Udindo wathu pakuthana ndi tsankho komanso kudana ndi mdima kwa opulumuka akuda

Yolembedwa ndi Anna Harper-Guerrero

Emerge yakhala ikusintha ndikusintha kwazaka 6 zapitazi zomwe zikuyang'ana kwambiri kukhala bungwe lotsutsana ndi tsankho, komanso zikhalidwe zosiyanasiyana. Tikugwira ntchito tsiku lililonse kuti tithane ndi mdima ndikuthana ndi tsankho poyesera kubwerera ku umunthu womwe umakhala mkati mwathu tonsefe. Tikufuna kukhala chiwonetsero cha kumasulidwa, chikondi, chifundo ndi kuchiritsidwa - zomwezi zomwe timafuna kwa aliyense amene akuvutika mdera lathu. Emerge ali paulendo wokalankhula zowona zosafotokozedwa za ntchito yathu ndipo modzipereka apereka zolemba ndi makanema modzipereka kuchokera kwa omwe amagwirizana nawo mwezi uno. Izi ndi zowona zofunika pazomwe zenizeni zomwe opulumuka akuyesa kupeza chithandizo. Timakhulupirira kuti m'choonadi chimenecho ndiye kuunika kwa njira yakutsogolo. 

Njirayi ndiyosachedwa, ndipo tsiku lililonse padzakhala maitanidwe, enieni komanso ophiphiritsira, obwereranso ku zomwe sizinathandize mdera lathu, kutitumikira monga anthu omwe akupanga Emerge, komanso zomwe sizinathandize opulumuka m'njira zomwe woyenera. Tikugwira ntchito kuti tipeze zofunikira pamoyo wa opulumuka ONSE. Tili ndiudindo woyitanitsa zokambirana molimba mtima ndi mabungwe ena osachita phindu ndikugawana nawo ulendo wathu wosokonekera pantchito iyi kuti titha kusintha njira yomwe idabadwa chifukwa chofuna kugawa ndikugawa anthu mdera lathu. Mizu yakale ya njira yopanda phindu siyinganyalanyazidwe. 

Ngati titenga mfundo yomwe a Michael Brasher adalemba mwezi uno chikhalidwe chogwirira amuna komanso anyamata, titha kuwona kufanana tikasankha kutero. "Makhalidwe omveka bwino, omwe nthawi zambiri sanasankhidwe, omwe ali mu chikhalidwe cha 'kudzikweza' ndi gawo la malo omwe amuna amaphunzitsidwa kuti achotse malingaliro awo, kulemekeza kukakamira ndikupambana, ndikuchitirana nkhanza wina ndi mnzake kutha kutengera mikhalidwe imeneyi. ”

Monga mizu yamtengo yomwe imathandizira ndikukhazikika, chimango chathu chakhazikika pazikhalidwe zomwe zimanyalanyaza mbiri yakale yokhudza nkhanza zapabanja komanso zachiwerewere monga chiyambi cha tsankho, ukapolo, kusankhana mitundu, kusankhana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, komanso transphobia. Machitidwe oponderezawa amatipatsa chilolezo chonyalanyaza zomwe a Black, Indigenous, ndi People of Colour - kuphatikiza iwo omwe amadziwika m'magulu a LGBTQ - osakhala ndi phindu locheperako komanso osapezeka kwenikweni. Ndizowopsa kwa ife kuganiza kuti mfundo izi sizimalowa munthawi yakutsogolo kwa ntchito yathu ndikukhala ndi malingaliro ndi machitidwe amtsiku ndi tsiku.

Ndife okonzeka kutaya zonse. Ndipo mwa zonse zomwe tikutanthauza, nenani zoona zonse momwe ntchito zankhanza zapabanja sizinapezere mwayi kwa opulumuka ONSE. Sitinaganizirepo gawo lathu pothana ndi tsankho komanso kulimbana ndi mdima kwa opulumuka akuda. Ndife osagwiritsa ntchito phindu lomwe lakhazikitsa gawo laukadaulo kuchokera kuzowawa m'dera lathu chifukwa ndiye mtundu womwe tidapangidwira kuti tigwiritse ntchito. Takhala tikulimbana kuti tiwone momwe kuponderezana komwe kumabweretsa zachiwawa zosatha kuzindikira m'derali zagwiranso ntchito mwachinyengo munjira yomwe idapangidwa kuti iyankhe omwe apulumuka pa chiwawacho. Pakadali pano, opulumuka ONSE sangakwaniritse zosowa zawo m'dongosolo lino, ndipo ambiri a ife omwe tikugwira ntchitoyi takhala tikugwiritsa ntchito njira yodzitetezera kuzowona za iwo omwe sangatumikire. Koma izi zitha, ndipo ziyenera, kusintha. Tiyenera kusintha dongosololi kuti umunthu wathunthu wa opulumuka ONSE uwoneke ndikulemekezedwa.

Kuti tilingalire za momwe tingasinthire ngati malo mkati mwamakina ovuta, ozikika kwambiri amafunika kulimba mtima. Zimatipangitsa kuti tiziika pachiwopsezo ndikuwerengera zoyipa zomwe tachita. Zimatithandizanso kuti tizingokhalira kuganizira za tsogolo lathu. Zimatipangitsa kuti tisakhale chete pazowonadi. Zoonadi zomwe tonse timadziwa zilipo. Tsankho silatsopano. Opulumuka akuda akumverera kukhumudwitsidwa ndi kuwoneka si kwatsopano. Chiwerengero cha Akazi Amwenye Omwe Akusowa ndi Kuphedwa siatsopano. Koma kuyika kwathu patsogolo pankhaniyi ndi kwatsopano. 

Akazi Akuda amayenera kukondedwa, kukondweretsedwa, ndi kukwezedwa chifukwa cha nzeru, chidziwitso, komanso kukwanitsa kuchita zinthu zina. Tiyeneranso kuvomereza kuti Akazi Akuda sangachitire mwina koma kupulumuka pakati pa anthu omwe sankawakonda. Tiyenera kumvera mawu awo pazakusintha kumatanthauza koma kutenga udindo wathu kuzindikira ndi kuthana ndi kupanda chilungamo komwe kumachitika tsiku ndi tsiku.

Amayi Amakolo amayenera kukhala momasuka ndikulemekezedwa pazonse zomwe adaluka padziko lapansi lomwe timapitilirako - kuphatikiza matupi awo omwe. Kuyesayesa kwathu kumasula anthu amtundu wathu ku nkhanza zapakhomo kuyeneranso kukhala ndi umwini wa zowawa zakale ndi zowonadi zomwe timabisala za omwe adabzala mbewu zawo. Kuphatikiza umwini wa njira zomwe timayesera kuthirira nyembazo tsiku ndi tsiku ngati gulu.

Palibe vuto kunena zowona pazomwe zidachitikazi. M'malo mwake, ndizofunikira kwambiri pakupulumuka pamodzi kwa onse opulumuka mdera lino. Tikaika pakati omwe amamvedwa pang'ono, timaonetsetsa kuti malowa ndi otseguka kwa aliyense.

Titha kulingalira ndikumanga mwachangu makina omwe ali ndi kuthekera kwakukulu koteteza chitetezo ndikusunga umunthu wa aliyense mdera lathu. Titha kukhala malo omwe aliyense amalandilidwa mokwanira, modzaza, komanso komwe moyo wa aliyense uli ndi phindu, pomwe kuyankha kumawoneka ngati chikondi. Dera lomwe tonse tili ndi mwayi wopanga moyo wopanda chiwawa.

Queens ndi gulu lothandizira lomwe lidapangidwa ku Emerge kuti likhazikitse zokumana nazo za Akazi Akuda pantchito yathu. Idapangidwa ndi kutsogozedwa ndi Akazi Akuda.

Sabata ino tikupereka monyadira mawu ofunikira komanso zokumana nazo za a Queens, omwe adadutsa njira motsogozedwa ndi Cecelia Jordan m'masabata anayi apitawa kuti akalimbikitse osalondera, osaphika, onena zowona ngati njira yopita kuchilitso. Izi ndi zomwe a Queens adasankha kugawana ndi anthu ammudzi polemekeza Mwezi Wodziwitsa Zachiwawa Pabanja.

Kuchitira Nkhanza Akazi Amwenye

Yolembedwa ndi April Ignacio

April Ignacio ndi nzika ya Tohono O'odham Nation ndipo ndi amene anayambitsa Indivisible Tohono, bungwe lomwe limapereka mpata wochita zachitukuko komanso maphunziro kupitilira kuvotera mamembala a Tohono O'odham Nation. Ndiwowalimbikitsa kwambiri azimayi, mayi wa asanu ndi mmodzi komanso wojambula.

Nkhanza zomwe zimachitika kwa amayi amtundu wathu zakhala zachizolowezi kotero kuti timakhala pachowonadi chosanenedwa, chobisika kuti matupi athu siife. Kukumbukira kwanga koyamba za chowonadi ichi mwina ndi zaka za 3 kapena 4, ndidapita ku HeadStart Program m'mudzi wotchedwa Pisinemo. Ndikukumbukira kuti ndinauzidwa “Musalole kuti aliyense akutengeni” ngati chenjezo lochokera kwa aphunzitsi anga paulendo wakumunda. Ndimakumbukira ndikuopa kuti m'mene wina angayese "kunditenga" koma sindinamvetse tanthauzo lake. Ndinkadziwa kuti ndiyenera kukhala patali ndi aphunzitsi anga ndipo kuti, ndili mwana wazaka 3 kapena 4 kenako ndidazindikira mwadzidzidzi zondizungulira. Ndazindikira tsopano kuti ndakula, vutoli lidaperekedwa kwa ine, ndipo ndidali nalo kwa ana anga omwe. Mwana wanga wamkazi wamkulu ndi mwana wanga wamwamuna akukumbukira kulangizidwa ndi ine “Musalole kuti aliyense akutengeni” popeza amayenda kwinakwake popanda ine. 

 

Zakale zachiwawa kwa anthu amtundu ku United States zadzetsa chizolowezi pakati pa anthu amitundu yambiri kuti nditapemphedwa kuti ndipereke chidziwitso kwa amayi ndi atsikana omwe akusowa komanso kuphedwa I  tinavutika kuti tipeze mawu oti tikambirane za zomwe timakumana nazo zomwe zimawoneka kuti ndizokayikira. Ndikanena matupi athu sakhala athu, Ndikulankhula za izi m'mbiri yakale. Boma la United States lidavomereza mapulogalamu azakuthambo ndikulunjika kwa Amwenye am'dziko lino m'dzina la "kupita patsogolo". Kaya anali kusuntha mokakamira Achimwenye kuchokera kumayiko awo kupita kumalo osungira, kapena kuba ana m'nyumba zawo kuti adzawaike m'masukulu apanyanja mdziko lonselo, kapena kutseketsa mokakamiza kwa azimayi athu ku Indian Health Services kuyambira 1960 mpaka ma 80s onse. Anthu akomweko amakakamizidwa kuti apulumuke m'mbiri ya moyo yodzala ndi zachiwawa ndipo nthawi zambiri zimamveka ngati tikufuula zopanda pake. Nkhani zathu sizimawoneka kwa ambiri, mawu athu amakhalabe osamveka.

 

Ndikofunika kukumbukira kuti pali mitundu 574 yamitundu ku United States ndipo lirilonse ndi lapadera. Ku Arizona kokha kuli Mitundu 22 yamitundu yosiyana, kuphatikiza kusuntha kochokera ku Mitundu ina mdziko lonselo lomwe limatcha Arizona kwawo. Chifukwa chake kusonkhanitsa kwa Amayi ndi Atsikana Osowa ndi Ophedwa Operewera ndi Ophedwa kwakhala kovuta ndipo kuli pafupi kuthekera koti kuchitike. Tikuvutika kuti tipeze kuchuluka kwa amayi ndi atsikana achimwenye omwe aphedwa, akusowa, kapena kutengedwa. Zovuta zakusunthaku zikuwongoleredwa ndi Amayi Achimwenye, ndife akatswiri athu.

 

M'madera ena, amayi akuphedwa ndi anthu omwe si mbadwa zawo. M'madera amtundu wanga 90% yamilandu ya azimayi omwe adaphedwa, adachitika chifukwa cha nkhanza zapabanja ndipo izi zikuwonekera pamilandu yathu. Pafupifupi 90% yamilandu yamakhothi yomwe imamvedwa m'makhothi athu a Tribal ndi nkhanza zapakhomo. Phunziro lililonse limatha kusiyanasiyana kutengera komwe kuli malo, komabe ndi momwe zimawonekera mdera lathu. Ndikofunikira kuti anthu ogwira nawo ntchito mothandizana nawo komanso othandizira nawo amvetsetse Akazi Ndi Atsikana Osowa ndi Kuphedwa ndi zotsatira zachisoni chazunzo kwa amayi ndi atsikana achikhalidwe. Zomwe zimayambitsa zachiwawa zimakhazikika kwambiri muzikhulupiriro zachikale zomwe zimaphunzitsa maphunziro obisika okhudzana ndi kufunikira kwa matupi athu - maphunziro omwe amalola kuti matupi athu atengeke pamtengo uliwonse pazifukwa zilizonse. 

 

Nthawi zambiri ndimakhala wokhumudwitsidwa ndikusowa kwa malankhulidwe amomwe sitikulankhula za njira zopewera nkhanza zapakhomo koma m'malo mwake tikulankhula momwe tingabwezeretse ndikupeza akusowa ndikupha azimayi ndi atsikana achimwenye.  Chowonadi ndichakuti pali machitidwe awiri azachilungamo. Imodzi yomwe imalola bambo yemwe akuimbidwa mlandu wogwiririra, kumugwirira, komanso kumuzunza, kuphatikiza kupsompsonana kosagwirizana komanso kugwiranagwirana azimayi osachepera 26 kuyambira zaka za m'ma 1970 kuti akhale Purezidenti wa 45 wa United States. Mchitidwewu ukufanana ndi womwe ungakhazikitse malamulo polemekeza amuna omwe agwirira akazi omwe adawapanga ukapolo. Ndiyeno pali kayendetsedwe ka chilungamo kwa ife; kumene chiwawa chokhudza matupi athu ndi kutenga matupi athu ndi zaposachedwa komanso zowunikira. Wothokoza, ndine.  

 

Mu Novembala chaka chatha oyang'anira a Trump adasaina Executive Order 13898, ndikupanga Task Force on Missing and Murdered American Indian and Alaskan Natives, omwe amadziwikanso kuti "Operation Lady Justice", omwe angapereke mwayi wambiri wotsegulira milandu yambiri (osasankhidwa ndi ozizira milandu ) Amayi achikhalidwe omwe akutsogolera kugawidwa kwa ndalama zambiri kuchokera ku department of Justice. Komabe, palibe malamulo kapena mphamvu zowonjezera zomwe zimabwera ndi Operation Lady Justice. Lamuloli likuyankha mwakachetechete kusowa kochita ndikuyika patsogolo kuthana ndi milandu yozizira mdziko la India osazindikira kuvulaza ndi zoopsa zomwe mabanja ambiri akhala akuvutika nazo kwanthawi yayitali. Tiyenera kuthana ndi momwe mfundo zathu komanso kusowa kwazinthu zofunikira zimaloleza bata ndi kufafaniza Amayi ndi Atsikana Ambiri omwe akusowa komanso omwe adaphedwa.

 

Pa Okutobala 10th Savanna Act ndi Not Invisible Act onse adasainidwa kukhala lamulo. Lamulo la Savanna lipanga njira zovomerezeka zoyankhira milandu ya Amwenye Achimereka omwe akusowa ndikuphedwa, polumikizana ndi mafuko, zomwe ziphatikizira kuwongolera kwamgwirizano pakati pamalamulo amtundu, maboma, maboma, ndi oyang'anira maboma. Not Notvisible Act ipereka mwayi kwa mafuko kufunafuna zoyeserera, zopereka ndi mapulogalamu okhudzana ndikusowa (kutengedwa) komanso kuphedwa kwa Amwenye.

 

Kuyambira lero, lamulo la Violence Against Women Act silidakadutse ku Senate. The Violence Against Women Act ndi lamulo lomwe limapereka ambulera yantchito ndi chitetezo kwa amayi ndi akazi osayenda opanda zikalata. Ndi lamulo lomwe limatilola kuti tizikhulupirira ndikulingalira china chosiyana ndi madera athu omwe akumira ndi kuzaza kwachiwawa. 

 

Kusanthula ngongole ndi malamulo ndi maudindo akuluakulu ndi ntchito yofunikira yomwe yawunikiranso zina zazikulu, komabe ndimayimikabe pafupi ndi kutuluka kwa magaraja ndi masitepe. Ndimadandaula za ana anga aakazi omwe amapita kumzinda okha. Potsutsana ndi umuna komanso chilolezo mdera lathu zidatenga zokambirana ndi Mphunzitsi Wamkulu Wampikisano Wampikisano kuti avomere kulola gulu lake la mpira kutenga nawo mbali pazoyeserera zathu zokambirana mdera lathu za zomwe zimachitika chifukwa cha nkhanza. Madera amitundu amatha kuchita bwino akapatsidwa mwayi komanso mphamvu yakudzionera. Izi zili choncho, tidakali pano. 

About Tohono Osadziwika

Indivisible Tohono ndi gulu lomwe limakhazikika lomwe limapereka mwayi wachitetezo cha anthu komanso maphunziro kupitilira kuvotera mamembala a Tohono O'odham Nation.

Njira Yofunika Kwambiri Chitetezo ndi Chilungamo

Wolemba Amuna Oletsa Chiwawa

Bungwe la Emerge Center Lotsutsana ndi Utsogoleri Wankhanza M'banja potengera zokumana nazo za azimayi akuda pa Mwezi Wodziwitsa Zachiwawa M'banja zimatilimbikitsa ku Men Stopping Violence.

Cecelia Jordan's Chilungamo Chikuyamba Kumene Chiwawa Kwa Amayi Akuda Chimatha - yankho kwa a Caroline Randall Williams ' Thupi Langa ndi Chipilala cha Confederate - imapereka malo owopsa poyambira.

Kwa zaka 38, Men Stopping Violence yagwira ntchito mwachindunji ndi abambo ku Atlanta, Georgia komanso mdziko lonse kuti athetse nkhanza za abambo kwa amayi. Zomwe takumana nazo zatiphunzitsa kuti palibe njira yopita patsogolo popanda kumvera, kunena zoona komanso kuyankha.

Mu Batterer Intervention Program (BIP) tikufuna kuti amuna atchule mwatsatanetsatane machitidwe owongolera komanso ozunza omwe agwiritsa ntchito komanso zomwe zimachitika chifukwa cha anzawo, ana, komanso madera. Sitichita izi kuti tichititse manyazi amuna. M'malo mwake, tikupempha amuna kuti adziyang'anire okha kuti aphunzire njira zatsopano zakukhalira mdziko lapansi ndikupanga magulu otetezeka kwa onse. Taphunzira kuti - kwa amuna - kuyankha ndi kusintha pamapeto pake kumabweretsa miyoyo yokhutiritsa. Monga tikunenera mkalasi, sungasinthe mpaka utatchula dzina.

Timaperekanso mwayi womvera m'makalasi athu. Amuna amaphunzira kumva mawu azimayi powunikiranso zolemba ngati zokopa za belu ' Kufuna Kusintha ndi makanema ngati Aisha Simmons ' Ayi! Zolemba Zogwirira. Amuna amayesetsa kumvetsera popanda kuyankha pamene akupatsana ndemanga. Sitikufuna kuti amuna azigwirizana ndi zomwe zikunenedwa. M'malo mwake, abambo amaphunzira kumvera kuti amvetsetse zomwe winayo akunena ndikuwonetsa ulemu.

Popanda kumvera, titha bwanji kumvetsetsa zakukhudzidwa kwa zomwe timachita kwa ena? Kodi tingaphunzire bwanji momwe tingachitire zinthu zomwe zimaika patsogolo chitetezo, chilungamo, ndi kuchiritsa?

Mfundo zomwezi zakumvera, kunena zoona komanso kuyankha mlandu zimagwiranso ntchito pagulu komanso pagulu la anthu. Amagwiritsanso ntchito kuthetsa kusankhana mitundu komanso anti-Mdima monganso momwe amachitira pothetsa nkhanza zapabanja komanso zogonana. Nkhanizo ndizophatikizana.

In Chilungamo Chikuyamba Kumene Chiwawa Kwa Amayi Akuda Chimatha, Mayi Jordan amalumikiza madontho pakati pa kusankhana mitundu komanso nkhanza zapakhomo komanso zachiwerewere.

Mayi Jordan akutitsutsa kuti tizindikire ndikufukula "zotsalira za ukapolo ndi ukoloni" zomwe zimakhudza malingaliro athu, zochita zathu za tsiku ndi tsiku, maubale, mabanja, ndi machitidwe. Zikhulupiriro zachikolonizi - "zipilano zophatikizana" izi zomwe zimanena kuti anthu ena ali ndi ufulu wolamulira ena ndikutenga matupi awo, chuma chawo, ngakhale moyo wawo mwakufuna kwawo - ndizo zimayambitsa nkhanza kwa amayi, azungu, komanso odana ndi Mdima. 

Kusanthula kwa Akazi a Jordan kukugwirizana ndi zomwe takumana nazo zaka 38 tikugwira ntchito ndi amuna. M'makalasi mwathu, sitiphunzira kumvera kuchokera kwa amayi ndi ana. Ndipo, mkalasi mwathu, ife omwe ndife oyera osapatsidwa mwayi wopezeka chidwi, kugwira ntchito, ndi kugonjera anthu akuda komanso anthu akuda. Amuna ndi azungu amaphunzira ufuluwu kuchokera mdera lawo komanso zikhalidwe zomwe zimawonetsedwa ndi mabungwe azungu achimuna.

Akazi a Jordan akufotokoza zowononga, zakusokonekera kwamasiku ano zakugonana komanso kusankhana mitundu azimayi akuda. Amalumikiza ukapolo komanso mantha omwe azimayi akuda amakumana nawo masiku ano, ndipo akuwonetsa momwe kutsutsana ndi Mdima kumakhudzira machitidwe athu, kuphatikiza malamulo amilandu, m'njira zomwe zimasokoneza ndikuyika pachiwopsezo azimayi akuda.

Izi ndi zowonadi zovuta kwa ambiri a ife. Sitikufuna kukhulupirira zomwe mayi Jordan akunena. M'malo mwake, ndife ophunzitsidwa komanso ochezeka kuti tisamumvere iye ndi mawu ena azimayi akuda. Koma, pagulu pomwe azungu azolamulira komanso odana ndi Mdima amalepheretsa mawu a akazi akuda, tifunika kumvera. Mukumvera, timayang'ana kuti tiphunzire njira yakutsogolo.

Monga a Jordan alemba, "Tidziwa momwe chilungamo chimawonekera tikadziwa kukonda anthu akuda, makamaka azimayi akuda… Tangoganizirani dziko lomwe akazi akuda amachiritsa ndikupanga machitidwe olungama achilimbikitso ndi kuyankha. Ingoganizirani mabungwe omwe ali ndi anthu omwe amalonjeza kuti azichita nawo ziwembu pomenyera ufulu wakuda ndi chilungamo, ndikudzipereka kuti amvetsetse maziko olimba andale zamasamba. Tangoganizirani, kwa nthawi yoyamba m'mbiri, tikukuitanidwa kuti timalize kukonzanso. ”

Monga momwe timachitira m'makalasi athu a BIP ndi amuna, kuwerengera mbiri yakale yadziko lathu yovulaza azimayi akuda ndiye choyambitsa kusintha. Kumvetsera, kunena zowona komanso kuyankha mlandu ndizofunikira kwambiri kuti chilungamo chichiritsidwe, makamaka kwa iwo omwe avulala kwambiri kenako, pamapeto pake, kwa tonsefe.

Sitingathe kuzisintha mpaka titazipatsa dzina.

Chikhalidwe Cha Kugwiririra ndi Kuzunza M'banja

Chidutswa cholembedwa ndi Boys to Men

              Ngakhale pali kutsutsana kwakukulu pazipilala zanthawi ya nkhondo yapachiweniweni, wolemba ndakatulo waku Nashville a Caroline Williams posachedwa adatikumbutsa za mtengo womwe anthu samanyalanyaza nawo pankhaniyi: kugwiririra, ndi chikhalidwe chogwirira. Mu OpEd ya mutu wakuti, "Mukufuna Chipilala cha Confederate? Thupi Langa ndi Chipilala cha Confederate, ”Akukumbukira mbiri yakale kuseri kwa mthunzi wa khungu lake lofiirira. "Malinga ndi mbiri ya banja, komanso momwe kuyesa kwamakono kwa DNA kwandilolera kutsimikizira, ndine mbadwa ya azimayi akuda omwe anali ogwira ntchito zapakhomo komanso azungu omwe adagwiririra thandizo lawo." Thupi lake ndi zolemba zake zimagwirira ntchito limodzi ngati kutsutsana ndi zotsatira zenizeni zalamulo zomwe US ​​idakonda kale, makamaka pankhani yamagulu amuna kapena akazi. Ngakhale pali chidziwitso chokwanira chomwe chimalumikiza chikhalidwe cha anyamata ndi zikhalidwe zosiyanasiyana zathanzi komanso ziwawa, lero, ku America konse, anyamata nthawi zambiri amaleredwa pamasukulu akale aku America kuti: "man up."

               Kuwulula kwakanthawi kwa Williams komanso kusatetezeka pa mbiri ya banja lake kumatikumbutsa kuti amuna ndi akazi omwe amagonjera amuna ndi akazi nthawi zonse amayendera limodzi. Ngati tikufuna kuthana ndi onse awiriwa, tiyenera kuthana ndi onse awiri. Gawo lochita izi ndikuzindikira kuti alipo ambiri yokhazikika zinthu ndi zochitika zomwe zimawononga moyo wathu watsiku ndi tsiku ku America zomwe zikupitilizabe kuchirikiza chikhalidwe chogwiririra. Izi sizokhudza zifanizo, Williams akutikumbutsa, koma za momwe tikufunira kulumikizana pamodzi ndi zochitika zakale zakulamulira zomwe zimalungamitsa ndikukhazikitsa nkhanza zakugonana.

               Tenga mwachitsanzo, nthabwala zachikondi, momwe mnyamata wokanidwa amapita patali kwambiri kuti apambane zokonda za msungwana yemwe samamukonda - kuthana ndi kukana kwake pomaliza ndi chikondi chachikulu. Kapena njira zomwe anyamata amakwezedwa chifukwa chogonana, zivute zitani. Zowonadi, mikhalidwe yomwe timakonda kulowa mwa anyamata tsiku lililonse, yolumikizidwa ndi malingaliro akale okhudza "amuna enieni," ndiye maziko osapeweka achikhalidwe chogwiririra.

               Makhalidwe abwinobwino, osafotokozedwa nthawi zonse, omwe amapezeka mchikhalidwe cha "kudzuka" ndi gawo la malo omwe amuna amaphunzitsidwa kuti achotsere malingaliro awo, kulemekeza kukakamiza ndikupambana, ndikuchitirana nkhanza wina ndi mnzake kuthekera kubwereza izi. Kukhazikitsa chidwi changa pa zomwe ena adakumana nazo (ndi zanga) ndi udindo wopambana ndi kupeza zanga ndi momwe ndidaphunzirira kukhala bambo. Mikhalidwe yokhazikika yolamulira imalumikiza nkhani yomwe Williams amafotokozera miyambo yomwe ilipo lero pomwe mwana wamwamuna wazaka zitatu achititsidwa manyazi ndi wamkulu yemwe amamukonda chifukwa cholira akamva kuwawa, mantha, kapena chifundo: "anyamata musalire ”(Anyamata amataya malingaliro).

              Komabe, gulu lothetsa kutamandidwa kwa ulamuliro likukuliranso. Ku Tucson, sabata limodzi, m'masukulu 17 am'deralo komanso ku Juvenile Detention Center, pafupifupi amuna makumi asanu ndi limodzi ophunzitsidwa bwino, amuna achikulire ochokera kumadera onse amakhala pansi kuti azichita nawo zokambirana pagulu ndi anyamata pafupifupi 60 ngati gawo la ntchito ya Boys Amuna Tucson. Kwa ambiri mwa anyamatawa, awa ndi malo okha m'miyoyo yawo pomwe amakhala otetezeka kuti azikhala osamala, kunena zowona zakumva kwawo, ndikupempha kuti awathandize. Koma zoyeserera zamtunduwu zikuyenera kupeza zokopa zochuluka kuchokera kumadera onse mdera lathu ngati titi tisinthe chikhalidwe chachigololo ndi chikhalidwe chovomereza chomwe chimalimbikitsa chitetezo ndi chilungamo kwa onse. Tikufuna thandizo lanu kukulitsa ntchitoyi.

            Pa Okutobala 25, 26, ndi 28, Boys to Men Tucson akuyanjana ndi a Emerge, University of Arizona ndi mgwirizano wamagulu odzipereka kuchititsa msonkhano wokhazikitsira madera athu kuti apange njira zabwino kwambiri za anyamata achimuna ndi achimuna- achinyamata odziwika. Chochitika chokomerachi chithandizira kwambiri mphamvu zomwe zimapangitsa kuti amuna ndi akazi azikhala mwamtendere ku Tucson. Awa ndi malo ofunikira pomwe mawu anu ndi chithandizo chanu zingatithandizire kupanga kusiyana kwakukulu pachikhalidwe chomwe chilipo m'badwo wotsatira pankhani ya jenda, kufanana, ndi chilungamo. Tikukupemphani kuti mudzatithandizire kuti tithandizire kukulitsa dera lomwe chitetezo ndi chilungamo ndizofala, osati zokhazokha. Kuti mumve zambiri pamsonkhano, kapena kulembetsa kuti mudzapezekepo, chonde pitani www.btmtucson.com/masculinityforum2020.

              Ichi ndi chitsanzo chimodzi chokha cha mayendedwe akulu olimbikitsa kukana chikondi ku miyambo yanthawi zonse yolamulira. Angela Davis, wochotsa maboma adazindikira kusinthaku bwino pomwe adatembenuza pemphero lamtendere, nati, "Sindikulandiranso zinthu zomwe sindingathe kuzisintha. Ndikusintha zinthu zomwe sindingavomereze. ” Pomwe tikulingalira zakukhudzidwa kwa nkhanza zapakhomo ndi zachiwerewere mmadera mwathu mwezi uno, tiyeni tonse tikhale olimba mtima ndikutsimikiza mtima kutsatira chitsogozo chake.

Za Anyamata kwa Amuna

MASOMPHENYA

Masomphenya athu ndikulimbikitsa madera poyitanitsa amuna kuti abwere kudzalangiza anyamata achichepere paulendo wawo wakukhala amuna athanzi.

CHOLINGA

Cholinga chathu ndikupeza, kuphunzitsa, ndikupatsa mphamvu magulu azimuna kuti aziphunzitsa anyamata kudzera m'mabwalo apamtunda, maulendo opita kokayenda, komanso miyambo yamasiku ano.

Mayankho ochokera kwa Tony Porter, CEO, A Call to Men

Ku Cecelia Jordan Chilungamo Chikuyamba Kumene Chiwawa Kwa Amayi Akuda Chimatha, akupereka chowonadi chenicheni ichi:

"Chitetezo ndichabwino kwambiri kwa khungu lakuda."

M'moyo wanga sindinaonepo kuti mawu amenewa ndi oona. Tili pamavuto olimbana ndi miyoyo ya dziko lino. Timakakamizidwa kukakamiza anthu omwe akukumana ndi ziwanda zakuda kwambiri komanso zokhumba zawo zazikulu. Ndipo cholowa cha nkhanza kwa anthu anga - Anthu akuda, makamaka azimayi akuda - chatikhumudwitsa pazomwe tikuwona komanso kukumana nazo lero. Tachita dzanzi. Koma sitikutaya umunthu wathu.

Pomwe ndidakhazikitsa Kuyitanidwa kwa Amuna pafupifupi zaka 20 zapitazo, ndidakhala ndi masomphenya othetsa kuponderezana pamizere. Kuthetsa kusankhana mitundu komanso tsankho. Kuyang'ana kwa omwe ali m'mphepete mwa masamba kuti afotokozere zomwe adakumana nazo pamoyo wawo ndikufotokozera mayankho omwe angakhale othandiza pamoyo wawo. Kwa zaka makumi ambiri, A Call to Men yakhazikitsa mazana masauzande a amuna omwe akufuna kukhala ogwirizana ndi akazi ndi atsikana. Tawayitana kuti agwire ntchitoyi, ngakhale kuti akuwayankha mlandu, ndikuwaphunzitsa ndi kuwapatsa mphamvu kuti athe kuyankhula motsutsana ndikuchitapo kanthu popewa nkhanza komanso tsankho. Ndipo titha kuchitanso chimodzimodzi kwa iwo omwe akufuna kukhala ogwirizana ndi anthu akuda ndi anthu ena amtundu. Mukudziwa, simungakhale odana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha osakhala otsutsana nawo.

A Jordan adamaliza kuyankha kwawo poyitanitsa anthu kuti: "Kuyanjana kulikonse ndi mzimayi wakuda kumabweretsa mwayi wothana ndi nkhanza zapabanja ndi ukapolo, ndikuthandizira kuwonongeka kwa machitidwe, kapena kusankha kupitiliza kutsatira zikhalidwe zachiwawa."

Ndili ndi mwayi wogwira ntchito limodzi ndi bungwe monga a Emerge omwe ali ofunitsitsa kutengera umunthu wa omwe akuponderezedwa, makamaka azimayi akuda. Kufunitsitsa kutsogola ndikuthandizira nkhani zawo ndi zokumana nazo popanda kudzipukusa kapena kudzisangalatsa. Kupereka utsogoleri kuchititsa opereka chithandizo kwa anthu, kuvomereza mopanda chisoni, komanso kufunafuna mayankho enieni kuti athetse kuponderezedwa kwa azimayi akuda popereka ntchito.

Udindo wanga, ngati munthu wakuda komanso mtsogoleri wazachikhalidwe, ndikugwiritsa ntchito nsanja yanga kukweza izi. Kukweza mawu azimayi akuda ndi ena omwe akukumana ndi mitundu ingapo yamagulu oponderezana. Kunena zowona zanga. Kugawana zomwe ndakumana nazo-ngakhale zitha kukhala zopweteka ndipo makamaka ndizopindulitsa kupititsa patsogolo kumvetsetsa kwa azungu. Komabe, ndikudzipereka kugwiritsa ntchito zomwe ndili nazo kuti ndikhale ndi dziko lolungama komanso lofanana.

Ndimayitanitsa Jordan kuti ndiyesetse kuyanjana kulikonse ndi cholinga choyenera. Ndikukupemphani kuti nanunso mugwirizane nane. Titha kupanga dziko lomwe amuna ndi anyamata onse amakhala achikondi ndi aulemu ndipo akazi onse, atsikana, komanso omwe amakhala m'mphepete mwa masamba amakhala ofunikira komanso otetezeka.

About Kuyitanira Amuna

Kuyitanitsa Amuna, kumagwira ntchito kuti athandize amuna kuchitapo kanthu polimbana ndi nkhanza zapabanja kudzera pakukula kwamunthu, kuyankha mlandu komanso kuchitapo kanthu mdera. Kuyambira 2015 takhala onyadira kucheza ndi Tony Porter, CEO wa A Call to Men pantchito yathu kuti tikhale gulu lotsutsana ndi tsankho, komanso zikhalidwe zosiyanasiyana. Tikuthokoza Tony ndi anthu ambiri ogwira ntchito ku A Call to Men omwe apereka chithandizo, chitsogozo, mgwirizano ndi kukonda gulu lathu komanso dera lathu kwazaka zambiri.