Indima yethu ekubhekaneni nokucwasana nokucwasana kwabantu abamnyama abasinda

Kubhalwe ngu-Anna Harper-Guerrero

U-Emerge ubesenqubweni yokuziphendukela kwemvelo kanye noguquko eminyakeni eyisithupha edlule egxile kakhulu ekubeni yinhlangano elwa nobandlululo, enamasiko amaningi. Sisebenza mihla namalanga ukuqeda ubumnyama futhi sibhekane nokucwasana ngemizamo yokubuyela ebuntwini obuphila ngaphakathi kithi sonke. Sifuna ukuba yisibonakaliso senkululeko, uthando, ububele nokwelashwa - izinto ezifanayo esizifunayo kunoma ngubani ohlupheka emphakathini wethu. U-Emerge usohambweni lokukhuluma amaqiniso angachazeki ngomsebenzi wethu futhi ngokuzithoba wethule izingcezu namavidiyo abhaliwe avela kozakwethu bomphakathi kule nyanga. Lawa ngamaqiniso abalulekile mayelana nokuhlangenwe nakho kwangempela abasindile abanakho ukuzama ukuthola usizo. Sikholwa ukuthi kuleli qiniso kukhona ukukhanya kwendlela eya phambili. 

Le nqubo ihamba kancane, futhi nsuku zonke kuzoba nezimemo, ezingokoqobo nezingokomfanekiso, zokubuyela kulokho okungazange kusize umphakathi wethu, kusisebenzele njengabantu abakha i-Emerge, nalokho okungazange kusize abasindile ngezindlela bafanelwe. Sisebenzela ukugxila kokuhlangenwe nakho okubalulekile empilweni kwabo BONKE abasindile. Sithatha umthwalo wokumema izingxoxo ezinesibindi nezinye izinhlangano ezingenzi nzuzo futhi sabelane ngohambo lwethu oluyinkimbinkimbi ngalo msebenzi ukuze sikwazi ukuthatha indawo yohlelo oluzalwe ngesifiso sokuhlukanisa abantu ngokwezigaba zethu. Izimpande zomlando zohlelo olungenzi nzuzo azinakunakwa. 

Uma sithatha iphuzu elenziwe nguMichael Brasher kule nyanga esiqeshini sakhe mayelana isiko lokudlwengula kanye nokuhlalisana kwamadoda nabafana, singabona ukufana uma sikhetha. “Izindinganiso ezisobala, ezivame ukungahlolisiswa, eziqukethwe yikhodi yamasiko ethi 'man up' ziyingxenye yesimo lapho amadoda eqeqeshelwa khona ukunqamula emandleni futhi ehlise imizwa, ukukhazimulisa amandla nokuwina, nokuphathana ngonya ikhono lokuziphindaphinda lezi zinkambiso. ”

Njengezimpande zesihlahla esihlinzeka ukwesekwa nokuqiniswa, uhlaka lwethu lufakwe ezindinganisweni ezinganaki amaqiniso omlando ngodlame lwasekhaya nolwezocansi njengokuqhuma kobandlululo, ubugqila, ubuhlanga, ukuzonda abathandana nabobulili obufanayo, kanye ne-transphobia. Lezi zinhlelo zengcindezelo zisinikeza imvume yokungazinaki okokuhlangenwe nakho kwabaMnyama, Abomdabu, kanye Nabantu Bombala - kubandakanya nalabo abakhomba emiphakathini ye-LGBTQ - njengabanenani elincane kakhulu futhi abekho nhlobo kokubi kakhulu. Kuyingozi kithi ukucabanga ukuthi lawa magugu namanje awangeni ezingeni elijulile lomsebenzi wethu futhi athonya imicabango nokusebenzisana kwansuku zonke.

Sizimisele ngokubeka konke engozini. Futhi ngakho konke esikushoyo, khuluma lonke iqiniso ngokuthi izinsizakalo zodlame lwasekhaya azibalanga kanjani ulwazi lwabo BONKE abasindile. Asikacabangi ngeqhaza lethu ekubhekaneni nokucwasana nokucwasana kwabantu abamnyama abasinda. Sinohlelo olungenzi nzuzo olwenze umkhakha wobungcweti ngokuhlupheka emphakathini wethu ngoba leyo yimodeli esakhelwe ukuthi sisebenze ngaphakathi kuyo. Siphikisane nokubona ukuthi yona kanye leyo ngcindezelo eholela odlameni olungacabangi, olubulala impilo kulo mphakathi luye lwasebenza ngobuqili lwangena engxenyeni yohlelo olwenzelwe ukuphendula abasindile kulolo dlame. Kulesi simo okuso njengamanje, BONKE abasindile abakwazi ukuhlangabezana nezidingo zabo kulolu hlelo, futhi abaningi bethu abasebenza ohlelweni basebenzise indlela yokubhekana nokuziqhelelanisa namaqiniso alabo abangasizakali. Kepha lokhu kungashintsha, futhi kufanele, kuguquke. Kufanele siguqule uhlelo ukuze ubuntu obuphelele babo BONKE abasindile babonakale futhi bahlonishwe.

Ukuzindla ngendlela ongashintsha ngayo njengesikhungo ngaphakathi kwezinhlelo eziyinkimbinkimbi, ezigxile kakhulu kudinga isibindi esikhulu. Kudinga ukuthi sime ezimeni zobungozi futhi siphendule ngomonakalo esiwudalile. Futhi kudinga ukuthi sigxile ngqo endleleni eya phambili. Kudinga ukuthi singabe sisathula ngamaqiniso. Amaqiniso esaziyo sonke akhona. Ubandlululo alulusha. Abasindile abaMnyama abazizwa bedumele futhi bengabonakali akuyona into entsha. Izinombolo Zabesifazane Bomdabu Abalahlekile Nababulewe azizintsha. Kepha ukubeka kwethu phambili phambili kuyinto entsha. 

Abesifazane Abamnyama bafanelwe ukuthandwa, ukugujwa, nokuphakanyiselwa ukuhlakanipha kwabo, ulwazi lwabo, kanye nempumelelo yabo. Kumele futhi sikwamukele ukuthi Abesifazane Abamnyama akukho abangakwenza ngaphandle kokuthi baphile emphakathini owawungakaze uhloselwe ukubabheka njengababalulekile. Kumele silalele amazwi abo mayelana nokuthi kusho ukuthini ushintsho kepha sithwale ngokuphelele umthwalo wethu wokukhomba kanye nokulungisa ukungabi nabulungisa okwenzeka nsuku zonke.

Abesifazane Bomdabu bafanele ukuhlala ngokukhululeka futhi bahlonishwe ngakho konke abakweluke kulo mhlaba esihamba kuwo - ukufaka nemizimba yabo uqobo. Imizamo yethu yokukhulula imiphakathi yabomdabu ekuhlukunyezweni kwasekhaya kumele ibandakanye ubunikazi bethu bokuhlukumezeka okungokomlando namaqiniso esifihla ngawo ukuthi ngubani owatshala leyo mbewu emhlabathini wabo. Ukufaka ubunikazi bezindlela esizama ngazo ukunisela leyo mbewu nsuku zonke njengomphakathi.

Kulungile ukukhuluma iqiniso ngalokhu okwenzekile. Empeleni, kubalulekile ekusindeni ngokuhlanganyela kwabo BONKE abasindile kulo mphakathi. Lapho sifaka phakathi labo abalaleleka kokuncane, siqinisekisa ukuthi indawo ivulekele wonke umuntu.

Singacabanga futhi sakhe ngenkuthalo uhlelo olunekhono elikhulu lokwakha ukuphepha futhi lubambe ubuntu bawo wonke umuntu emphakathini wethu. Singaba yizikhala lapho wonke umuntu amukeleka khona ngobunono babo, ngokuphelele, nalapho impilo yawo wonke umuntu inenani, lapho ukuziphendulela kuthathwa njengothando. Umphakathi lapho sonke sinethuba lokwakha impilo engenabo ubudlova.

IQueens iyiqembu elixhasayo elasungulwa e-Emerge ukugxila kokuhlangenwe nakho kwabesifazane abaMnyama emsebenzini wethu. Yadalwa futhi iholwa Abesifazane Abamnyama.

Kuleli sonto sethula ngokuziqhenya amagama nokuhlangenwe nakho kweQueens, abahambe ngenqubo eholwa nguCecelia Jordan emasontweni amane edlule ukukhuthaza okungagadiwe, okuluhlaza, okukhuluma iqiniso njengendlela yokuphulukiswa. Le ngcaphuno yilokho amaQueens akhethe ukuhlanganyela nomphakathi ukuhlonipha iNyanga Yokuqwashisa Ngodlame Lwasekhaya.

Ukuhlukunyezwa Kwabesifazane Bomdabu

Kubhalwe ngu-Ephreli Ignacio

U-Ephreli Ignacio uyisakhamuzi seTohono O'odham Nation futhi ungumsunguli we-Indivisible Tohono, inhlangano yomphakathi esezingeni eliphansi enikezela ngamathuba okuzibandakanya kwezomphakathi kanye nemfundo ngale kokuvotela amalungu e-Tohono O'odham Nation. Ungummeli onolaka kwabesifazane, umama kwabayisithupha nomculi.

Udlame olubhekiswe kwabesifazane boMdabu lwenziwe lwaba yinto eyejwayelekile kangangokuba sihlala eqinisweni elingashiwongo, elikhohlisayo lokuthi imizimba yethu akuyona eyethu. Ukukhumbula kwami ​​okokuqala leli qiniso mhlampe kuneminyaka yobudala emi-3 noma emi-4 ubudala, ngahambela uHlelo lweStartStart emzaneni obizwa ngokuthi iPisinemo. Ngiyakhumbula ngitshelwa “Ungavumeli muntu ukuthi akuthathe” njengesixwayiso esivela kothisha bami ngisekuhambeni. Ngikhumbula ngesaba ukuthi empeleni kukhona ozozama "ukungithatha" kodwa angiqondanga ukuthi kusho ukuthini lokho. Ngangazi ukuthi kufanele ngibonakale kude nothisha wami nokuthi mina, njengengane eneminyaka emithathu noma emi-3 ubudala ngaqala ngokuzuma ngazi indawo engizungezile. Ngiyabona manje sengikhulile, ukuthi ukuhlukumezeka kwadluliselwa kimi, futhi ngase ngikudlulisele ezinganeni zami. Indodakazi yami endala nendodana bobabili bayakhumbula ukufundiswa yimi “Ungavumeli muntu ukuthi akuthathe” njengoba babehambela kwenye indawo ngaphandle kwami. 

 

Ngokomlando udlame olubhekiswe kubantu boMdabu base-United States seludale isimo esijwayelekile kubantu besizwe abaningi okwathi lapho ngicelwa ukuthi nginikeze ukuqonda okuphelele kwabesifazane namantombazane angamantombazane alahlekile nabulawa.  bekunzima ukuthola amagama okuzokhulunywa ngokuhlangenwe nakho kwethu okwabiwe okuhlala kubonakala kungumbuzo. Uma ngithi imizimba yethu akuyona eyethu, Ngikhuluma ngalokhu ngaphakathi komongo womlando. Uhulumeni wase-United States wagunyaza izinhlelo zezinkanyezi futhi wabhekisa kubantu boMdabu baleli zwe egameni "lenqubekela phambili". Noma ngabe kwakuthutha ngenkani abantu boMdabu besuka emazweni abo beya ezindaweni zokubhuka, noma ukweba izingane emakhaya abo ukuze zifakwe ezikoleni okuhlalwa kuzo ezweni lonke, noma ukuvalwa inzalo okuphoqelelwe kwabesifazane bethu Ezinsizakalweni Zezempilo zase-India kusukela ngawo-1960 ngawo wonke ama-80s. Abantu bomdabu baphoqeleke ukuba basinde endabeni yokuphila egcwele udlame futhi ezikhathini eziningi kuba sengathi sikhamuluka singenalutho. Izindaba zethu azibonakali kwabaningi, amazwi ethu ahlala engazwakali.

 

Kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuthi kunezizwe ezingama-574 zezizwe e-United States futhi ngasinye sihlukile. E-Arizona kuphela kunezizwe ezingama-22 ezihlukile, kufaka phakathi ukufakelwa okuvela kwezinye izizwe ezweni lonke okubiza i-Arizona ikhaya. Ngakho-ke ukuqoqwa kwemininingwane yabesifazane namantombazane abalahlekile nababulewe kube yinselele futhi kucishe kube nzima ukwenza. Silwela ukuthola izinombolo eziyiqiniso zabesifazane namantombazane aboMdabu ababulewe, abalahlekile, noma abathathiwe. Usizi lwale nhlangano luholwa abesifazane Bomdabu, singongoti bethu uqobo.

 

Kweminye imiphakathi, abesifazane babulawa ngabantu okungebona abomdabu. Emphakathini wami wesizwe amacala angama-90% wabesifazane ababulawa, ayeyimiphumela eqondile yodlame lwasekhaya futhi lokhu kubonakala ohlelweni lwethu lokwahlulela ngokobuhlanga. Cishe u-90% wamacala asezinkantolo alalelwa ezinkantolo zethu zeTribal ngamacala odlame lwasekhaya. Ucwaningo ngalunye lungahluka ngokuya ngendawo, kepha lokhu kubukeka kanjena emphakathini wami. Kubalulekile ukuthi abalingani bomphakathi kanye nababambisene nabo baqonde Abesifazane Namantombazane Abalahlekile Nababulewe kungumphumela oqondile wobudlova obenziwa kwabesifazane kanye namantombazane aboMdabu. Izimpande zalolu dlame zinamathele kakhulu ezinhlelweni zenkolelo zakudala ezifundisa izifundo ezicashile ngokubaluleka kwemizimba yethu - izifundo ezinikeza imvume yokuthi imizimba yethu ithathwe nganoma iyiphi imali nganoma yisiphi isizathu. 

 

Kukaningi ngithola ukuthi ngikhungathekile ngokungabi bikho kwenkulumo yokuthi asikhulumi kanjani ngezindlela zokunqanda udlame lwasekhaya kodwa kunalokho sikhuluma ngokuthi singalulama kanjani futhi sithole abesifazane namantombazane aboMdabu abalahlekile nababulawa.  Iqiniso ukuthi kunezinhlelo ezimbili zobulungiswa. Eyodwa evumela owesilisa osolwa ngokudlwengula, ukuhlukumeza ngokocansi, nokuhlukumeza ngokocansi, kufaka phakathi ukuqabula okungavunyelwanga nokubamba okungenani abesifazane abangama-26 kusukela ngawo-1970 ukuba abe nguMongameli wase-45 wase-United States. Lolu hlelo lufana nalolo oluzomisa izimiso zokuhlonipha abesilisa abadlwengule abesifazane ababenze izigqila. Futhi-ke kukhona uhlelo lobulungiswa kithi; lapho udlame olubhekiswe emizimbeni yethu nokuthathwa kwemizimba yethu kusanda kukhanya. Ngiyabonga, ngiyajabula.  

 

NgoNovemba wangonyaka odlule abaphathi bakaTrump basayina i-Executive Order 13898, benza iTask Force on Missing and Murdered American Indian and Alaskan Natives, eyaziwa nangokuthi "Operation Lady Justice", ezonikeza amandla amaningi okuvula amacala amaningi (amacala angaxazululiwe namakhaza ) Abesifazane Bomdabu abaqondisa ukwabiwa kwemali ethe xaxa eMnyangweni Wezobulungiswa. Kodwa-ke, ayikho imithetho eyengeziwe noma igunya eliza ne-Operation Lady Justice. I-oda likhuluma buthule ngokungabikho kwesenzo nokubekwa phambili kokuxazululwa kwamacala abandayo ezweni laseNdiya ngaphandle kokuvuma ukulimala okukhulu nokuhlukumezeka imindeni eminingi ehlupheke ngakho isikhathi eside. Kumele sibheke indlela izinqubomgomo zethu kanye nokuntuleka kokubekwa phambili kwezinsizakusebenza okuvumela ukuthi kuthulwe futhi kusulwe abesifazane abaningi bomdabu namantombazane abadukile nababulawa.

 

Ngo-Okthoba 10 umthetho i-Savanna Act and Not Invisible Act bobabili basayinwa baba ngumthetho. Umthetho i-Savanna Act uzokwakha imigomo ebekiwe yokuphendula amacala aboMdabu baseMelika abalahlekile nababulewe, ngokubonisana neZizwe, ezizobandakanya ukuholwa ekubambisaneni kwemikhawulo phakathi komthetho wesizwe, wesifundazwe, nowezomthetho wendawo. Umthetho Ongabonakali uzonikeza amathuba ezizweni ukuthi zifune imizamo yokuvimbela, izibonelelo kanye nezinhlelo ezihlobene nokulahleka (kuthathiwe) nokubulawa kwabantu boMdabu.

 

Kuze kube namuhla, umthetho we-Violence Against Women Act kusamele udluliswe eSenate. Umthetho we-Violence Against Women Act ngumthetho ohlinzeka ngesambulela sezinsizakalo kanye nokuvikelwa kwabesifazane nabesifazane abadlulayo abangenazo izincwadi. Kungumthetho osivumele ukuthi sikholwe futhi sicabange okuthile okuhlukile emiphakathini yethu ecwila ngokugcwala kodlame. 

 

Ukucubungula lezi zikhokhelo kanye nemithetho kanye nama-oda aphezulu kungumsebenzi obalulekile okhanyise ngezinkinga ezinkulu, kepha ngisaqhubeka nokupaka eduze nokuphuma kwamagaraji nezitebhisi ezihlanganisiwe. Ngisakhathazeka ngamadodakazi ami ahamba yedwa edolobheni. Lapho siphonsela inselelo ubudoda nobuthi obunobuthi emphakathini wangakithi kwakudingeka ukuba nengxoxo noMqeqeshi webhola lezinyawo wesikole samabanga aphezulu ukuthi avume ukuvumela iqembu lakhe lebhola ukuthi libambe iqhaza emizameni yethu yokwakha ingxoxo emphakathini wethu ngomthelela wodlame. Imiphakathi yezizwe ingachuma lapho inikezwa ithuba namandla okuzibona. Phela, sisekhona. 

Mayelana neTohono engahlukaniseki

I-Tivono engabonakali yinhlangano yomphakathi enikezela ngamathuba okuzibandakanya kwezomphakathi kanye nemfundo ngale kokuvotela amalungu esizwe saseTohono O'odham.

Indlela Ebalulekile Yezokuphepha Nobulungiswa

Ngabantu Abamisa Udlame

Isikhungo i-Emerge Centre Against Domestic Abuse ekugxileni kokuhlangenwe nakho kwabesifazane abaMnyama phakathi neNyanga Yokuqwashisa Ngodlame Lwasekhaya kuyasikhuthaza eMen Stopping Violence.

UCecelia Jordan's Kuqala Ubulungiswa Lapho Kuphela Udlame Olubhekiswe Kwabesifazane Abamnyama - impendulo kuCaroline Randall Williams ' Umzimba Wami Uyisikhumbuzo se-Confederate - inikeza indawo esabekayo ukuqala.

Sekuyiminyaka engama-38, abesilisa abamisa udlame basebenze ngqo nabesilisa e-Atlanta, Georgia nasezweni lonke ukuqeda udlame olubhekiswe kwabesifazane. Isipiliyoni sethu sisifundise ukuthi ayikho indlela eya phambili ngaphandle kokulalela, ukukhuluma iqiniso nokuziphendulela.

Ohlelweni lwethu lweBatterer Intervention Program (BIP) sidinga ukuthi abesilisa babhale ngemininingwane eqondile yokuziphatha okulawulayo nokuhlukumeza abakusebenzisile kanye nemiphumela yalokho kuziphatha kozakwethu, ezinganeni nasemiphakathini. Asikwenzi lokhu ukuhlazisa amadoda. Esikhundleni salokho, sicela amadoda ukuthi azibheke angagxili ekufundeni izindlela ezintsha zokuba semhlabeni nokwakha imiphakathi ephephe kubo bonke. Sifunde ukuthi - kwabesilisa - ukuziphendulela kanye noshintsho ekugcineni kuholela ezimpilweni ezanelisayo. Njengoba sisho ekilasini, awukwazi ukuyishintsha uze uyiqambe igama.

Siphinde sibeke phambili ukulalela emakilasini ethu. Abesilisa bafunda ukuzwa amazwi abesifazane ngokucabanga ngama-athikili afana nezingwegwe zensimbi ' Intando Yokushintsha namavidiyo afana no-Aisha Simmons ' CHA! Idokhumentari Yokudlwengula. Abesilisa bazijwayeza ukulalela ngaphandle kokuphendula njengoba benikezana impendulo. Asidingi ukuthi amadoda avumelane nalokho okushiwoyo. Esikhundleni salokho, amadoda afunda ukulalela ukuze aqonde okushiwo omunye umuntu futhi akhombise inhlonipho.

Ngaphandle kokulalela, sizokwazi kanjani ukuqonda ngokugcwele imiphumela yezenzo zethu kwabanye? Sizokufunda kanjani ukuqhubeka ngezindlela ezibeka phambili ukuphepha, ubulungiswa, nokwelashwa?

Le migomo efanayo yokulalela, ukukhuluma iqiniso nokuziphendulela iyasebenza emphakathini nasemphakathini. Zisebenza ekuqedeni ukucwasana ngokohlelo nokulwa nobumnyama njengoba nje benza ekuqedeni udlame lwasekhaya nolwezocansi. Izinkinga zihlangene.

In Kuqala Ubulungiswa Lapho Kuphela Udlame Olubhekiswe Kwabesifazane Abamnyama, Nks. Jordan uxhuma amachashazi phakathi kokucwasana ngokobuhlanga nobudlova basekhaya nobulili.

UNks. Jordan usiphonsela inselelo yokuthi sikhombe futhi sigubhe “izinsalela zobugqila namakoloni” ezifaka imicabango yethu, izenzo zansuku zonke, ubudlelwano, imindeni kanye nezinhlelo. Lezi zinkolelo zamakholoni - lezi "zivumelwano ezihlanganisiwe" eziqinisekisa ukuthi abanye abantu banelungelo lokulawula abanye futhi bathathe imizimba yabo, izinsizakusebenza, ngisho nokuphila ngokuthanda kwabo - yimbangela yodlame olubhekiswe kwabesifazane, ubukhulu babamhlophe, kanye nokulwa nobumnyama. 

Ukuhlaziywa kukaNks Jordan kuhambisana neminyaka yethu engama-38 yokusebenza sisebenza namadoda. Emakilasini ethu, asifundile ilungelo lokulalelwa ngabesifazane nezingane. Futhi, emakilasini ethu, thina esingabamhlophe asifundile ilungelo lokunakwa, ukusebenza, nokuzithoba kwabantu abaMnyama kanye nabantu bebala. Abesilisa nabelungu bafunda leli lungelo emphakathini nasezinkambisweni zomphakathi ezenziwe zangabonakali yizikhungo ezisebenza ngezintshisekelo zabesilisa abamhlophe.

UNks. Jordan uchaza ngemiphumela ebuhlungu, yanamuhla yokucwaswa ngokobulili ezikhungweni nokucwasana kwabantu besifazane abamnyama. Uxhumanisa ubugqila nokwesaba abesifazane abamnyama ababhekana nakho ebudlelwaneni phakathi kwabantu namuhla, futhi ukhombisa ukuthi ukulwa nobumnyama kungena kanjani ezinhlelweni zethu, kufaka phakathi uhlelo lwezomthetho lobugebengu, ngezindlela ezibeka phansi futhi zibeke engcupheni abesifazane abamnyama.

Lawa ngamaqiniso anzima kwabaningi bethu. Asifuni ukukukholwa okushiwo nguNkz Jordan. Eqinisweni, siqeqeshiwe futhi sihlangana nabantu ukuze singamlaleli yena namanye amazwi abesifazane besifazane abamnyama. Kepha, emphakathini lapho ukuphakama kwabamhlophe nokulwa nobumnyama kubeka phansi amazwi abesifazane abamnyama, sidinga ukulalela. Ekulaleleni, sibheke ukuthi sifunde indlela eya phambili.

Njengoba uNks. Jordan ebhala, “Sizokwazi ukuthi ubulungiswa bunjani lapho sazi ukuthanda abantu abaNsundu, futhi ikakhulukazi abesifazane abaMnyama… Ake ucabange umhlaba lapho abesifazane abaNsundu belapha futhi bakhe izindlela zokulunga kanye nokuziphendulela. Ake ucabange izikhungo ezakhiwe ngabantu abazibophezela ukuthi bazoba ngababambisene nabo ekulweleni inkululeko nobulungiswa babamnyama, futhi bazibophezele ekuqondeni isisekelo esigqinsiwe sepolitiki yamasimu. Cabanga, okokuqala ngqa emlandweni, simenyelwa ukuqedela ukwakhiwa kabusha. ”

Njengakwezifundo zethu ze-BIP nabesilisa, ukubheka ngomlando wezwe lethu wokulimaza abesifazane abaMnyama kuyisandulela sokushintsha. Ukulalela, ukukhuluma iqiniso nokuziphendulela kuyizidingo ezidingekayo ngaphambi kobulungiswa nokuphulukiswa, okokuqala kulabo abalimele kakhulu bese kuthi ekugcineni kube yithi sonke.

Asikwazi ukukushintsha size sikubize ngegama.

Amasiko Wokudlwengulwa Nokuhlukunyezwa Kwasekhaya

Ucezu olubhalwe ngabafana kubafana

              Ngenkathi kube nempikiswano eningi mayelana nezikhumbuzo zesikhathi sempi yombango, imbongi yaseNashville uCaroline Williams usanda kusikhumbuza ngesigxobo esivame ukunganakwa kule nkinga: ukudlwengula, kanye nesiko lokudlwengula. Ku-OpEd enesihloko esithi, "Ufuna Isikhumbuzo Se-Confederate? Umzimba Wami Uyisikhumbuzo se-Confederate, ”Ucabanga ngomlando wesikhumba sakhe esinsundu ngokukhanyayo. "Ngokuya ngomlando womndeni, futhi njengoba ukuhlolwa kwesimanje kwe-DNA kungivumele ukuthi ngiqinisekise, ngiyinzalo yabesifazane abamnyama ababeyizisebenzi zasendlini kanye nabelungu abadlwengula usizo lwabo." Umzimba wakhe nokubhala kusebenza ndawonye njengokubhekana nemiphumela eyiqiniso yemiyalo yezenhlalo i-US ebilokhu iyazisa, ikakhulukazi uma kukhulunywa ngezindima zobulili. Ngaphandle kwenani eliqinile lemininingwane evelayo exhumanisa ukuzibandakanya kobulili bendabuko kwabafana ezinhlobonhlobo zezinkinga zempilo yomphakathi nodlame, namuhla, kulo lonke elaseMelika, abafana basavame ukukhuliswa ngomyalo wesikole esidala waseMelika: "vuka."

               Ukudalulwa kukaWilliams ngesikhathi esifanele nokusengozini emlandweni womndeni wakhe kusikhumbuza ukuthi ukuzithoba ngokobulili nangokobuhlanga bekuhlale kuhambisana. Uma sifuna ukubhekana nazo zombili, kufanele sibhekane nazo zombili. Ingxenye yokwenza lokho ukubona ukuthi kukhona kakhulu kujwayelekile izinto nemikhuba engcolisa impilo yethu yansuku zonke eMelika eqhubeka nokuxhasa isiko lokudlwengula. Lokhu akumayelana nezithombe, uWilliams uyasikhumbuza, kodwa mayelana nokuthi sifuna ukuhlangana kanjani ngokubambisana nemikhuba yomlando yokubusa evumela futhi yehlise udlame lwezocansi.

               Thatha isibonelo, amahlaya othando, lapho umfana onqatshiwe eya ebangeni lobuqhawe ukuze anqobe uthando lwentombazane engenayo intshisekelo yakhe — ukunqoba ukumelana kwakhe nayo ekugcineni ngesenzo esihle sothando. Noma izindlela eziphakanyiswa ngazo abafana zokuya ocansini, noma ngabe iziphi izindleko. Ngempela, izici esivame ukungena kuzo kubafana abancane nsuku zonke, ezixhumene nemibono yakudala mayelana "namadoda angempela," ziyisisekelo esingenakugwemeka sosiko lokudlwengula.

               Isisekelo samanani asobala, avame ukungahlolisiswa, aqukethwe yikhodi yamasiko ethi “man up” ayingxenye yendawo lapho amadoda eqeqeshelwa khona ukunqamula emandleni futhi ehlise imizwa, ukukhazimulisa amandla nokuwina, nokuphathisa ngonya ikhono lomunye nomunye ukuphindaphinda lezi zinkambiso. Ukufaka ukuzwela kwami ​​kokuhlangenwe nakho kwabanye (nokwami) ngegunya lokuwina ngithole okwami ​​yindlela engifunde ngayo ukuba yindoda. Imikhuba ejwayelekile yokubusa ihlobanisa indaba noWilliams ayixoxa namasiko akhona namuhla lapho umfanyana oneminyaka emithathu ubudala ehlazeka ngumuntu omdala amthandayo ngokukhala lapho ezwa ubuhlungu, ukwesaba, noma uzwela: “abafana abakhali ”(Abafana balahla imizwa).

              Kodwa-ke, ukunyakaza kokuqeda ukukhazinyuliswa kombuso kuyakhula, futhi. ETucson, ngesonto elinikeziwe, ezikoleni zendawo eziyi-17 naseJuvenile Detention Centre, cishe amadoda angama-60 aqeqeshiwe, amadoda amadala aqhamuka kuyo yonke imiphakathi ahlala phansi abambe iqhaza emibuthanweni ekhuluma nabafana ababalelwa ku-200 abasebasha njengengxenye yomsebenzi wabafana Abesilisa iTucson. Kwabaningi balaba bafana, le ukuphela kwendawo empilweni yabo lapho kuphephile khona ukuyeka ukuqapha kwabo, ukukhuluma iqiniso ngendlela abazizwa ngayo, nokucela ukuxhaswa. Kepha lezi zinhlelo zidinga ukuthola ukuthambeka okuningi kuzo zonke izingxenye zomphakathi wethu uma sizosusa isiko lokudlwengula ngesiko lokuvuma elikhuthaza ukuphepha nobulungiswa kubo bonke. Sidinga usizo lwakho ukwandisa lo msebenzi.

            Ngo-Okthoba 25, 26, no-28, i-Boys to Men Tucson ibambisene ne-Emerge, i-University of Arizona kanye nenhlangano yamaqembu omphakathi azinikele ekusingatheni isithangami esivusa amadlingozi okuhloswe ngaso ukuhlela imiphakathi yethu ukudala izindlela ezingcono kakhulu zabafana abesilisa nabesilisa- intsha ekhonjiwe. Lo mcimbi wokuxoxisana uzongena ngokujulile emandleni ahlela ubudoda kanye nenhlalakahle engokomzwelo yabantu abasha eTucson. Lesi isikhala esisemqoka lapho izwi lakho nokuxhaswa kwakho kungasisiza khona ukwenza umehluko omkhulu ohlotsheni lwamasiko akhona esizukulwaneni esilandelayo uma kukhulunywa ngobulili, ukulingana, nobulungiswa. Sikumema ukuba uhlanganyele nathi ngalesi sinyathelo esiwusizo sokuhlakulela umphakathi lapho ukuphepha nobulungiswa kuyinsakavukela, kunokuba kube ngaphandle. Ngeminye imininingwane esithangamini, noma ukubhalisela ukuhambela, sicela uvakashele www.btmtucson.com/masculinityforum2020.

              Lesi yisibonelo esisodwa sokunyakaza okukhulu ukuhlakulela ukumelana kothando nezinhlelo ezijwayelekile zamasiko wokubusa. U-Angela Davis, isazi sokuqeda isizungu, wakubona kahle kakhulu lokhu kushintsha lapho eguqula umthandazo wokuthula ekhanda, eqinisekisa, “Angisazamukeli izinto engingakwazi ukuzishintsha. Ngishintsha izinto engingakwazi ukuzamukela. ” Njengoba sibheka umthelela wodlame lwasekhaya nolwezocansi emiphakathini yethu kule nyanga, kwangathi sonke singaba nesibindi futhi sizimisele ukulandela ukuhola kwakhe.

Mayelana nabafana emadodeni

UMBONO

Umbono wethu ukuqinisa imiphakathi ngokubiza abesilisa ukuba basukume bafundise abafana abasakhula ohambweni lwabo lokuya ebudodeni obuphilile.

UBIZO

Umsebenzi wethu ukunxenxa, ukuqeqesha, nokunika amandla imiphakathi yamadoda ukweluleka abafana abasebasha ngemijikelezo esizeni, ukuphuma kwezokuvakasha, kanye namasiko esikhathi samanje.

Isitatimende sokuphendula esivela kuTony Porter, i-CEO, i-A Call to Men

ECecelia Jordan Kuqala Ubulungiswa Lapho Kuphela Udlame Olubhekiswe Kwabesifazane Abamnyama, unikeza leli qiniso elinamandla:

"Ukuphepha kuyinto yokunethezeka engafinyeleleki esikhunjeni esimnyama."

Akukaze empilweni yami ngizizwe lawo mazwi eyiqiniso ngokwengeziwe. Sisebunzimeni bomzabalazo womphefumulo waleli zwe. Siminyene ekudonsweni komphakathi obhekene namademoni awo amnyama nezifiso zawo eziphakeme. Futhi ifa lodlame olubhekiswe kubantu bakithi - Abantu abaNsundu, futhi ikakhulukazi abesifazane abaMnyama - lusenze saphelelwa ngamandla yilokho esikubonayo nesikutholayo namuhla. Sikhathele. Kepha asilahli ubuntu bethu.

Ngenkathi ngisungula i-A Call to Men cishe eminyakeni engama-20 eyedlule, ngaba nombono wokubhekana nengcindezelo eyehlayo ezimpandeni zayo. Ukuqeda ubandlululo ngokobuhlanga nokucwasa. Ukubheka kulabo abasemaphethelweni asemaphethelweni ukuze bachaze okuhlangenwe nakho kwabo futhi bachaze izixazululo ezizosebenza ezimpilweni zabo. Sekungamashumi eminyaka, i-A Call to Men ihlanganise amakhulu ezinkulungwane zabesilisa abafisa ukubambisana nabesifazane namantombazane. Sibabizele kulo msebenzi, ngenkathi sibenza baziphendulela, sabafundisa futhi sabanika amandla okuba bakhulume baphikise futhi bathathe izinyathelo zokuvimbela udlame olubhekiswe kwabesifazane nokucwaswa. Futhi singenza okufanayo kulabo abafuna ukufuna ukubambisana nabantu abaMnyama nabanye abantu bebala. Uyabona, awukwazi ukuba ngumuntu olwa nobulili ngaphandle kokulwa nobandlululo.

UJordani uphethe impendulo yakhe ngalokhu kubizelwa esenzweni: "Konke ukuxhumana nowesifazane oMnyama kuletha noma ithuba lokubhekana nodlame lwasekhaya nobugqila, nokuhlawulela ukulimala okuhleliwe, noma ukukhetha ukuqhubeka nokulandela izinkambiso zomphakathi ezinodlame."

Ngiyahlonishwa ukusebenza nenhlangano efana ne-Emerge ezimisele ukwamukela ubuntu balabo abacindezelwe, ikakhulukazi abesifazane abaMnyama. Ukuzimisela ukuphuma phambili futhi sisekele izindaba zabo kanye nokuhlangenwe nakho kwabo ngaphandle kokuxuba noma ukuhlela ukuzijabulisa. Ngokuhlinzeka ngobuholi ekuhlinzekeni abahlinzeka ngemisebenzi yabantu, ukuvuma ngokungathandeki, nokufuna izixazululo zangempela zokuqeda ukucindezelwa kwabesifazane abaMnyama ekulethweni kwezinsizakalo.

Indima yami, njengomuntu oMnyama nanjengomholi wezobulungiswa kwezenhlalo, ukusebenzisa ipulatifomu lami ukuphakamisa lezi zinkinga. Ukuphakamisa amazwi abesifazane Abamnyama nabanye ababhekene nezinhlobo eziningi zokucindezelwa kweqembu. Ukukhuluma iqiniso lami. Ukwabelana ngokuhlangenwe nakho kwami ​​okuphilayo — noma kungabanga okubuhlungu futhi ikakhulukazi kuzuzisa ukuqhubekisela phambili ukuqonda kwabantu abaMhlophe. Noma kunjalo, ngizimisele ngokusebenzisa ithonya enginalo ukuphishekela umhlaba onobulungisa futhi olinganayo.

Ngibiza ucingo lukaJordani lwesibili futhi ngilwela ukuhlangabezana nokuxhumana ngakunye ngenhloso ekufanele. Ngiyakunxusa ukuba uhlanganyele nami ekwenzeni okufanayo. Singakha umhlaba lapho wonke amadoda nabafana benothando futhi benenhlonipho futhi bonke abesifazane, amantombazane, nalabo abasemaphethelweni amamaki babalulekile futhi bephephile.

Mayelana nokubizelwa kwabesilisa

I-Call to Men, isebenza ukubandakanya abesilisa ekuthatheni izinyathelo zokulwa nokuhlukunyezwa kwasekhaya ngokukhula komuntu siqu, ukuziphendulela nokubandakanya umphakathi. Kusukela ngo-2015 siziqhenye ngokubambisana noTony Porter, oyi-CEO ye-A Call to Men emsebenzini wethu wokuba yinhlangano elwa nobandlululo namasiko amaningi. Siyambonga uTony nabasebenzi abaningi e-A Call to Men abanikeze usizo, ukuholwa, ukubambisana nothando ngenhlangano yethu kanye nomphakathi wethu kule minyaka edlule.