Okthobha 2019 - Ukuxhasa amaxhoba asweleke ngokuzibulala
UMitsu usweleke ngokuzibulala kusuku emva kokuba ebhengeze uxhatshazo awayenalo kumhlobo wakhe uMark. Sinqwenela ukuba ibali likaMitsu belinqabile, kodwa ngelishwa, izifundo zibonisa ukuba abasetyhini abakhe baphathwa gadalala emakhaya kasixhenxe kungenzeka ukuba babe neengcinga zokuzibulala xa kuthelekiswa nabantu abangakhange bahlelwe bubundlobongela basekhaya. Kwimeko yehlabathi, i-World Health Organization ifumene kwi-2014 ukuba umntu othile uyafa ngokuzibulala rhoqo kwimizuzwana engama-40, kwaye ukuzibulala yinto yesibini ebangela ukufa kwabantu abaneminyaka eyi-15 ukuya kwe-29.
Xa kujongwa indlela ezahlulo zezazisi ezinxulumene nobuchule, isini, uhlanga kunye nokuziqhelanisa ngokwesondo kunokugqithelana, imingcipheko yamaxhoba oxhatshazo lwasekhaya ecinga ngokuzibulala iyenyuka. Ngamanye amazwi, xa umntu ephila namava okuhamba rhoqo ngemiqobo ngenxa yezazisi zabo, kwaye bafumana ukuxhatshazwa kwasekhaya ngaxeshanye, impilo yabo yengqondo inokuchaphazeleka kakhulu.
Ngokomzekelo, ngenxa yokwenzakala kwembali kunye nembali ende yengcinezelo, abafazi abangamaNative American okanye Alaska Natives basengozini enkulu yokuzibulala.. Ngokufanayo, ulutsha oluchonga kuluntu lwe-LGBTQ kwaye lufumene ucalucalulo, kunye nabasetyhini abahlala kunye ukukhubazeka okanye isigulo esityhafisayo abathi ngaxeshanye baxhatshazwe basekhaya basemngciphekweni omkhulu.
In 2014, inyathelo le-Federal ngokusebenzisa i-SAMHSA (ukusetyenziswa kakubi kweziyobisi kunye noLawulo lweeNkonzo zeMpilo yeNgqondo) yaqala ukujonga intsebenziswano phakathi koxhatshazo lwasekhaya kunye nokuzibulala kwaye wabongoza iingcali kuzo zombini iinkalo ukuba ziqonde amakhonkco ukuze kuxhaswe ngcono abantu abafumana ukuxhatshazwa kwasekhaya ukuze baqonde ukuba ukuzibulala akukuphela kwendlela yokuphuma kubudlelwane babo.
Ungenzani?
UMarko uchaza indlela yena, njengomhlobo kaMitsu, amxhasa ngayo uMitsu emva kokuba evule malunga nobudlelwane bakhe obuxhaphazayo. Ukwachaza iimvakalelo kunye nobunzima awaba nabo xa wayesifa ngokuzibulala. Ke, unokunceda njani ukuba umntu omthandayo uxhatshazwe ekhaya kwaye ucinga ngokuzibulala njengendlela yokuphuma?
Okokuqala, baqonde iimpawu ezilumkisayo zokuxhatshazwa kwasekhaya. Okwesibini, funda iimpawu ezilumkisayo zokuzibulala. Ngokutsho kwe Umnxeba weSizwe woThintelo lokuzibulala, olu luhlu lulandelayo luquka izinto onokuzijonga, ukuba unenkxalabo ngomntu omthandayo:
- Ukuthetha ngokufuna ukufa okanye ukuzibulala
- Ukukhangela indlela yokuzibulala, njengokukhangela kwi-intanethi okanye ukuthenga umpu
- Ukuthetha ngokuziva ungenathemba okanye ukungabi nasizathu sakuphila
- Ukuthetha ngokuziva uvaleleke okanye ukwintlungu enganyamezelekiyo
- Ukuthetha ngokuba ngumthwalo kwabanye
- Ukwandisa ukusetyenziswa kotywala okanye iziyobisi
- Ukwenza uxhalabile okanye uphazamisekile; ukuziphatha ngokungakhathali
- Ukulala kancinci okanye kakhulu
- Ukurhoxa okanye ukuzahlula
- Ukubonakalisa ingqumbo okanye ukuthetha ngokufuna ukuziphindezela
- Ukuba nokutshintsha kwemo egqithisileyo
Kwakhona kubalulekile ukwazi ukuba ngamanye amaxesha, abantu baya kuzityand’ igila amava elinye, kodwa hayi elinye. Basenokuvakalisa iimvakalelo zokungabi nathemba, kodwa bangazihlanganisi nokuxhatshazwa abahlangabezana nako kubudlelwane babo obusenyongweni. Okanye, banokubonisa inkxalabo malunga nobudlelwane babo obusondeleyo, kodwa bangathethi malunga neengcinga zokuzibulala abanokuthi bafumane.
Okwesithathu, nikela ngezibonelelo kunye nenkxaso.
- Ngenkxaso yempatho-gadalala yasekhaya, umntu omthandayo angatsalela umnxeba we-Emerge's 24/7 ngeelwimi ezininzi nangaliphi na ixesha. 520-795-4266 or 1-888-428-0101.
- Ukuthintela ukuzibulala, i-Pima County inomgca wentlekele yoluntu ngokubanzi: (520) 622-6000 or I-1 (866) 495-6735.
- Kukwakho ne Umnxeba weSizwe wokuzibulala (ebandakanya inqaku lencoko, ukuba iyafikeleleka): 1-800-273-8255
Kuthekani Ngabasindi beSekondari?
Abasindi besibini, abafana noMarko, kufuneka nabo bafumane inkxaso. Ixhoba lesibini ngumntu osondeleyo kwixhoba loxhatshazo lwasekhaya kwaye ufumana iimpendulo kumothuko umntu amthandayo, njengokudakumba, ukungalali, kunye nexhala. Yinto eqhelekileyo kwinkqubo yosizi ukuba ube neemvakalelo ezintsonkothileyo emva kokuba umntu omthandayo – othe waphathwa kakubi liqabane lakhe – usweleke ngokuzibulala, kuquka umsindo, usizi, kunye nokutyhola.
Abantu abathandekayo bahlala besokola ukufumana eyona ndlela yokuxhasa ixhoba lokuxhatshazwa ekhaya xa bephila ngoxhatshazo, kwaye banokuziva ngathi abenzi "kwanele." Ezi mvakalelo zinokuqhubeka ukuba lowo bamthandayo usweleke ngokuzibulala (okanye usweleke ngenxa yokuxhatshazwa). Umntu omthandayo usenokuziva engenakuzinceda yaye enetyala emva kokufa kwakhe.
Njengoko uMarko ekhankanya, ukubona ugqirha wezempilo wokuziphatha ukuba aqhubele phambili kwintlungu kunye nentlungu yokulahlekelwa nguMitsu kuye kwaba luncedo. Inkxaso inokubukeka ngokwahlukileyo ukusuka komnye umntu ukuya komnye ngokwemigaqo yokuqhuba ukwenzakala okwesibini; ukubona i-therapist, i-journalling kunye nokufumana iqela lokuxhasa zonke iindlela ezilungileyo kwindlela yokubuyisela. Abanye abathandekayo batsala nzima ngakumbi ngexesha iiholide, izikhumbuzo kunye nemihla yokuzalwa, kwaye unokufuna inkxaso eyongezelelweyo ngaloo maxesha.
Olona ncedo luxabisekileyo esinokulunika abo baphila kubudlelwane obuxhaphazayo kwaye kusenokwenzeka ukuba baba bodwa okanye bacinga ngokuzibulala kukuvuma kwethu ukumamela nokuvuleleka ukuva amabali abo, ukubabonisa ukuba ababodwa kwaye kukho indlela. ngaphandle. Ukuba nangona besenokuba bajamelene namaxesha anzima, ubomi babo buxabisekile kwaye ke ngoko kufanelekile ukufuna inkxaso.