Okthoba 2019 - Ukusekela izisulu ezizibulala
UMitsu ushone ngokuzibulala ngosuku olulandelayo ngemuva kokudalula ukuhlukunyezwa abhekana nakho kumngani wakhe uMark. Sifisa sengathi ngabe indaba kaMitsu ibiyivelakancane, kodwa ngeshwa, ucwaningo lukhombisa ukuthi abantu besifazane asebeke bahlukunyezwa emakhaya kasikhombisa maningi amathuba okuthola umbono wokuzibulala uma kuqhathaniswa nabantu abangakaze babhekane nokuhlukunyezwa kwasekhaya. Ngokwesimo somhlaba jikelele, i-World Health Organisation ithole ngo-2014 lowo muntu Ufa ngokuzibulala njalo ngemizuzwana engama-40, futhi ukuzibulala kuyimbangela yesibili ehamba phambili yokufa kwabaneminyaka engu-15 - 29 ubudala.
Lapho ufaka imininingwane yokuthi ubunikazi obuhlukahlukene buhlobene kanjani nekhono, ubulili, ubuhlanga nokuziphatha ngokobulili kungagqagqana, izici ezinobungozi zezisulu zokuhlukunyezwa emakhaya ezicabanga ngokuzibulala ziyanda. Ngamanye amagama, lapho umuntu ephila ngokuhlangenwe nakho kokuzulazula njalo ngenxa yobunikazi babo, futhi babhekana nokuhlukunyezwa emakhaya ngasikhathi sinye, impilo yabo yengqondo ingathinteka kakhulu.
Isibonelo, ngenxa yokuhlukumezeka okungokomlando nomlando omude wengcindezelo, abesifazane abangamaNative American noma ama-Alaska Natives basengozini enkulu yokuzibulala. Ngokufanayo, intsha ekhomba emiphakathini ye-LGBTQ futhi eye yabhekana nokucwaswa, nabesifazane abaphila ne- ukukhubazeka noma ukugula okuqeda amandla abathola ukuhlukunyezwa ngasikhathi sinye basengozini enkulu.
Ngo 2014, Isinyathelo sikaHulumeni ngokusebenzisa iSAMHSA (Ukuphathwa Kwezidakamizwa Nokuphathwa Kwezinsizakalo Zempilo Yengqondo) saqala ukubheka ukusebenzisana phakathi kokuhlukunyezwa kwasekhaya nokuzibulala futhi wanxusa ochwepheshe kuyo yomibili imikhakha ukuthi baqonde izixhumanisi ukuze basekele kangcono abantu abahlukunyezwa emakhaya baqonde ukuthi ukuzibulala akuyona ukuphela kwendlela yokuphuma ebudlelwaneni babo.
Yini Ongayenza?
UMark uchaza ukuthi yena, njengomngani kaMitsu, wameseka kanjani uMitsu ngemuva kokuba evulelekile ngobudlelwano bakhe bokuhlukumezeka. Ubuye achaze imizwa nobunzima abhekana nabo ngenkathi efa ngokuzibulala. Ngakho-ke, ungasiza kanjani uma umuntu omthandayo ehlukunyezwa ekhaya futhi ecabanga ngokuzibulala njengendlela yokuphuma?
Okokuqala, qonda i- izimpawu eziyisixwayiso zokuhlukunyezwa emakhaya. Okwesibili, funda izimpawu eziyisixwayiso zokuzibulala. Ngokusho kwe- Inombolo Kazwelonke Yokuvimbela Ukuzibulala, uhlu olulandelayo luhlanganisa izinto ongaziqapha, uma ukhathazekile ngothandekayo:
- Ukukhuluma ngokufuna ukufa noma ukuzibulala
- Ukufuna indlela yokuzibulala, njengokucinga ku-inthanethi noma ukuthenga isibhamu
- Ukukhuluma ngokuzizwa ungenathemba noma ukungabi nasizathu sokuphila
- Ukukhuluma ngokuzizwa ubhajwe noma kubuhlungu obungabekezeleleki
- Ukukhuluma ngokuba umthwalo kwabanye
- Ukwandisa ukusetshenziswa kotshwala noma izidakamizwa
- Ukwenza ukukhathazeka noma ukukhathazeka; iziphatha budedengu
- Ukulala kancane noma ngokweqile
- Ukuhoxa noma ukuzihlukanisa
- Ukukhombisa ukufutheka noma ukukhuluma ngokufuna ukuziphindisela
- Ukuba nokushintsha kwemizwelo ngokweqile
Kubalulekile futhi ukwazi ukuthi kwesinye isikhathi, abantu bazothululela isifuba kokunye, kepha hhayi okunye. Bangazwakalisa imizwa yokungabi nathemba, kepha bangakuxhumanisi nokuhlukunyezwa ababhekene nakho ebuhlotsheni babo obuseduze. Noma, bangakhombisa ukukhathazeka ngobudlelwano babo obuseduze, kepha bangakhulumi ngombono wokuzibulala abangaba nawo.
Okwesithathu, nikela ngezinsizakusebenza nokusekelwa.
- Ukuze uthole ukusekelwa kokuhlukunyezwa kwasekhaya, othandekayo wakho angashayela inombolo yocingo yezilimi eziningi ye-Emerge engu-24/7 nganoma isiphi isikhathi 520-795-4266 or 1-888-428-0101.
- Ngokuvikela ukuzibulala, iPima County inolayini obanzi womphakathi: (520) 622-6000 or 1 (866) 495-6735.
- Kukhona futhi Inombolo Kazwelonke Yokuzibulala (okubandakanya isici sokuxoxa, uma lokho kufinyeleleka kalula): 1-800-273-8255
Kuthiwani ngabasindile besibili?
Abasindile kwesibili, njengoMark, nabo kufanele bathole ukwesekwa. Owasinda okwesibili ngumuntu osondelene nomuntu ohlukunyeziwe wasekhaya futhi uhlangabezana nezimpendulo ekuhlukumezeni othandekayo wakhe abhekana nakho, njengokucindezeleka, ukungalali nokukhathazeka. Kuyingxenye ejwayelekile yenqubo yokudabuka ukuzwa imizwa eyinkimbinkimbi ngemuva kokuthi othandekayo - owake wahlukunyezwa abalingani abathandanayo - efa ngokuzibulala, kufaka phakathi intukuthelo, ukudabuka nokusolwa.
Abantu obathandayo bavame ukubanzima ukuthola indlela engcono yokuxhasa abahlukunyezwayo uma bephila ngokuhlukunyezwa, futhi bangazizwa sengathi abenzi “okwanele.” Le mizwa ingaqhubeka uma othandekayo wabo efa ngokuzibulala (noma efa ngenxa yokuhlukunyezwa). Othandekayo angase azizwe engenakusiza futhi enecala ngemva kokushona kwakhe.
Njengoba uMark esho, ukubona umelaphi wezempilo wokuziphatha ukucubungula usizi nobuhlungu bokulahlekelwa iMitsu kuye kwaba usizo. Ukwesekwa kungabukeka kwehlukile komunye umuntu kuya kokulandelayo maqondana nokucubungula ukuhlukumezeka kwesibili; ukubona umelaphi, ukushicilela izindaba nokuthola iqembu lokusekelwa konke kuyizindlela ezinhle zokuthola ukwelashwa. Abanye esibathandayo bathola ubunzima ikakhulukazi phakathi nesikhathi amaholide, izikhumbuzo nezinsuku zokuzalwa, futhi ingadinga ukuxhaswa okwengeziwe ngalezo zikhathi.
Usizo oluyigugu kakhulu esingalunikeza labo abahlala ebudlelwaneni obuhlukumezayo futhi mhlawumbe abahlangabezana nokuhlukaniswa noma imicabango yokuzibulala ukuzimisela kwethu ukulalela futhi bavulekele ukuzwa izindaba zabo, ukubakhombisa ukuthi ababodwa futhi kukhona indlela phuma. Ukuthi noma ngabe bahlangabezana nezikhathi ezinzima, izimpilo zabo zibalulekile ngakho-ke kufanele ukufuna ukuxhaswa.