UCecelia Jordan unguthisha, imbongi kanye nomsebenzi wezobulungiswa oguqukile emphakathini. Inhlangano yakhe, i-Love in Public, ithuthukisa amava okufunda angempela ezinhlangano ezigxile kwezobulungiswa.

    Ukuphendula Umzimba Wami Uyisikhumbuzo Esihlangene nguCaroline Randall Williams. Ngiyabonga, Nksz Williams (@ caroranwill), ngokusho leli qiniso elibaluleke kakhulu. 

    "Ngabe ucabanga ukuthi ugogo kakhokho wakhe udadewabo mkhulu wadlwengulwa?" 

    - Lona ngumbuzo kababa wami ephendula isitatimende esinesibindi: Ngidlwengule isikhumba esinemibala. Ngifaka ulwandle olucabangayo, bese ngiyachaza, "umuntu ogqilaziwe akakwazi ukuvuma." 

    “Ngiyakuzonda ukucabanga ukuthi owesifazane oMnyama akakwazi ukwenza ukuthi umlungu athandane naye,” usho kanje. Ngiyanengeka. 

    Uyaphendula, "Angiboni ukuthi lokho kuhlangene ngani nodlame lwasekhaya."

    Ngingowesifazane omnyama wesifazane ophakathi nendawo, uthisha, umsebenzi wobulungiswa obuyisela esimweni esifanele, udadewabo, u-anti, umzukulu, umshana, i-hood nerd engaphenduli, imbongi nomuntu osindile. Injongo yami yokuphila iqondiswa ngumbuzo ongelula kangako: silapha kanjani ekulimaleni ukuze samukele ipolitiki yokunakekelwa futhi sakhe izinhlelo ezigxile othandweni? Uma “uthando lubukeka kanjalo emphakathini,” njenge UDkt Cornel West uthi, lapho-ke kufanele sigxile emizamweni yethu kulabo abathintwe kakhulu ukungabi nabulungisa. Lokhu kuzodinga ukuthi siphume ezindaweni zethu zokunethezeka, futhi sidlulise ububele kubantu abahlangabezana nokulimala kwezizukulwane futhi banqatshelwe ukufinyelela izinsizakusebenza. Uma thina, njengomphakathi, singakholelwa ukuthi abesifazane abaMnyama abagqilaziwe bangadlwengulwa ngamakhosi nababonisi babo, umuntu angazi kanjani ukuthi abesifazane abaMnyama njengamanje bayizisulu zabo udlame lomlingani osondelene naye?

    Lapho owesifazane omnyama ehlukunyezwa, bazosola izimo zethu zengqondo, ukukhetha kwethu okokugqoka, ukudlula kwethu, futhi cabanga ukuthi asibuzwa ubuhlungu. Iqiniso liwukuthi, isimo sethu sengqondo, ukuzibophezela kwethu ngokungenakuphikiswa eqinisweni elingalawulwa, kwakhelwe ekuphenduleni ukunganaki okwenzakalayo komphakathi. Sisakhuluma ngobugqila maqondana nodlame ngoba abesifazane abaMnyama basafa ezandleni zezinhlelo, futhi ngoba sonke sakha izinhlelo, abesifazane abaMnyama bafa ezandleni zakho. Unesibopho sezinsalela zobugqila nekoloni. Ubhekene nemicabango yakho, izenzo zakho nokuziphatha kwakho kwabesifazane abaMnyama. Unesibopho sokusikholelwa, noma uqhubeke nokusekela amaphupho aqanjiwe, angenabuntu, nawokuxhumana ngocansi lapho abesifazane nabamnyama behlukumezeka ngoba senza abadlwenguli basithande. Yonke le mibono elwa nabamnyama kumele isuswe.

    In Circle, lapho kugcinwa khona isikhala sokuthola amanani abiwe nokwakha ubudlelwano, ngifunde izinto ezimbili: abantu abaningi abangebona abaMnyama abekho ebudlelwaneni obujulile neBlack folx, futhi uma "beqwashisiwe" ngaleli qiniso, iningi liyavuma ukuthi lidale amanani amakhulu yokulimaza. Ukuzimisela akuwubuyiseli emuva umthelela womonakalo odalekile: ukuxosha abesifazane abaMnyama emisebenzini yabo, besebenzisa abangani abaMnyama ukuxoxa ngobandlululo, ukwamukela izingane eziMnyama ukuthi zingabonakali zinobandlululo, zifundisa abafundi abaMnyama ukuthi bahlonipheke, bangazinaki amahlaya obandlululo phakathi kwemindeni, bashiye Ukuziphatha kwabantu abamnyama emsebenzini akuhloliwe. Ukubonakala kuthule ukunamathela komuntu siqu emithethweni enjalo kulimaze impilo yabantu abaMnyama kulindelekile emphakathini olandela umthetho wezomthetho kulimale impilo yabamnyama.

    Ukuphepha kuyinto yokunethezeka engatholakali yesikhumba esimnyama. Inyanga Yokuqwashisa Ngodlame lwasekhaya kusinikeza indawo yokubhekana naleli qiniso elingakhulumeki eceleni kwendlovu ehlala ikhona engxoxweni yomjaho: kuthiwani ngodlame lwamaBlack on Black? Yebo, abesifazane abaMnyama banjalo amathuba aphindwe kane kunontanga yabo abamhlophe ukubulawa isoka noma intombi, futhi amathuba aphindwe kabili okubulawa ngumlingani. Siyalimala ngabazala bethu, omalume, abafowethu, abangani nabathandi. Ubudlova obumnyama kwabaMnyama, noma ubudlova obuphakathi kwabantu abaMnyama, kuyizimpawu zomphakathi odala izithiyo zemfundo, ezokwelapha, ezokuxhumana, nezingokomthetho ngempilo yabantu abaMnyama.

    Ukuba ngowesifazane oMnyama kufanele kube yisihlangu nenhloso njalo. Umnikazi wenjabulo nobuhlungu bomphakathi. Ukuqina, ukukhuluma kahle nokubanda. Ukuzethemba, muhle futhi ulume. Ukuba ngumama, incekukazi nesigqila. Ku ukuncelisa ingane ibele lokho kamuva kuzoba yinkosi yakho. Ukwephulwa kodwa akekho owubiza ngodlame, uphawu nje lomphakathi onodlame. Ukuba kakhulu futhi ungalokothi unele. Ngenkathi izikhungo zethu ziqinisa lolu dlame, izimpande zawo zingatholakala enhlabathini enegazi yobugqila bezingxoxo. Lapha, ebudlelwaneni bethu obusondelene kakhulu nabantu, sihlangene ekuhlukunyezweni. Noma kungabonakali kangako, ubudlelwano bethu bayizikhumbuzo zesivumelwano, futhi; bavuna ukwesaba ngezinhlaka zemindeni yethu, izinhlelo zomsebenzi, nangempilo yethu.

     

    E-US, abesifazane abaMnyama nabomdabu babhekene amazinga aphezulu obudlova basekhaya kunabesifazane bazo zonke ezinye izinhlanga. Imithetho elawula umphakathi wethu ikwenza kucace ukuthi uhlelo lwethu lwezomthetho alunandaba nemiphumela yabantu abahlukumeza abesifazane. Esikhundleni salokho, yenzelwe ukubopha nokugqilaza abantu bakithi ngegebe loMthethosisekelo. Uma sicabanga nge Ukuchitshiyelwa kwe-13th ukuze sibe lukhuni oluhlelekile, khona-ke uhlelo lwethu lwezomthetho lobugebengu luyisikhumbuzo sesigqila esakhiwe phezu kwenkolelo yokuthi abanye bafanelwe ubuntu kunabanye. Izisho ezindala ezinjengokuthi “okwenzeka kule ndlu, zihlala kule ndlu” zisebenza njengesikhumbuzo sokuthi isiko lethu aligxilile kuphela ekuthuliseni izisulu, kodwa nasekuvikeleni isigodi; ku-hood nasezindlini zezigqila zosuku lwanamuhla lapho abafana abaluhlaza okwesibhakabhaka bangena njengababonisi futhi bahambise lokho okuthiwa uhlobo lobulungiswa.

    Uhlobo lwethu lwamanje lobulungiswa lunodlame ngokwemvelo, alunabuntu futhi luphelelwe yisikhathi. Siyabona ukuthi udlame lungena emhlabathini wasekhaya futhi lukhula kakhulu udlame lwasekhaya. Ebuhlungwini obukhona bamanje obukhulu ukwehluleka kabanzi, asifuni ukuthi abahlukumezi bethu bajeziswe, baboshwe noma balahlwe — sifuna ukuphulukiswa. Futhi namanje, lapho abesifazane abaMnyama bethatha isinqumo sokwenza kanjalo aphule ukuthula, sivame ukuxoshwa noma sihlanganiswe ekuhlaselweni ngokobuhlanga kubantu bethu. Silwela izinsalela zamandla abangelwa i-hormone ngoba kuzwakala sengathi asinakho. Sihlala ebudlelwaneni obuhlukumezayo ngoba sihlala sizama ukusindisa abantu bethu.

    Sizokwazi ukuthi ubulungiswa bubukeka kanjani uma sazi ukuthanda abantu abaMnyama, futhi ikakhulukazi abesifazane abaMnyama. Ukusithanda akusikho ukubuyela ebuhleni bobumhlophe, kodwa kungokwamukela udlame lokuhlanekezelwa kwabamhlophe namanga "eqiniso" lalo. Cabanga nje ngomhlaba lapho abesifazane abaNsundu belapha khona futhi bakhe amasistimu alungile wokuxhasa nokuziphendulela. Ake ucabange izikhungo ezakhiwe ngabantu abazibophezela ukuthi bazoba ngababambisene nabo ekulweleni inkululeko nobulungiswa babamnyama, futhi bazibophezele ekuqondeni isisekelo esigqinsiwe sepolitiki yamasimu. Cabanga, okokuqala emlandweni, simenyelwa ukuqedela Ukwakha kabusha.

    Kulesi sizukulwane impi nabantu abaMnyama, ngabesifazane abaMnyama ababhekana nodlame ezinhlangothini eziningi. Ngokuhlonipha le nyanga, nangezinsuku, izinyanga neminyaka ezayo, zinike isikhathi sokubona nokulalela abesifazane abaMnyama empilweni yakho. Ungakhulumi, ungaphikisi, khumbula nje ukuthi awusoze waqala ukucabanga ngobungako obukhulu bezinhlungu ezingachazeki esizithweleyo, kokubili epigenetically nakulesi sikhathi sokuphila. Yiba nosizo futhi uhlale sekwephuzile ukusiza; ungaceli umsebenzi ongakhokhelwa. Thenga isidlo sasemini bese upheka isidlo sakusihlwa; imali yesipho, ngaphandle kwesizathu. Funda ngomlando weqiniso waleli zwe — ngodlame oluhlelekile nokulwa nobumnyama. Khuluma nefolks yakho uthole izindlela zokwenza abantu baphendule. Futhi ngaphezu kwakho konke, kwakha ubudlelwano obujulile nabantu abazibophezele ekuguqukeni komphakathi, ekushintsheni ngokuphelele kwenqubomgomo, kanye nasezinsizakalweni zonke izinhlelo ezikudingayo kuleli zwe.

    Konke ukuxhumana nowesifazane oMnyama kuletha noma ithuba lokubhekana nodlame lwasekhaya nobugqila, nokuhlawulela ukulimala okuhleliwe, noma ukukhetha ukuqhubeka nokulandela izinkambiso zomphakathi ezinodlame. Yazi ukuthi lokhu kuvuka kuzoshintsha konke. Kumele siguqule konke egameni lothando, lekusasa, kanye nomoya wabesifazane abaNsundu abaqhubeka nokuhamba kwethu baye ebulungiseni.

    Ukuze uthathe isenzo, vakashela Thanda Obala futhi usize ukuhlinzeka ngezindawo zokuphepha nezokulapha eziphephile zomuntu omnyama phakathi nenyanga yokuqwashisa ngodlame lwasekhaya, nasezinyangeni ezizayo.

     

     Mayelana Nothando Esidlangalaleni. I-Love in Public inikeza okuhlangenwe nakho kokufunda okuyiqiniso nokwenzelwe izinhlangano ezigxile kwezobulungiswa ukwakha ubudlelwano obuqinile, ukugxila kubunikazi kanye nokuhlangenwe nakho kwalabo abadudulwe kakhulu emaphethelweni, futhi kuvuselele lokho okutholakele ukwazisa indlela eya ekuguqukeni nasekusimeni kwenhlangano.

    Sihlanganisa ukufundisa okubucayi, ubulungiswa bokubuyisela esimweni, kanye nemikhuba yokwelapha emsebenzini wethu wokufunda osuselwe ekuqondweni kwemfundiso yenkosikazi yabesifazane abamnyama, iLatinx Critical Theory, Tribal Crit, nokuningi. Ngokubambisana, sihlanganyela ekulingiseni, izinkondlo, inkulumo, kanye nemihlangano yokubhala imibono, ukuhamba igalari, indawo yaseshashalazini, imisebenzi yokulalela okujulile, nemibuthano.