UCecelia Jordan ngutitshala ozinze eluntwini, imbongi kunye nengcali yobulungisa eguqulayo. Umbutho wakhe, iLove in Public, uphuhlisa amava okufunda ayinyani kwimibutho ejolise kubulungisa.

    Ukuphendula kwi Umzimba wam lilitye lesikhumbuzo elidibeneyo nguCaroline Randall Williams. Enkosi, Nkosazana Williams (@caroranwill), ngokuthetha le nyaniso ibalulekileyo. 

    “Ucinga ukuba ukhokho kakhokho wakho wadlwengulwa?” 

    -Lo ngumbuzo kabawo xa ephendula kwingxelo engqindilili: Ndidlwengule ulusu olunombala. Ndiyazingca kulwandle lokuziphatha kakubi, kwaye ndicacisa, "umntu olikhoboka akanakuvuma." 

    “Ewe, andikuthandi ukucinga ukuba ibhinqa eliNtsundu alinakukwazi ukwenza indoda emhlophe imthande,” utshilo. Ndidikiwe. 

    Uphendula ngelitshoyo, “Andiboni ukuba nayiphi na kwezi zinto zinento yokwenza nogonyamelo lwasekhaya.”

    Ndingumfazi oMnyama oyindoda-of-center, umfundisi-ntsapho, igosa lobulungisa kwimbuyekezo, udade, u-anti, umzukulwana, umtshana, umntu ongaxoleliyo, imbongi kunye nosindileyo. Injongo yobomi bam ikhokelwa ngumbuzo ongelula kangako: siphilisa njani kwingozi ukuba samkele ipolitiki yokhathalelo kwaye sakhe iinkqubo ezimiliselwe eluthandweni? Ukuba “uthando lululo okusesikweni olubonakala elubala,” njengoko UGqr. Cornel West ithi, ngoko ke kufuneka sijolise iinzame zethu kwezona zichatshazelwa kakhulu yintswela-bulungisa. Oku kuya kufuna ukuba siphume kwindawo yethu yokuthuthuzela, kwaye sandise imfesane kubantu abafumana ukwenzakala okubangelwa yimveliso kwaye balelwa ukufikelela kwimithombo. Ukuba thina, njengoluntu, asikholelwa ukuba abafazi abaNtsundu abakhotyokisiweyo banokudlwengulwa ziinkosi zabo kunye nabaphathi babo, umntu unokuyiqonda njani into yokuba amabhinqa aNtsundu ngoku angamaxhoba ubundlobongela beqabane?

    Xa ibhinqa eliNtsundu lonakaliswa, baya kugxeka isimo sethu sengqondo, ukhetho lwethu lwempahla, ixesha elidlulileyo kunye cinga ukuba asiziva zintlungu. Inyaniso yeyokuba, isimo sethu sengqondo, ukuzibophelela kwethu kwinyaniso engalawulwayo, yakhelwe ekuphenduleni ukungakhathali koluntu. Sisathetha ngobukhoboka ngokunxulumene nobundlobongela kuba abafazi abaNtsundu basafela ezandleni zeenkqubo, kwaye kuba sonke sibumba iinkqubo, abafazi abaNtsundu bafela ezandleni zenu. Unoxanduva lweentsalela zobukhoboka kunye nobukoloniyali. Unoxanduva lweengcinga zakho, izenzo kunye nokuziphatha kwakho ngabafazi abaNtsundu. Unoxanduva lokusikholelwa, okanye ukuqhubeka uxhasa iingcinga eziyilwe, ezingenabuntu, ezibonisa isini esigqithisileyo apho abafazi abaNtsundu kunye namantombazana benzakalayo ngenxa yokuba senza abadlwenguli basithandane nathi. Zonke ezi mbono zichasene nabaNtsundu kufuneka zincothulwe.

    In isangqa, apho indawo ibanjwe ukutyhila amaxabiso okwabelwana ngawo kunye nokwakha ubudlelwane, ndifunde izinto ezimbini: abantu abaninzi abangengoMnyama abakho kubudlelwane obunzulu kunye ne-Black folx, kwaye emva kokuba "benziwe bazi" ngale nyaniso, abaninzi bayavuma ukuba babangele izixa ezinkulu. yokwenzakala. Ukuba nenjongo akulibuyiseli umva ifuthe lomonakalo owenziweyo: ukutyhalela amabhinqa aNtsundu emsebenzini wawo, ukusebenzisa abahlobo abaNtsundu ukuxoxa ngobuhlanga, ukwamkela abantwana abaNtsundu ukuba babonakale ngathi banocalucalulo, ukufundisa abafundi abaNtsundu ukuba bahlonipheke, ukutyeshela iziqhulo zobuhlanga phakathi kweentsapho, ukushiya abantu abachasene nobuhlanga phakathi kweentsapho zabo. Ukuziphatha kwabamnyama emsebenzini akujongwanga. Ukubambelela kobuqu okubonakala kuthe cwaka kwimithetho elolo hlobo ngeendleko zobomi boMnyama kulindelekile kuluntu olulandela umthetho ngeendleko zobomi boMnyama.

    Ukhuseleko bubunewunewu obungafikelelekiyo kulusu oluMnyama. Inyanga yoNyango yoLwaphulo lwasekhaya isinika indawo yokujongana nale nyaniso ingathethekiyo ecaleni kwendlovu esoloko ikhona kwincoko yogqatso: kuthekani ngoMnyama kubundlobongela obuMnyama? Ewe, abafazi abaNtsundu banjalo ngokuphindwe kane kunoontanga babo abamhlophe ukubulawa ngumfana okanye intombi, kunye namathuba aphindwe kabini okubulawa liqabane. Senzakala ngabazala bethu, oomalume, abantakwethu, abahlobo kunye nesithandwa. Ubundlobongela phakathi kwabaNtsundu, okanye ubundlobongela phakathi kwabantu abaNtsundu, luphawu loluntu oludala imiqobo yemfundo, yezonyango, yeendaba, kunye nezomthetho kubomi babaNtsundu.

    Ukuba ngumfazi oMnyama kukuba likhaka eliqhubekayo kunye nethagethi. Umnikazi wolonwabo kunye neentlungu zoluntu. Ukuba namandla, liciko nokubanda. Ukuzithemba, mhle kunye nenjakazi. Ukuba ngumama, isicakakazi kunye nekhoboka. Ukuya mncancise umntwana oko kuya kuba yinkosi yakho kamva. Ukophulwa kodwa akukho mntu ubiza ubundlobongela, luphawu nje loluntu olunobundlobongela. Ukuba kakhulu kwaye ungaze ngokwaneleyo. Ngelixa amaziko ethu eluqinisa olu bundlobongela, iingcambu zalo zifumaneka kwimihlaba enegazi lobukhoboka be-chattel. Apha, kobona budlelwane bethu busondeleyo phakathi kwabantu, sihlala sixhatshazwa. Nangona kungabonakali kangako, ubudlelwane bethu buzizikhumbuzo ezimanyeneyo; bavuna uloyiko ngolwakhiwo lweentsapho zethu, iinkqubo zokusebenza, kunye nobomi bethu.

     

    E-US, abafazi abaNtsundu kunye nabeMveli bajongene amazinga aphezulu obundlobongela basekhaya kunabafazi bazo zonke ezinye iintlanga. Imithetho elawula uluntu lwethu ikwenza kucace ukuba inkqubo yethu yezomthetho yolwaphulo-mthetho ayinamdla kwiziphumo zabantu abenzakalisa abasetyhini. Endaweni yoko, yenzelwe ukuvalela kunye nokwenza amakhoboka kwakhona abantu bethu ngekroba loMgaqo-siseko. Ukuba siqwalasela i 13th izilungiso ukuze ube yintambo yenkqubo, ke inkqubo yethu yezomthetho yolwaphulo-mthetho sisikhumbuzo samakhoboka esakhiwe phezu kwenkolelo yokuba abanye bafaneleke ngakumbi kubuntu kunabanye. Amaqhalo amadala afana nala athi “okwenzekayo kule ndlu, kuhlala kule ndlu” akhumbuza ukuba isiko lethu alimiliselwanga nje ekuvaleleni amaxhoba, koko likhusela ilali; kwi-hood kunye neendawo zokuhlala zamakhoboka zanamhlanje apho abafana abaluhlaza okwesibhakabhaka bangena njengabaveleli kwaye bahambisa into ebizwa ngokuba yinguqulelo yobulungisa.

    Uhlelo lwethu lwangoku lobulungisa lunobundlobongela, alunabuntu, kwaye luphelelwe lixesha. Siyabona ukuba ugonyamelo lutyhutyha umhlaba wasekhaya kwaye lukhulisa ubundlobongela basekhaya. Kwintlungu ekhoyo ngoku enkulu Ukungaphumeleli kakhulu, asifuni ukuba abenzi bobubi bohlwaywe ngokufa, bavalelwe okanye balahlwe—siyafuna ku philisa. Kwaye kunjalo, xa abafazi abamnyama bethatha isigqibo phula ukuthula, sisoloko sigxothwa okanye senziwe sibe yinxalenye yohlaselo lobuhlanga kubantu bethu. Silwela i-scraps yamandla e-hormone-induced kuba ivakalelwa ngathi asinayo. Sihlala kubudlelwane obuxhaphazayo kuba sihlala sizama ukusindisa abantu bethu.

    Siya kukwazi ukuba ubulungisa bujongeka njani xa sisazi ukuba sibathanda njani abantu abaNtsundu, ngakumbi abafazi abaNtsundu. Ukusithanda akubhekiseli ekubuyeleni kukulunga kobumhlophe, kodwa kukuvuma ugonyamelo lokugqwethwa kwabamhlophe kunye nobuxoki “benyaniso” yako. Khawucinge nje ngehlabathi apho abafazi abaMnyama baphilisa kwaye benze iinkqubo ezichanekileyo zenkxaso kunye nokuphendula. Khawube nomfanekiso-ngqondweni wamaziko enziwe ngabantu abathembisa ukuba ngabaququzeleli ekulweni inkululeko yabaMnyama nobulungisa, kwaye bazibophelele ekuqondeni isiseko esinesiseko sezopolitiko zokutyala. Khawufan’ ucinge, okwesihlandlo sokuqala embalini, simenywa ukuba sigqibezele Ukwakhiwa ngokutsha.

    Kwesi sizukulwana imfazwe kubantu abaNtsundu, ngabafazi abaNtsundu abajongene nobundlobongela kwiinkalo ezininzi. Ngembeko yale nyanga, kwaye ngeentsuku, iinyanga kunye neminyaka ezayo, yenza ixesha lokubona kunye nokuphulaphula abafazi abaNtsundu ebomini bakho. Sukuthetha, ungaphikisi, khumbula nje ukuba awunakuze uqalise ukucinga ngobungakanani beentlungu ezingathethekiyo esiziphetheyo, kokubini nge-epigenetically nangobu bomi. Yiba yinkonzo kwaye uhlale emva kwexesha ukuze uncede; musa ukucela umsebenzi ongahlawulelwanga. Thenga isidlo sasemini kwaye upheke isidlo sakusihlwa; imali yesipho, ngaphandle kwesizathu konke konke. Funda ngembali eyinyani yeli lizwe- malunga nobundlobongela obucwangcisiweyo kunye nokuchasana noBumnyama. Thetha nefolx yakho kwaye ufumane iindlela zokubamba abantu baphendule. Kwaye ngaphezu kwako konke, yakha ubudlelwane obunzulu nabantu abazibophelele kwinguqu yoluntu, utshintsho olumandla lomgaqo-nkqubo, kunye nezibonelelo zonke iinkqubo zeli lizwe ezizifunayo.

    Yonke intsebenziswano nomfazi oNtsundu izisa nokuba lithuba lokujongana nobundlobongela basekhaya kunye nobukhoboka, kunye nokucamagushela ukonakaliswa kwenkqubo, okanye ukhetho lokuqhubeka nokulandela izithethe zobundlobongela zoluntu. Yazi ukuba oku kuvuswa kuya kutshintsha yonke into. Kufuneka sitshintshe yonke into egameni lothando, lekamva, kunye nomoya wabasetyhini abaNtsundu abaqhubeka nokuthwala iintshukumo zethu ezisingise kubulungisa.

    Ukuthatha inyathelo, ndwendwela Uthando Ekuhleni kunye nokunceda ukubonelela ngeendawo ezikhuselekileyo zokufunda kunye nokuphilisa i-folx emnyama ngexesha leNyanga yoKwazisa ngoBundlobongela baseKhaya, nakwiinyanga ezizayo.

     

     Malunga Nothando Esidlangalaleni. Uthando kuLuntu lubonelela ngamava okufunda ayinyani nalungelelanisiweyo kwimibutho ejolise kubulungisa ukwakha ubudlelwane obuluqilima, ukugxilwa kwezazisi kunye namava abo batyhalelwa elunxwemeni, kunye nokuvuselela ezo ziphumo ukwazisa indlela eya kwinguqu nozinzo lombutho.

    Sidibanisa i-pedagogy ebaluleke kakhulu, ubulungisa bokubuyisela, kunye nezenzo zokuphilisa kumsebenzi wethu wokufunda osekwe kwithiyori yokuqonda i-Black queer feminism, i-Latinx Critical Theory, Tribal Crit, kunye nokunye. Sikunye, sizibandakanya kukulinganisa, imibongo, intetho, kunye neendibano zocweyo zokubhala uluvo, ukuhamba kwegalari, ukuphuculwa kwethiyetha, imisebenzi yokuphulaphula nzulu, kunye nezangqa.