Indima yethu ekujonganeni nobuhlanga kunye nokuchasa ubumnyama kumaxhoba aMnyama

Ibhalwe ngu Anna Harper-Guerrero

I-Emerge ibikwinkqubo yendaleko kunye nenguquko kwiminyaka emi-6 edlulileyo egxile kakhulu ekubeni ngumbutho ochasene nobuhlanga, umbutho weenkcubeko ezininzi. Sisebenza yonke imihla ukuncothula intsusa echasene nobumnyama kwaye sijongane nobuhlanga ngeenzame zokubuyela kubuntu obuhlala nzulu kuthi sonke. Sifuna ukuba yimbonakaliso yenkululeko, uthando, uvelwano kunye nokuphilisa - izinto ezifanayo esizifuna kuye nabani na obandezelekileyo kwindawo yethu. I-Emerge ikuhambo lokuthetha iinyaniso ezingachazwanga malunga nomsebenzi wethu kwaye ngokuthobekileyo ubonise iziqwenga ezibhaliweyo kunye neevidiyo ezivela kumahlakani oluntu kule nyanga. Ezi ziinyaniso ezibalulekileyo malunga namava okwenyani athi amaxhoba anawo ezama ukufikelela kuncedo. Sikholelwa ukuba kuloo nyaniso kukukhanya kwendlela eya phambili. 

Le nkqubo icotha, kwaye yonke imihla kuya kubakho izimemo, zombini kunye nezokomfuziselo, ukuba zibuyele kwinto engazange isebenze kuluntu lwethu, yasikhonza njengabantu abenza i-Emerge, kunye neyongakhonzanga abasindileyo ngeendlela abaye basebenza ngazo. kufanelekile. Sisebenzela ukumisa amava obomi abalulekileyo kubo BONKE abasindileyo. Sithatha uxanduva lokumema iingxoxo ezikhaliphileyo kunye nezinye ii-arhente ezingenzi nzuzo kunye nokwabelana ngohambo lwethu olubi ngalo msebenzi ukuze sithathe indawo yenkqubo ezalwe ngenxa yomnqweno wokwahlula phakathi kunye nokwehlisa ubuntu kuluntu lwethu. Iingcambu zembali zenkqubo engenzi nzuzo azinakuhoywa. 

Ukuba sithatha ingongoma eyenziwe nguMichael Brasher kule nyanga kwisiqwenga sakhe malunga inkcubeko yokudlwengula kunye nentlalontle yamadoda namakhwenkwe, sinokubona ukufana ukuba sikhetha ukwenza njalo. “Imilinganiselo engacacanga, ehlala ingahlolisiswa, equlethwe kumgaqo wenkcubeko ‘yokutshata’ yinxalenye yendawo apho amadoda aqeqeshelwa ukuhlukana nokuthoba iimvakalelo, ukuzukisa amandla nokuphumelela, nokupolisana ngenkohlakalo. ukukwazi ukuphindaphinda le migaqo. "

Ngokufana neengcambu zomthi ezibonelela ngenkxaso kunye nenkxaso, isakhelo sethu similiselwe kwiimfundiso ezizibetha ngoyaba iinyaniso zembali malunga nobundlobongela basekhaya kunye nobundlobongela obuphathelele kwezesondo njengemvelaphi yobuhlanga, ubukhoboka, ucalucalulo, intiyo yabantu abathandana nabantu abathandana obufanayo, nokuzoyikwa kwabantu ngabanye. Ezi nkqubo zengcinezelo zisinika imvume yokungahoywa amava oMnyama, iMveli, kunye naBantu boMbala - kubandakanywa abo bachonga kwiindawo ze-LGBTQ - njengexabiso elingaphantsi kweyona nto ingcono kwaye ayikho kakhulu. Kusemngciphekweni kuthi ukucinga ukuba ezi nqobo zokuziphatha azikangeni kwiikona ezinzulu zomsebenzi wethu kwaye ziphembelele iingcinga zemihla ngemihla kunye nonxibelelwano.

Sizimisele ukubeka emngciphekweni konke. Kwaye ngako konke esithetha kona, xelela yonke inyani malunga nokuba iinkonzo zobundlobongela basekhaya azikhange ziphendule njani kumava abo BONKE abasindileyo. Asikhange siyiqwalasele indima yethu ekujonganeni nobuhlanga kunye nokuchasa ubumnyama kumaxhoba aMnyama. Siyinkqubo engenzi nzuzo eye yadala intsimi yobuchwephesha ekubandezelekeni kuluntu lwethu kuba loo mzekelo owakhiwe ukuba sisebenze ngaphakathi. Siye sasokola ukubona indlela ingcinezelo efanayo ekhokelela kubundlobongela obungenazingqondweni, obuphelisa ubomi kolu luntu nayo iye yasebenza ngendlela echubekileyo kwindlela yenkqubo eyilelwe ukuphendula kwabo basinde kolo gonyamelo. Kwimeko ekhoyo ngoku, BONKE abasindileyo abanakuhlangatyezwa neemfuno zabo kule nkqubo, kwaye uninzi lwethu olusebenza kule nkqubo luye lwabandakanyeka kwindlela yokumelana nokuzikhwebula kwizinto eziyinyani zabo bangakwaziyo ukubonelelwa. Kodwa oku kunokuthi, kwaye kufuneka, kutshintshe. Kufuneka sitshintshe inkqubo ukuze ubuntu obupheleleyo BONKE abasindileyo bubonakale kwaye buhlonitshwe.

Ukucingisisa malunga nendlela yokutshintsha njengeziko phakathi kweenkqubo ezintsonkothileyo, ezizinziswe nzulu kufuna isibindi esikhulu. Ifuna ukuba sime kwiimeko zomngcipheko kwaye siphendule ngokwenzakala esikwenzileyo. Kukwafuna ukuba sigxile ngokuchanekileyo kwindlela eya phambili. Ifuna ukuba singaphindi sithule ngeenyaniso. Iinyaniso esizaziyo sonke zikho. Ubuhlanga asinto intsha. Abantu abamnyama abasindileyo ukuziva bephoxekile kwaye bengabonakali akuyonto intsha. Amanani aBafazana beMthonyama abadukileyo nabaGqwethiweyo akantshanga. Kodwa ukubeka phambili kwethu kuyo kutsha. 

Abafazi abaMnyama bafanelwe ukuthandwa, ukubhiyozelwa, nokuphakanyiswa ngenxa yobulumko, ulwazi kunye nezinto abazifezileyo. Kufuneka kwakhona sivume ukuba Abasetyhini abaMnyama abanakukhetha ngaphandle kokuba baphile kuluntu olungazange lwenzelwe ukubagcina bexabisekile. Kufuneka simamele amazwi abo malunga nokuba kuthetha ntoni na utshintsho kodwa sithathe ngokupheleleyo uxanduva lwethu ekuchongeni nasekulungiseni ukungabikho kokusesikweni okwenzeka mihla le.

Abasetyhini bomthonyama bafanele ukuphila ngokukhululekileyo kwaye bahlonitshwe ngako konke abakulukileyo emhlabeni esihamba kuwo - ukuquka nemizimba yabo. Iinzame zethu zokukhulula abantu bomthonyama kuxhatshazo lwasekhaya kufuneka ziquke ubunini bethu bomothuko wembali kunye neenyaniso esizifihla ngokukhawuleza malunga nokuba ngubani owatyala loo mbewu emhlabeni wabo. Ukuquka ubunini beendlela esizama ngazo ukunkcenkceshela loo mbewu yonke imihla njengoluntu.

Kulungile ukuthetha inyaniso ngala mava. Ngapha koko, ibalulekile ekusindeni ngokudibeneyo KWABO BONKE abasindileyo kolu luntu. Xa simisa abo bamamelayo kancinane, siqinisekisa ukuba indawo ivulekele wonke umntu.

Sinokuphinda sicinge kwaye sakhe inkqubo enesakhono esikhulu sokwakha ukhuseleko nokubamba ubuntu bomntu wonke kuluntu lwethu. Singaba zizithuba apho wonke umntu wamkelekile kweyona nyaniso, ubuqu bakhe bugcweleyo, nalapho ubomi bomntu wonke bunexabiso, apho uxanduva lubonwa njengothando. Uluntu apho sonke sinethuba lokwakha ubomi obungenabundlobongela.

I-Queens liqela lenkxaso eladalwa e-Emerge ukuze lizinzise amava ama-Black Women emsebenzini wethu. Yadalwa kwaye ikhokelwa ngaMafazana aMnyama.

Kule veki ngokuzingca sibonisa amazwi abalulekileyo kunye namava e-Queens, abaye bahamba ngenkqubo ekhokelwa nguCecelia Jordan kwiiveki ezidlulileyo ze-4 ukukhuthaza okungagadiwe, okuluhlaza, ukuthetha inyaniso njengendlela yokuphilisa. Esi sicatshulwa koko iiQueens zikhethe ukwabelana ngazo noluntu ngembeko yeNyanga yoKwazisa ngoBundlobongela baseKhaya.

Ubundlobongela obuchasene namanina omthonyama

Ibhalwe nguApril Ignacio

U-Aprili Ignacio ungummi weSizwe saseTohono O'odham kunye nomseki we-Indivisible Tohono, umbutho woluntu ophantsi obonelela ngamathuba okubandakanya uluntu kunye nemfundo ngaphaya kokuvota kumalungu eSizwe saseTohono O'odham. Ungummeli okhohlakeleyo wabasetyhini, umama ukuya kwabathandathu kunye nomculi.

Ubundlobongela obubhekiselwe kwabasetyhini bomthonyama benziwe ngokwesiqhelo kangangokuba sihleli kwinyani engathethwayo, efihlakeleyo yokuba eyethu imizimba ayiyoyethu. Ukuqala kwam ukukhumbula le nyaniso mhlawumbi malunga neminyaka emi-3 okanye emi-4 ubudala, ndaya kwiNkqubo ye-HeadStart kwilali ebizwa ngokuba yiPisinemo. Ndikhumbula ndixelelwa “ungavumeli mntu akuthabathe” njengesilumkiso kootishala bam xa bendikuhambo lwasendle. Ndikhumbula ndisoyika ukuba enyanisweni kukho umntu oza kuzama “ukundithabatha” kodwa andizange ndiyiqonde ukuba ithetha ukuthini na loo nto. Ndandisazi ukuba kufuneka ndibonakale kumgama ovela kutitshala wam nokuba mna, njengomntwana oneminyaka emi-3 okanye emi-4 ubudala emva koko ndaye ndazi ngesiquphe kakhulu indawo endingqongileyo. Ndiyaqonda ngoku ukuba ndimdala, lo monzakalo wadluliselwa kum, kwaye ndawudlulisela kubantwana bam. Intombi yam endala kunye nonyana wam bobabini bayakhumbula ngokuyalelwa ndim “ungavumeli mntu akuthabathe” njengokuba bebehamba ndaweni ithile ndingekho mna. 

 

Ngokwembali ubundlobongela obujoliswe kubantu bomthonyama e-United States budale imeko yesiqhelo phakathi kwabantu abaninzi bezizwe ukuba xa ndacelwa ukuba ndibonelele ngokucokisekileyo kwabasetyhini abalahlekileyo nababuleweyo beMthonyama kunye namantombazana.  Kwasokola ukufumana amagama okuthetha malunga namava ethu okuphila ekwabelwana ngawo ahlala ebonakala ebuzwa. Xa ndisitsho Imizimba yethu asiyoyethu, Ndithetha ngale nto ngaphakathi kwimeko yembali. Urhulumente waseUnited States wavumela iinkqubo zeenkwenkwezi kwaye wajolisa abantu bomthonyama beli lizwe egameni "lenkqubela". Nokuba yayikukufudusa ngenkani abantu boMthonyama kumazwe abo besiwa kwiindawo ababehlala kuzo, okanye bekukubiwa kwabantwana kumakhaya abo ukuze bafakwe kwizikolo ezihlaliswayo kwilizwe lonke, okanye kunyanzeliswa inzala kwabasetyhini bethu kwiiNkonzo zezeMpilo zaseIndiya ukusuka ngo-1960 kuyo yonke iminyaka yama-80s. Abantu bomthonyama baye banyanzeleka ukuba baphile kwibali lobomi elizaliswe lugonyamelo kwaye amaxesha amaninzi livakala ngathi sikhala kwisithuba esingenamntu. Amabali ethu akabonakali kwabaninzi, amazwi ethu ahlala engaviwa.

 

Kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuba kukho izizwe ezingama-574 eUnited States kwaye nganye yahlukile. E-Arizona kuphela kukho izizwe ezingama-22 ezahlukeneyo zezizwe, kubandakanywa ukutshintshwa kwezinye izizwe kulo lonke ilizwe elibiza iArizona likhaya. Ke ukuqokelelwa kwedatha yaBantu abalahlekileyo nababuleweyo baseMthonyama kunye naMantombazana ibingumngeni kwaye iphantse yaphantse ukuba akunakwenzeka. Siyasokola ukuchonga amanani okwenene abafazi neentombi zeMveli ezibuleweyo, ezidukileyo, okanye ezithathiweyo. Ingxaki yalo mbutho ikhokelwa ngabafazi bomthonyama, singoochwephesha bethu.

 

Kwezinye iindawo abantu basetyhini babulawa ngabantu abangengabo abomthonyama. Kwisizwe sam i-90% yamatyala abasetyhini ababulawayo, ayesisiphumo esithe ngqo sobundlobongela basekhaya kwaye oku kubonakaliswa kwinkqubo yethu yenkundla yezizwe. Malunga nama-90% amatyala enkundla axoxwa kwiinkundla zaMazwe ngaMazwe ngamatyala obundlobongela basekhaya. Isifundo ngasinye sinokwahluka ngokusekwe kwindawo yejografi, nangona kunjalo le yindlela ekhangeleka ngayo kwindawo endihlala kuyo. Kunyanzelekile ukuba amahlakani oluntu kunye namahlakani aqonde ukuba abaNtu abalahlekileyo nabaGciniweyo kunye namantombazana sisiphumo esithe ngqo sobundlobongela obujoliswe kwabasetyhini kunye namantombazana emveli. Iingcambu zolu bundlobongela zendele nzulu kwiinkqubo zeenkolelo zakudala ezifundisa izifundo ezifihlakeleyo malunga nokufaneleka kwemizimba yethu - izifundo ezinika imvume yokuba imizimba yethu ithathwe nokuba yeyiphi na indleko ngenxa yaso nasiphi na isizathu. 

 

Ndihlala ndixakwa kukungaxoxisi ngendlela esingathethi ngayo ngeendlela zokuthintela udushe lwasekhaya kodwa endaweni yoko sithetha ngendlela yokuchacha kufumaneke amanina neentombi zeMveli ezilahlekileyo nezibuleweyo.  Inyaniso kukuba zimbini iinkqubo zobulungisa. Evumela indoda ebityholwa ngokudlwengula, ukuxhatshazwa ngokwesondo, nokuxhaphaza ngokwesini, kuquka ukuncamisa ngaphandle kwemvumelwano kunye nokuphuthaphutha ubuncinane amabhinqa angama-26 ukususela ngeminyaka yee-1970 ukuba ibe nguMongameli wama-45 waseUnited States. Le nkqubo ifana naleyo yayiza kumisela imithetho yokuhlonipha amadoda adlwengule amabhinqa awayewakhobokisa. Kwaye ke kukho inkqubo yobulungisa yethu; apho ubundlobongela obunxamnye nemizimba yethu kunye nokuthatha imizimba yethu kutsha nje kwaye kuyakhanya. Ndiyabulela, ndinguye.  

 

NgoNovemba wonyaka ophelileyo ulawulo lukaTrump lutyikitye i-Executive Order 13898, lwenza iTask Force on Missing and Murdered American Indian and Alaskan Natives, ekwaziwa ngokuba yi "Operation Lady Justice", eya kubonelela ngesakhono esingaphezulu sokuvula amatyala amaninzi (amatyala angasonjululwanga kwaye abandayo. ) yabafazi bomthonyama abalathisa ulwabiwo lwemali eyongezelelekileyo kwiSebe lezoBulungisa. Nangona kunjalo, akukho mithetho yongezelelweyo okanye igunya eliza kunye ne-Operation Lady Justice. Lo myalelo uthe cwaka ujongana nokusilela kwesenzo kunye nokubekwa phambili kokusombulula amatyala abandayo kwiLizwe laseIndiya ngaphandle kokuvuma umonakalo omkhulu kunye nonxunguphalo oluthe iintsapho ezininzi zibandezelekile ixesha elide. Kufuneka sijongane nendlela imigaqo-nkqubo yethu kunye nokunqongophala kokubaluleka kwezixhobo kuvumela ukuba kuthule kwaye kucinywe uninzi lwabasetyhini kunye naMantombazana omthonyama abalahlekileyo nababuleweyo.

 

Ngomhla we-10 ku-Okthobha uMthetho we-Savanna kunye noMthetho ongabonakaliyo zatyikitywa zibe ngumthetho. Umthetho we-Savanna uza kudala imigaqo emiselweyo yokuphendula kumatyala abantu bomthonyama baseMelika abalahlekileyo nababuleweyo, ngokubonisana nezizwe, eziya kubandakanya isikhokelo malunga nentsebenziswano phakathi kwezizwe, imbumba, urhulumente kunye nomthetho wendawo. I-Not Invisible Act iya kubonelela ngamathuba kwizizwe ukuba zifune iinzame zokuthintela, izibonelelo kunye neenkqubo ezinxulumene nokulahleka (ithathiwe) nokubulawa kwabantu bomthonyama.

 

Ukusukela namhlanje, uMthetho woBundlobongela obuChasene namaKhosikazi awukapasiswa kwiNdlu yeeNgwevu. UMthetho woBundlobongela obuChasene nabaseTyhini ngumthetho obonelela ngesambuku seenkonzo kunye nokhuseleko kwabasetyhini kunye nabasetyhini abangabhalwanga phantsi. Ngumthetho owasivumela ukuba sikholwe kwaye sicinge into eyahlukileyo kuluntu lwethu oluntyumpantyumpeka kubundlobongela. 

 

Ukucwangcisa la matyala kunye nemithetho kunye nemiyalelo yesigqeba ngumsebenzi obalulekileyo onike ukukhanya kwimiba emikhulu, kodwa ndipaka kufuphi nendawo yokuphuma yeigaraji ezigqunyiweyo kunye nezinyuko. Ndisenexhala lamantombazana am ahamba yedwa ukuya edolophini. Xa kucelomngeni ubudoda obunetyhefu kunye nemvume kwindawo endihlala kuyo kwathatha incoko kunye noMqeqeshi weBhola weSikolo samaBanga aPhakamileyo ukuba avume ukuvumela iqela lakhe lebhola ekhatywayo ukuba lithathe inxaxheba kwiinzame zethu zokudala incoko kuluntu lwethu malunga nefuthe lobundlobongela. Izizwe zezizwe zingaphumelela xa zinikwe ithuba namandla ngendlela ezizibona ngayo. Emveni kwakho konke, siselapha. 

Malunga neTohono engabonakaliyo

I-Indivisible Tohono ngumbutho woluntu ophantsi obonelela ngamathuba okubandakanyeka koluntu kunye nemfundo ngaphaya kokuvota kumalungu eSizwe saseTohono O'odham.

Indlela ebalulekileyo yoKhuseleko noBulungisa

NgaMadoda Ayeka Ubundlobongela

I-Emerge Centre Against Domestic Abuse yobunkokeli ekugxininiseni amava amanina aMnyama ngeNyanga yoKwazisa ngoBundlobongela baseKhaya iyasikhuthaza kuMadoda aNqanda ubuNdlobongela.

Cecelia Jordan's Ubulungisa buqala apho uBundlobongela ngakubafazi abaMnyama buphela -impendulo kuCaroline Randall Williams' Umzimba wam lilitye lesikhumbuzo leNdibaniselwano -Inika indawo entle yokuqala.

Kwiminyaka eyi-38, amadoda ayeka ubundlobongela asebenze ngokuthe ngqo namadoda e-Atlanta, eGeorgia nakwilizwe lonke ukuphelisa ubundlobongela obujoliswe kwabasetyhini. Amava ethu asifundise ukuba akukho ndlela eya phambili ngaphandle kokuphulaphula, ukuthetha inyaniso kunye nokuphendula.

KwiNkqubo yethu yoNgenelelo lwe-Batterer (BIP) sifuna ukuba amadoda achaze ngeenkcukacha ezithe ngqo iindlela zokulawula kunye nempatho gadalala ayisebenzisileyo kunye neziphumo zokuziphatha kumaqabane, abantwana kunye noluntu. Asiyenzeli into yokuhlazisa amadoda. Endaweni yoko, sicela amadoda ukuba azijonge ngokungagungqiyo ukuze afunde iindlela ezintsha zokuba sehlabathini nokudala iindawo zokuhlala ezikhuselekileyo kumntu wonke. Sifunde ukuba – emadodeni – uxanduva notshintsho ekugqibeleni lukhokelela kubomi obanelisayo. Njengoko sithetha eklasini, awunakuyitshintsha ude uyinike igama.

Kwakhona sibeka phambili ukuphulaphula kwiiklasi zethu. Amadoda afunda ukuva amazwi abasetyhini ngokucamngca kumanqaku afana neentsimbi zentsimbi ' Intando Yokutshintsha kunye neevidiyo ezifana no-Aisha Simmons ' HAYI! Uxwebhu lodlwengulo. Amadoda aziqhelanisa nokuphulaphula ngaphandle kokuphendula njengoko enika ingxelo omnye komnye. Asifuni ukuba amadoda avumelane noko kuthethwayo. Kunoko, amadoda afunda ukuphulaphula ukuze aqonde oko omnye umntu akutshoyo nokubonakalisa intlonelo.

Ngaphandle kokuphulaphula, siya kukwazi njani ukuyiqonda ngokupheleleyo imiphumo yezenzo zethu kwabanye? Sinokuyifunda njani indlela yokuqhuba ngeendlela ezibeka phambili ukhuseleko, ubulungisa nokuphilisa?

Le migaqo minye yokuphulaphula, ukuthetha inyaniso kunye nokuphendula iyasebenza kuluntu nakwinqanaba loluntu. Basebenza ekupheliseni ubuhlanga obucwangcisiweyo kunye nokuchasana noBumnyama njengokuba besenza ukuphelisa ubundlobongela basekhaya nobesondo. Imiba iyathungelana.

In Ubulungisa buqala apho uBundlobongela ngakubafazi abaMnyama buphela, uNks. Jordan udibanisa amachaphaza phakathi kobuhlanga kunye nobundlobongela basekhaya nobesondo.

UNksz Jordan ucela umngeni ukuba sichonge kwaye simbe "ii-relics zobukhoboka kunye nekholoni" ezifaka iingcamango zethu, izenzo zemihla ngemihla, ubudlelwane, iintsapho kunye neenkqubo. Ezi nkolelo zobukoloniyali - ezi "zikhumbuzo zembumba" ezigxininisa ukuba abantu abathile banelungelo lokulawula abanye kwaye bathathe imizimba yabo, izixhobo zabo, kwanobomi babo ngokuthanda kwabo - ziyingcambu yobundlobongela obujoliswe kwabasetyhini, ukongama kwabamhlophe kunye nokuchasa ubumnyama. 

Uhlalutyo lukaNksz Jordan luhambelana neminyaka engama-38 yamava esebenza namadoda. Kumagumbi ethu okufundela, asifundi ilungelo lokuthobela kubafazi nabantwana. Kwaye, kumagumbi ethu okufundela, abo kuthi bangabamhlophe abangafundanga banelungelo lokuhoywa, ukusebenza, kunye nokuthobela abantu abaNtsundu kunye nabantu bebala. Amadoda kunye nabantu abamhlophe bafunda eli lungelo kuluntu kunye nezithethe zentlalo ezenziwa zingabonakali ngamaziko asebenza ngokunyamekela amadoda amhlophe.

UNks. Jordan ucacisa iziphumo ezibi, zanamhlanje zocalucalulo ngokwesini kumaziko kunye nobuhlanga kubafazi abaMnyama. Unxulumanisa ubukhoboka kunye noloyiko olufunyanwa ngabasetyhini abaMnyama kubudlelwane phakathi kwabantu namhlanje, kwaye ubonisa indlela ukuchasana noBuNtsundu okuzifaka ngayo kwiinkqubo zethu, kuquka nenkqubo yezomthetho yolwaphulo-mthetho, ngeendlela ezijongela phantsi kwaye zibeke emngciphekweni abasetyhini abaNtsundu.

Ezi ziinyaniso ezinzima kuninzi lwethu. Asifuni ukuyikholelwa le nto ithethwa nguNkszn Jordan. Enyanisweni, siqeqeshelwe kwaye sihlala sihlala singamameli amazwi akhe kunye namanye amabhinqa aNtsundu. Kodwa, kuluntu apho ukongama kwabamhlophe kunye nokuchasana noBumnyama kujongela phantsi amazwi amabhinqa aNtsundu, kufuneka simamele. Ekumameleni, sijonge ukufunda indlela eya phambili.

Njengoko uNksz Jordan ebhala, “Siza kukwazi ukuba ubulungisa bukhangeleka njani xa sisazi ukuba sibathanda njani abantu abaMnyama, ngakumbi abafazi abaNtsundu…Khawube nomfanekiso-ngqondweni wehlabathi apho amabhinqa aMnyama aphilisayo aze enze iinkqubo zokwenene zenkxaso noxanduva lokuphendula. Khawube nomfanekiso-ngqondweni wamaziko enziwe ngabantu abathembisa ukuba ngabaququzeleli ekulweni inkululeko yabaMnyama nobulungisa, kwaye bazibophelele ekuqondeni isiseko esinesiseko sezopolitiko zokutyala. Khawufane ucinge, okokuqala embalini, simenywa ukuba sigqibezele uKwakha kwakhona. ”

Njengakwiiklasi zethu ze-BIP kunye namadoda, ukubala ngembali yelizwe lethu yokwenzakala kwabasetyhini abaMnyama sisandulela sokutshintsha. Ukumamela, ukuthetha inyaniso kunye nokuphendula zizinto ezifunekayo zobulungisa kunye nokuphilisa, okokuqala kwabo benzakele kakhulu kwaye, ekugqibeleni, kuthi sonke.

Asinakuyitshintsha de sibe siyiqambe igama.

Inkcubeko yodlwengulo kunye nokuphathwa gadalala emaKhaya

Isiqwenga esibhalwe ngu Boys to Men

              Nangona kukho iingxoxo ezininzi malunga nezikhumbuzo zexesha lemfazwe yamakhaya, imbongi yaseNashville uCaroline Williams kutshanje uye wasikhumbuza ngendima edla ngokungasiwa so kulo mba: udlwengulo, nenkcubeko yokudlwengula. Kwi-OpEd enesihloko esithi, "Ngaba uyafuna iSikhumbuzo soMdibaniso? Umzimba wam lilitye lesikhumbuzo leNdibaniselwano,” ucinga ngembali emva komthunzi wesikhumba sakhe esimdaka ngokukhanyayo. "Ngokubhekiselele kwimbali yosapho, kwaye njengoko uvavanyo lweDNA lwanamhlanje luye lwandivumela ukuba ndiqinisekise, ndiyinzala yabasetyhini abamnyama ababengabasebenzi basekhaya kunye namadoda amhlophe adlwengula uncedo lwabo." Umzimba wakhe kunye nokubhala kusebenza kunye njengokujongana neziphumo zokwenyani zemiyalelo yentlalontle ethi i-US ixabise ngokwesiko, ngakumbi xa kufikwa kwiindima zesini. Ngaphandle kobuninzi bedatha evelayo edibanisa intlalo yesini yamakhwenkwe kuluhlu lweengxaki zempilo yoluntu kunye nobundlobongela, namhlanje, kulo lonke elaseMelika, amakhwenkwe ahlala ekhuliswa ngokwegunya lesikolo saseMelika: "indoda phezulu."

               Ukuvezwa kukaWilliams kwangethuba nangexesha elisemngciphekweni kwimbali yosapho lwakhe kusikhumbuza ukuba ukuthotyelwa ngokwesini kunye nobuhlanga bezisoloko zihamba kunye. Ukuba sifuna ukujongana nayo nayiphi na into, kufuneka sijongane nayo yomibini. Inxalenye yokwenza oko kukuqonda ukuba kukho kakhulu iqhelekile izinto kunye nezenzo ezichitha ubomi bethu bemihla ngemihla namhlanje eMelika eziqhubeka nokuxhasa inkcubeko yodlwengulo. Oku akukho malunga nemifanekiso eqingqiweyo, uWilliams uyasikhumbuza, kodwa malunga nendlela esifuna ukunxulumana ngayo ngokuhlangeneyo kwiinkqubo zembali zolawulo ezithethelela kwaye ziqhele ubundlobongela obuphathelele kwezesondo.

               Ngokomzekelo, khawuthabathe umdlalo ohlekisayo wothando, apho inkwenkwe eyaliwe yenza umgudu wobugorha ukuze izuze uthando lwentombazana engenamdla kuyo—esoyisa inkcaso yayo ekugqibeleni ngesenzo sothando esibalaseleyo. Okanye iindlela amakhwenkwe aphakanyiswa ngayo ngenxa yokulala ngesondo, nokuba yintoni na iindleko. Ngokwenene, iimpawu esihlala sizimilisela kumakhwenkwe aselula mihla le, ezinxibelelene neengcamango ekudala kukho “amadoda okwenene,” zisisiseko esingenakuphepheka senkcubeko yodlwengulo.

               Iseti efihlakeleyo, ehlala ingaphononongwa, yemilinganiselo equlethwe kwikhowudi yenkcubeko ethi “umntu phezulu” yinxalenye yendawo apho amadoda aqeqeshelwa ukuqhawuka nokuthoba iimvakalelo, ukuzukisa amandla kunye nokuphumelela, kunye nokubonisana ngenkohlakalo amandla omnye nomnye. ukuphinda le migaqo. Ukutshintsha uvakalelo lwam kumava abanye (kunye nawam) kunye nesigunyaziso sokuphumelela nokufumana okwam yindlela endifunde ngayo ukuba yindoda. Uqheliselo oluqhelekileyo lokulawula lunxulumanisa ibali likaWilliams nezithethe ezikhoyo namhlanje xa inkwenkwana eneminyaka emi-3 ubudala ithotywa isidima ngumntu omdala emthandayo ngenxa yokulila xa esiva intlungu, uloyiko, okanye uvelwano: “Amakhwenkwe akalili. ” (amakhwenkwe ayazilahla iimvakalelo).

              Nangona kunjalo, intshukumo yokuphelisa ukuzukiswa kokulawula iyakhula, nayo. ETucson, kwiveki enikiweyo, kuzo zonke izikolo ezikwingingqi ezili-17 nakwiZiko lokuGcinwa kwaBantwana, malunga nama-60 aqeqeshiweyo, amadoda amadala asuka kwiindawo ngeendawo ahlala phantsi ukuze athathe inxaxheba kwisangqa sokuncokola namakhwenkwe akwishumi elivisayo amalunga nama-200 njengenxalenye yomsebenzi wamakhwenkwe Amadoda Tucson. Kuninzi lwaba bafana, le kuphela kwendawo ebomini babo apho kukhuselekile ukuphoxeka, ukuthetha inyaniso ngendlela abaziva ngayo, nokucela inkxaso. Kodwa ezi ntlobo zamanyathelo kufuneka zifumane amandla angakumbi kuzo zonke iindawo zoluntu lwethu ukuba siza kuthatha indawo yesiko lodlwengulo ngenkcubeko yemvume ekhuthaza ukhuseleko nobulungisa kumntu wonke. Sifuna uncedo lwakho ekwandiseni lo msebenzi.

            Ngo-Okthobha wama-25, 26, kunye nama-28, i-Boys to Men Tucson ibambisene ne-Emerge, iYunivesithi yase-Arizona kunye nemanyano yamaqela asekuhlaleni azinikeleyo ukubamba iqonga elibalulekileyo elijolise ekuququzeleleni uluntu lwethu ukudala iindlela ezingcono kakhulu ezingcono kumakhwenkwe akwishumi elivisayo kunye namadoda- ulutsha oluchongiweyo. Lo msitho wokusebenzisana uya kuntywila nzulu kwimikhosi eyakha ubudoda kunye nentlalontle yeemvakalelo kubantu abatsha baseTucson. Le yindawo ephambili apho ilizwi lakho kunye nenkxaso yakho inokusinceda senze umehluko omkhulu kuhlobo lwenkcubeko ekhoyo kwisizukulwana esilandelayo xa kuziwa kwisini, ukulingana kunye nobulungisa. Siyakumema ukuba uhlanganyele nathi kweli nyathelo lisebenzayo elibhekiselele ekukhuliseni uluntu apho ukhuseleko kunye nobulungisa buyinto eqhelekileyo, endaweni yokukhetha. Ukufumana ulwazi oluthe vetshe ngeqonga, okanye ukubhalisa ukubakho, nceda undwendwele www.btmtucson.com/masculinityforum2020.

              Lo ngumzekelo nje omnye wentshukumo enkulu yokuhlakulela ukuxhathisa kothando kwiinkqubo eziqhelekileyo zenkcubeko yolawulo. U-Angela Davis onguMtshabalalisi ubonakalise olu tshintsho ngcono xa wayeguqula umthandazo ozolileyo entloko, esithi, “Andisazamkeli izinto endingenako ukuzitshintsha. Nditshintsha izinto endingenakuzamkela.” Njengoko sicinga ngefuthe lobundlobongela basekhaya nobesondo kuluntu lwethu kule nyanga, yanga sonke singaba nesibindi kunye nokuzimisela ukulandela isikhokelo sakhe.

Malunga namakhwenkwe ukuya emadodeni

UMBONO

Umbono wethu kukuqinisa uluntu ngokubiza amadoda ukuba anyuse izinga lokufundisa amakhwenkwe afikisayo kuhambo lwawo olusingise ebudodeni obusempilweni.

MISSION

Injongo yethu kukugaya, ukuqeqesha, kunye nokuxhobisa uluntu lwamadoda ukuba afundise amakhwenkwe afikisayo ngokusebenzisa izangqa ezikwisiza, uhambo lokuhamba, kunye namasiko angoku okudlula.

Ingxelo yempendulo evela kuTony Porter, i-CEO, i-Call to Men

KwiCecelia Jordan's Ubulungisa buqala apho uBundlobongela ngakubafazi abaMnyama buphela, unika le nyaniso inamandla:

"Ukhuseleko bubunewunewu obungafikelelekiyo kulusu oluMnyama."

Andizange ebomini bam ndizive ukuba la mazwi ayinyaniso ngakumbi. Sisentlungwini yokulwela umphefumlo weli lizwe. Sibambekile kutsalo loluntu olujongene nezona demon zalo zimnyama kunye neminqweno yalo ephezulu. Kwaye ilifa lobundlobongela obujoliswe kubantu bam - abantu abaNtsundu, ngakumbi abafazi abaNtsundu - lisenze saphelelwa lithemba kule nto siyibonayo nesijongene nayo namhlanje. Sindindisholo. Kodwa asikulahli ubuntu bethu.

Xa ndaseka ubizo oluya emadodeni phantse kwiminyaka engama-20 eyadlulayo, ndaba nombono wokujongana nengcinezelo ephakathi kwamacandelo ezingcanjini zayo. Ukuphelisa ucalucalulo ngokwesini kunye nobuhlanga. Ukujonga kwabo bakwimida yemida ukuba bachaze amava abo aphilayo kunye nokuchaza izisombululo eziya kusebenza ngempumelelo ebomini babo. Kangangamashumi eminyaka, uMbizo oluya kuMadoda uhlanganise amakhulu amawaka abantu abachonge amadoda abanqwenela ukuba ngamahlakani kwabasetyhini kunye namantombazana. Sibabizele kulo msebenzi, ngelixa sibabambe baphendule, kwaye sibafundise kwaye sibaxhobise ukuba bathethe ngokuphandle kwaye bathathe amanyathelo okuthintela ubundlobongela obusekelwe kwisini kunye nocalulo. Kwaye sinokwenza okufanayo nakwabo bafuna ukuba ngamaqabane abantu abaNtsundu nabanye abantu bebala. Uyabona, awunakuchasa ngokwesini ngaphandle kokuchasa ubuhlanga.

UJordan uphelise impendulo yakhe ngolu bizo lwesenzo: “Lonke intsebenziswano nomntu wasetyhini oNtsundu izisa ithuba lokujongana nobundlobongela basekhaya nobukhoboka, nokucamagushela ukonakaliswa kwenkqubo, okanye ukhetho lokuqhubeka nokulandela izithethe ezinobundlobongela ekuhlaleni.

Ndiziva ndinelunda kukusebenza kunye nombutho ofana no-Emerge okulungeleyo ukwamnkela ubuntu babo bacinezelweyo, ingakumbi amabhinqa aMnyama. Ukuvuma ukuphuma phambili kunye nokuxhasa amabali kunye namava abo ngaphandle kokuhlanjululwa okanye ukuhlela ukuzithuthuzela. Ukubonelela ngobunkokeli kukubonelela ngeenkonzo zoluntu ngokubanzi, ukuvuma ngokungaxolisi, kunye nokufuna izisombululo zokwenene zokuphelisa ingcinezelo yabasetyhini abaMnyama ekunikezelweni kweenkonzo.

Indima yam, njengomntu oNtsundu nanjengenkokeli yobulungisa kwezentlalo, kukusebenzisa iqonga lam ukuphakamisa le miba. Ukuphakamisa amazwi abafazi abaMnyama kunye nabanye abajongene neendlela ezininzi zengcinezelo yeqela. Ukuthetha inyaniso yam. Ukwabelana ngamava am okuphila-nangona inokuba buhlungu kwaye inceda ikakhulu ukuqhubela phambili ukuqonda kwabantu abaMhlophe. Sekunjalo, ndizimisele ukusebenzisa impembelelo endinayo ukuze ndisukele ihlabathi elinobulungisa nelinobulungisa.

Ndenza umnxeba weJordan kwaye ndizama ukuhlangabezana nentsebenziswano nganye ngenjongo eyifaneleyo. Ndiyakubongoza ukuba undimanye nam ekwenzeni okufanayo. Singakwazi ukudala ihlabathi apho onke amadoda namakhwenkwe anothando kwaye ahloniphayo kwaye bonke abafazi, amantombazana, kunye nabo basemdeni wemida baxabiswa kwaye bakhuselekile.

Malunga nobizo oluya emadodeni

I-Call to Men, isebenza ukubandakanya amadoda ekuthabatheni inyathelo ngokuchasene nokuphathwa gadalala kwasekhaya ngokukhula komntu, uxanduva kunye nothethathethwano noluntu. Ukususela ngo-2015 siye sanebhongo ngokusebenzisana noTony Porter, i-CEO ye-Call to Men emsebenzini wethu ukuba sibe ngumbutho ochasayo, umbutho weenkcubeko ezininzi. Siyabulela kuTony kunye nabasebenzi abaninzi kwi-Call to Men abaye banikezela ngenkxaso, isikhokelo, intsebenziswano kunye nothando kwintlangano yethu kunye noluntu lwethu kule minyaka.