa kukuva kamva kuMitsu ukuba wayelixhoba lokuxhatshazwa ngokwasemzimbeni nangokweemvakalelo. Umntu awayeza kutshata naye wayethanda ukuba nomsindo nobundlobongela emva kokusela kakhulu, waza wamkhupha. Baye bathenga i-condo kunye eHawaii, ngoko ke waziva evaleleke ngokwasentlalweni nakwezoqoqosho ngamaqhina abo emali. UMitsu wayezama ukufumanisa indlela yokujongana nale meko kwaye wayesoyika kakhulu ukuzama ukumshiya. Wayefuna ukubuyela eJapan, kodwa waphazanyiswa luloyiko kunye neentloni kwimeko yakhe embi.

    Ndazama ukumqinisekisa ukuba akukho nanye kwezi yayilityala lakhe, kwaye akukho namnye owayefanelwe kukubethwa ngamazwi okanye ngokwasemzimbeni. Wayenabahlobo abambalwa apho, kodwa akukho namnye awayenokuhlala naye ngaphezu kobusuku obunye okanye ezimbini. Ndandingaziqhelanga iindawo zokuhlala e-Oahu, kodwa ndakhangela ezinye izibonelelo ezisisiseko ezinxulumene nonxunguphalo kumaxhoba okuxhatshazwa ndaza ndabelana naye ngazo. Ndamthembisa ukuba ndiza kuzama ukumnceda afumane igqwetha laseHawaii elisebenza ngokukhethekileyo kumatyala ogonyamelo lwasekhaya. Le nkxaso yayibonakala imnika isiqabu okwexeshana, yaye wandibulela ngokumnceda. Esoloko ecinga, wabuza ukuba ndiqhuba njani kwisikhundla sam esitsha eArizona kwaye wandixelela ukuba unethemba lokuba izinto ziya kuqhubeka zindihambela kakuhle kwindawo yam entsha.

    Ndandingayazi ngoko, kodwa yayiza kuba sisihlandlo sokugqibela ukuva ngoMitsu. Ndaye ndafikelela kubahlobo eHawaii ndaza ndafumana unxibelelwano lwegqwetha elalixatyiswe kakhulu endandicinga ukuba lingakwazi ukumnceda ngetyala lakhe. Ndamthumelela ulwazi, kodwa andizange ndiphendule, nto leyo yandixhalabisa kakhulu. Ekugqibeleni, malunga neeveki ezintathu kamva, ndeva ngomzala kaMitsu ukuba akasekho. Kwafumaniseka ukuba, wazibulala kanye nje emva kokuba mna naye sasigqibele ukuthetha. Ndinokuyithelekelela nje intlungu nokubandezeleka okungapheliyo amele ukuba wayekuvile kwezo yure zimbalwa zidlulileyo.

    Ngenxa yoko, kwakungekho tyala lokulandela. Ekubeni engazange atyholwe ngendoda awayeza kutshata nayo, amapolisa akazange abe nanto yakwenza. Ngokuzibulala kwakhe, bekungazukubakho uphando lungaphaya kwesizathu sokusweleka kwakhe. Amalungu osapho lwakhe awayesindile ayengenawo umnqweno wokuqhubeka nenkqubo yokulandela nantoni na eyongezelelekileyo ngexesha labo lokusentlungwini. Njengoko ndandibuhlungu kwaye ndothukile njengoko ndandiswelekelwe ngesiquphe nguMitsu umhlobo wam endimthandayo, eyona nto yandibetha kakhulu kukuba andizange ndikwazi ukumenzela nto ekugqibeleni. Ngoku kwakusele kusemva kwexesha kakhulu, kwaye ndaziva ndilivuthela.

    Ngelixa ndiyazi kwinqanaba elisengqiqweni ukuba akukho nto yimbi ebendinokuyenza, inxenye yam ibisazigxeka ngokungakwazi ukuyinqanda intlungu nokulahlekelwa kwakhe ngandlel’ ithile. Kubomi bam kunye nomsebenzi wam, bendisoloko ndizama ukuba ngumntu okhonza abanye, kwaye ndenze impembelelo entle. Ndaziva ngathi ndimphoxile ngokupheleleyo uMitsu ngexesha lakhe lesidingo esikhulu, kwaye kwakungekho nto ndinokuyenza ukuguqula oko kuqonda kubi. Ndaziva ndinomsindo, ndibuhlungu, kwaye ndinetyala ngaxeshanye.

    Ngoxa ndandisasebenza, ndaba nexhala ndaza ndarhoxa kwizinto ezininzi endandizinandipha ngaphambili. Ndandinengxaki yokulala ubusuku bonke, ndandisoloko ndivuka ndibila ngumsindo. Ndayeka ukuzilolonga, ukuya kwikaraoke, nokunxulumana namaqela amakhulu, konke oko kwakungenxa yemvakalelo engapheliyo yokuba ndisilele ukunceda umhlobo wam xa wayekufuna kakhulu. Kangangeeveki neenyanga, ixesha elininzi bendiphila kwinto endinokuyichaza njengenkungu enzima nendindisholo.

    Ngethamsanqa, ndakwazi ukuvuma kwabanye ukuba ndandijamelene nale ntlungu inzulu yaye ndifuna inkxaso. Ngelixa ndingekathethi ngayo esidlangalaleni kude kube ngoku, ndancedwa kakhulu ngabahlobo bam abasenyongweni kunye nabalingane bam emsebenzini. Bandikhuthaza ukuba ndifune indlela ethile yokubeka inkumbulo kaMitsu, ngendlela eya kuba nentsingiselo nenempembelelo ehlala ihleli. Ndiyabulela ngenkxaso yabo enobubele, ndiye ndakwazi ukujoyina inani leendibano zocweyo kunye nemisebenzi apha eTucson exhasa amaxhoba obundlobongela basekhaya kwaye ndisebenza ekuncedeni ukukhulisa abafana abasempilweni nabanentlonipho.

    Ndaye ndaqala ukubona ugqirha wezempilo kwikliniki yezempilo kawonke-wonke, oye wandinceda ngokungenakulinganiswa ukuba ndiqonde kwaye ndisebenze ngeemvakalelo zam ezintsonkothileyo zomsindo, iintlungu, kunye nosizi malunga nokuphulukana nomhlobo wam olungileyo. Uye wandinceda ndakwazi ukuchacha ndaza ndayiqonda into yokuba intlungu yokwenzakala ngokweemvakalelo ibuhlungu njengokwaphuka umlenze okanye isifo sentliziyo, kwanokuba iimpawu azibonakali kakuhle. Inyathelo ngenyathelo, kuye kwaba lula, nangona ezinye iintsuku iintlungu zentlungu zisandibetha ngokungalindelekanga.

    Ngokwabelana ngebali lakhe, kunye nokuqaqambisa amatyala angahoywayo okuzibulala ngenxa yoxhatshazo, ndiyathemba ukuba thina njengoluntu singaqhubeleka sifunda kwaye sithethe ngalo bhubhani mkhulu kangaka. Ukuba kwanokuba umntu omnye uye waluqonda ngakumbi ugonyamelo lwasekhaya ngokufunda eli nqaku, aze asebenzele ukunceda ukuluphelisa, ngoko ndiya konwaba.

    Nangona ngelishwa ndingasokuze ndiphinde ndimbone okanye ndithethe nomhlobo wam, ndiyazi ukuba uncumo lwakhe oluqaqambileyo kunye novelwano lwakhe kwabanye alusoze lufiphazwe, njengoko eqhubeka nomsebenzi esiwenzayo sonke ngokudibeneyo ukwenza umhlaba ube yindawo eqaqambileyo kubomi bethu. uluntu lwalo. Ukususela ngoko ndiye ndazinikela ngokupheleleyo kulo msebenzi apha eTucson njengendlela yokubhiyozela ixesha elifutshane kakhulu likaMitsu apha emhlabeni, kunye nelifa elimangalisayo elimangalisayo aqhubeka ukusishiya ngasemva, nangoku.