Okthoba 2019 - Ukusekela izisulu ezizibulala
Indaba evame kakhulu kuleli sonto ikhuluma ngezisulu zokuhlukunyezwa emakhaya ezibulawa ukuzibulala. UMark Flanigan ulandisa ngesipiliyoni sokuxhasa umngani wakhe amthandayo uMitsu, owashona ngokuzibulala ngelinye ilanga ngemuva kokumdalula ukuthi unobudlelwano obuhlukumezayo.
Umngane wami washona ngenxa yodlame lwasekhaya, futhi isikhathi eside ngangizibeka icala.
Umngane wami uMitsu wayengumuntu omuhle, ngaphakathi nangaphandle. Ngokwakhe wayevela eJapan, wayehlala futhi efundela ukuba ngumhlengikazi lapha e-US Ukumomotheka kwakhe okukhazimulayo nobuntu bakhe obenamileyo kwakungukuthi abantu ababemzungezile babengenakumelana nokuba ngabangane bakhe abasheshayo nabaqotho. Wayengumuntu owenze samuntu ububele, ubuhle, futhi wayenokuningi angakuphilela. Ngokudabukisayo, uMitsu walahlekelwa impilo yakhe ngenxa yodlame lwasekhaya.
Ngangiqale ukuhlangana noMitsu cishe eminyakeni eyisithupha eyedlule eWashington, DC, ngesikhathi soMkhosi waminyaka yonke weCherry Blossom Festival. Wayevolontiya lapho njengotolika futhi egqoke i-kimono ekhanyayo ekhanyayo nomhlophe. Ngaleso sikhathi, ngangisebenzela isisekelo semfundo esihlobene neJapan, futhi sasibutha abafundi bamazwe aphesheya esikoleni sethu esihlangene eTokyo. Omunye wozakwethu akakwazanga ukufika ngalolo suku, futhi idokodo lethu lalinabasebenzi abambalwa. Ngaphandle kokungabaza, uMitsu (engisanda kuhlangana naye) wagxuma wangena ngaphakathi waqala ukusisiza!
Yize wayengaxhumananga nesisekelo sethu noma isikole, uMitsu ngenjabulo waphikelela ekwenzeni noma yini ayengasenzela yona. Vele, ngobuntu bakhe obeneme ne-kimono ekhazimula ngokumangalisayo, wadonsa abafakizicelo abaningi abanentshisekelo kunalokho esasikulindele. Amavolontiya ethu alumni anconywe ngokuphelele nguyena, futhi athobekile kakhulu ngokumbona esekelwa ngokuzinikela. Lokho nje kuyinkomba eyodwa encane yohlobo lomuntu owayengenabugovu ngempela ayenguye.
Mina noMitsu besilokhu sixhumana kule minyaka edlule, kodwa ngelinye ilanga wangitshela ukuthi usenqume ukuthuthela eHawaii. Kwakungesona isinqumo esilula ukuthi asithathe, ngoba wayenempilo ephelele nabangane abaningi e-DC Wayefundela ukuba ngumhlengikazi futhi wayenza kahle kakhulu kuso, yize kwakukhona ikharikhulamu eyinselele futhi ethatha uhlelo lwakhe ngokuphelele ngesiNgisi, kwaba ulimi lwakhe lwesibili. Yize kunjalo, wazizwa enesibopho kubazali bakhe asebekhulile, njengengane yabo okuwukuphela kwakhe, ukuba asondele ezweni lakubo eJapan.
Njengokuyekethisa, nokuqhubeka nezifundo zakhe ngokungaphazanyiswa okuncane, waphindela eHawaii. Ngaleyo ndlela, wayesengafundela ubuhlengikazi (okwakuwumsebenzi ophelele kuye) ohlelweni lwemfundo ephakeme yaseMelika ngenkathi esakwazi ukubuyela emndenini wakhe eJapan njengoba kudingeka. Ngicabanga ukuthi wayezizwa engekho ndawo ekuqaleni, njengoba wayengenawo umndeni noma abangane lapho eHawaii, kodwa wakwenza kahle kakhulu futhi waqhubeka nezifundo zakhe.
Okwamanje, ngathuthela lapha eTucson, e-Arizona, ukuqala unyaka wami omusha wenkonzo ne-AmeriCorps. Kungekudala ngemuva kwalokho, ngamangala lapho ngizwa kuMitsu ukuthi ubenengoduso, ngoba ubengakaze athandane namuntu phambilini. Kodwa-ke, wayebonakala ejabule, futhi bobabili bahamba nohambo oluthile oluhlukile ndawonye. Kusuka ezithombeni zabo, wayebukeka njengohlobo olunobungani, oluphumayo, olusubathi. Njengoba ayekuthanda ukuhamba nokuhlola ngaphandle, ngakuthatha lokhu njengesibonakaliso esihle sokuthi usemtholile umlingani wakhe wokuphila ohambisanayo.
Yize ngangizizwa ngijabule ngaye ekuqaleni, ngangethuka ukuzwa kamuva kuMitsu ukuthi uyisisulu sokuhlukunyezwa ngokomzimba nangokomzwelo. Isoka lakhe lalijwayele ukwenza intukuthelo nobudlova ngemuva kweziqubu zokuphuza kakhulu, futhi lazikhiphela kuye. Babethenge i-condo ndawonye eHawaii, ngakho-ke wazizwa evalelekile emphakathini nakwezomnotho ngezibopho zabo zezezimali. UMitsu wayezama ukuthola ukuthi angabhekana kanjani nalesi simo futhi wesaba kakhulu ukuzama ukumshiya. Wayefuna ukubuyela eJapan, kepha wayekhubazekile ngenxa yokwesaba kanye namahloni ngesimo sakhe esibi.
Ngizamile ukumqinisekisa ukuthi alikho iphutha lakhe lelo, nokuthi akekho umuntu ofanelwe ukuhlukunyezwa ngamazwi noma ngokomzimba. Wayenabangani abambalwa lapho, kepha akekho noyedwa ayengahlala naye ubusuku obubodwa noma obubili. Ngangingajwayele izindawo zokukhosela e-Oahu, kepha ngabheka izinsiza ezisisekelo eziphathelene nezimo eziphuthumayo zezisulu zokuhlukunyezwa ngabelana nazo. Ngathembisa ukuthi ngizozama ukumsiza athole ummeli eHawaii owazi amacala odlame lwasekhaya. Lokhu kusekelwa kubukeka kumnikeza ukuphumula okwesikhashana, futhi wangibonga ngokumsiza. Wayecabanga njalo, wabuza ukuthi ngiqhuba kanjani esikhundleni sami esisha e-Arizona futhi wangitshela ukuthi unethemba lokuthi izinto zizoqhubeka nokungilungela endaweni yami entsha.
Ngangingazi ngaleso sikhathi, kodwa lokho kwakuzoba isikhathi sokugcina engake ngakuzwa kusuka eMitsu. Ngathinta abangane eHawaii ngathola ukuxhumana nommeli owayehlonishwa kakhulu engangicabanga ukuthi uzokwazi ukumsiza ecaleni lakhe. Ngamthumelela imininingwane, kepha angikaze ngizwe, okwangikhathaza kakhulu. Ekugcineni, cishe amasonto amathathu kamuva, ngezwa kumzala kaMitsu ukuthi akasekho. Ekugcineni, wayethathe impilo yakhe ngemuva kosuku olulodwa nje mina naye sigcine ukukhuluma. Ngicabanga kuphela ubuhlungu nokuhlupheka okungapheli okwakumele abuzwe kulawo mahora ambalwa edlule.
Ngenxa yalokho, lalingekho icala lokulandelwa. Njengoba kungekho cala eselike lavulelwa ingoduso yakhe, amaphoyisa abengenalutho angaluqhuba. Ngokuzibulala kwakhe, ngeke kube khona olunye uphenyo ngaphandle kwesizathu sokufa kwakhe. Amalungu omndeni wakhe asindile abengenaso isifiso sokuqhubeka nenqubo yokuphishekela noma yini eqhubekayo ngesikhathi sabo sokudabuka. Njengoba ngangidabukile futhi ngishaqekile njengoba ngangilahlekelwe ngokuzumayo ngumngane wami othandekayo uMitsu, okwangicindezela kakhulu ukuthi ngangingasakwazi ukumenzela lutho nhlobo ekugcineni. Manje kwase kwephuze kakhulu, futhi ngezwa ukuthi ngizokushaya.
Ngenkathi ngazi ezingeni lokuthi akukho okunye ebengingakwenza, ingxenye yami isazisola ngokungakwazi ukuvimbela ubuhlungu nokulahlekelwa kwakhe ngandlela thile. Empilweni yami nasemsebenzini wami, ngihlale ngizama ukuba ngumuntu osebenzela abanye, nokwenza igalelo elihle. Ngizwe sengathi sengimyekise ngokuphelele uMitsu ngesikhathi sakhe sokudinga okukhulu, futhi bekungekho nje engingakwenza ukuguqula lokho kufikelwa okubi. Ngazizwa ngithukuthele kakhulu, ngidabukile, futhi nginecala ngasikhathi sinye.
Ngenkathi ngisaqhubeka ngisebenza emsebenzini, ngaba nokukhathazeka futhi ngayeka emicimbini eminingi yokuzijabulisa engangikujabulela ukuyenza ngaphambili. Nganginenkinga yokulala ubusuku bonke, ngivame ukuvuka ngomjuluko obandayo. Ngayeka ukujima, ukuya karaoke, nokuzijabulisa ngamaqembu amakhulu, konke ngenxa yomuzwa oqhubekayo wokuthi ngangihlulekile ukusiza umngane wami lapho ayedinga kakhulu khona. Kwaphela amasonto nezinyanga, ngihlala izinsuku eziningi kulokho engingakwazi ukukuchaza njengenkungu esindayo, ebandayo.
Ngenhlanhla, ngikwazile ukuvuma kwabanye ukuthi ngangibhekene nalolu sizi olukhulu futhi ngidinga ukwesekwa. Yize ngingakakhulumi obala ngakho ngakho kuze kube manje, ngisizwe kakhulu abanye babangani bami abaseduze kakhulu nozakwethu emsebenzini. Bangikhuthaze ukuthi ngifune enye indlela yokuhlonipha inkumbulo kaMitsu, ngendlela engaba nomqondo futhi ibe nomthelela othile ohlala njalo. Ngenxa yokuxhaswa kwabo ngomusa, ngikwazile ukujoyina imihlangano yokufundisana kanye nemisebenzi eminingi lapha eTucson esekela izisulu zodlame lwasekhaya futhi futhi isebenza ukusiza ukukhulisa izinsizwa ezinempilo nezinenhlonipho.
Ngiqale futhi nokubona udokotela wezempilo oziphethe kahle emtholampilo wasendaweni womphakathi, ongisize ngokungenakulinganiswa ukuba ngiqonde futhi ngisebenze ngemizwa yami eyinkimbinkimbi yentukuthelo, ubuhlungu nosizi mayelana nokulahlekelwa ngumngane wami omuhle. Ungisizile ngahamba indlela ende eya ekululameni nasekuqondeni ukuthi ubuhlungu bokuhlukumezeka ngokomzwelo bufana nobuthakathaka njengomlenze ophukile noma isifo senhliziyo, noma ngabe izimpawu azibonakali kangako ngaphandle. Isinyathelo ngesinyathelo, sekulula, yize ngezinye izinsuku ubuhlungu bosizi busangishaya kungalindelekile.
Ngokwabelana ngendaba yakhe, nokuqhakambisa amacala okuzibulala ahlala enganakwa ngenxa yokuhlukunyezwa, ngiyethemba ukuthi thina njengomphakathi singaqhubeka sifunde futhi sikhulume ngalolu bhubhane olubi. Uma ngisho nomuntu oyedwa azi kangcono ngodlame lwasekhaya ngokufunda le ndatshana, futhi asebenze ukusiza ukuqeda, ngizojabula.
Yize ngibuhlungu ngingeke ngiphinde ngibone noma ngikhulume nomngani wami futhi, ngiyazi ukuthi ukumamatheka kwakhe okukhazimulayo nobubele bakhe obuhle kwabanye ngeke kuze kufiphale, njengoba eqhubeka nomsebenzi sonke esiwenza ngokubambisana ukwenza umhlaba ube indawo ekhanyayo endaweni yethu imiphakathi yabo. Kusukela lapho ngizinikele ngokuphelele kulo msebenzi lapha eTucson njengendlela yokubungaza isikhathi esifushane kakhulu sikaMitsu lapha emhlabeni, nefa elihle ngokumangalisayo aqhubeka nokusishiya nalo, namanje.