Okthoba 2019 - Ukusekela Abasindile Abahlala
Lapho sikhathazekile ngomuntu esimthandayo, siyasabela. Ekuzameni ukuvikela othandekayo wethu ehlukunyezwa, lokhu kusabela kwesinye isikhathi kubandakanya ukwethuka (“udinga ukuphuma manje!”), Uthando olunzima (“uwondlile umbhede wakho, manje kuzomele ulale kuwo”), ulaka (“I Ngizonikeza umlingani wakho isiqeshana somqondo wami! ”) kanye necala (“ cabanga ngezingane zakho! ”). Lapho sisabela ngalezo zindlela nomuntu ohlukunyezwayo, singenza kusebenze imizwa yokuphoxeka nokwesaba, futhi, ngamabomu noma singahlosile, sihlukanise othandekayo wethu ekusithululeni isifuba ngolwazi abaphila kulo.
Baningi abasinde ekuhlukunyezweni emakhaya bathande abalingani babo. Njengomphakathi, sichithe amashumi eminyaka sisiza abasindile ukuthi baphume ebudlelwaneni babo obuhlukumezayo — futhi sichithe isikhathi esincane kakhulu sisiza abasindile ukuthi bahlale bephephile ebudlelwaneni babo. Ngenxa yalokhu kushukumiseka, sakhe inkomba yabasindile abangafuni ukushiya ophathina babo noma imindeni yabo — futhi badale amahloni ngokufuna ukuhlala.
Esikhundleni sokugxumela ukufuna isimilo esithile kubathandekayo bethu, umbuzo uba ukuthi singamsiza kanjani othandekayo wethu aphephe ngangokunokwenzeka, noma ngabe bakhetha ukuhlala ebudlelwaneni. Masivule ingxoxo nomuntu esimthandayo ukufaka izindlela eziningi, eziqhutshwa ngumuntu osindile obhekene nokuhlukunyezwa.
Funda kabanzi mayelana nokuthi ungayivula kanjani ingxoxo nomuntu omthandayo ohlukunyezwa.